An acquaintance told me, and this was the only one wise thing he said, "Would you rather be happy, or would you rather be right?"
0.1 seconds later I blurted out "why do they have to be mutually exclusive?" he was on drugs and mumbled something. I think he was trying to say that they don't "always" overlap or whatever.
I'd rather be right. If we live in a world of happy people who make each other happy through white lies (THERE IS NO SUCH THING all lies are bad), then we create an inauthentic society where you begin to know everyone is or may be bullshitting you. So you may begin to pre-emptively bullshit them to get the out-come you want. You don't want to live in a world full of sociopath chronic liars who do nothing but manipulate others: trust me. It is SO much better to just be honest, even in a harsh way, because lying is worse.
If you think I'm the scum of the earth, or stupid, or whatever, you can tell me. I'll appreciate your honesty. I don't want someone to suck up to me and then speak shit to me behind my back. Just tell ME. Like I hate when people go "it's not you it's me" and they're just lying to you. I AM TRYING TO SELF-IMPROVE FOR THE NEXT TIME I ENCOUNTER A HUMAN BEING JUST TELL ME WHAT IS WRONG. LOL!!!!!
Like basically honesty makes a better world, and lies can only make a worse world. Immanuel Kant came up with the negative responsibility concept where if a Nazi knocks on your door, and you're hiding Jews, you should be honest. NOT because Kant hated Jews but because YOU ARE NOT ULTIMATELY RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO. The Nazis dragging the Jews and gassing them THAT is evil. You telling the truth, in itself, was THE RIGHT thing. However he then went on to say if you suspect something that terrible will happen go with your conscience (I interpreted this as it's OK to tell the cops there's no drugs in your car

) but for the most part I never lie. Ever. I'll keep things to myself, socially withdrawal, but who wants to be an inauthentic person? I dunno.
You seem like a really honest person too man so I wanted to share that w/ you too.