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The singles thread v 'Your VD really scares me'

She Lost Out, Dude.

Dear Capt'n G,

That is fuck'd up as.

Why anyone would wanna fuck you over is beyond me.

Anyway,
thoughts with you,
bro.

PEACE
UnS
:\
 
Grand

An' thank you Miss Shay.

I keep sayin' this,
but
LUCK
will have nuthin' to do with it.

You
&
Bust
seem
to be makin'
it outta
skill,
so
"get me"...?

LOVE
UnS
<3:)
 
mr UnS:

I don't know Ms Z at all, but you're way cool, so hope it goes as well as my BL rel

:)
 
^ I dont know you either. All I recall is you being on my friends list on live journal some years ago.

I was not sure about the reaction to this would be. I do understand the concerns that some might have. But they are from people who do care so are not as saddening as I thought.

To COTB:Thankyou. Nothing made me smile more when I was told of
the happiness you and Busty especially after being so sad. Sometimes other people finding love makes other peoples lives brighter too and your smile as well as pop and Samadhi did that to me. Like a puzzle falling into place.

I dont know any of you anymore but wish you all the best. Ben is someone I cherish. We have been happier than ever before. He will be loved and content. And I will be too.


<3
 
I have this rule I fantasize that I would like to stick with if possible. It involves trying to think with my head and not with my nuts and consider the consequences. If its not going to be anything special, just don't even go there. Its hard sometimes :\

Sexual relationships are a pretty serious thing to be fucking around with, and small town syndrome is the death of some people who dick without thinking.


I'll wait, eventually there will be someone its 100% right to be with.. I hope :)
 
Re:Treat

^
Klue y'ur a catch,
you'll be hook'd, lin'd & sunk when it's time, bro.
An' yeah,
I got that glass out...%)

joannie_mhm said:
mr UnS:

I don't know Ms Z at all, but you're way cool, so hope it goes as well as my BL rel

:)
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Merci Miss Jo.
I really appreciate that.
It is.
It will.

As Sam Elliot said
to
THE DUDE,
'Sometimes you eat the the bar,
&
sometimes the bar eats you.'

Think the bar will be e'ten.
Times change.
Peep's change.
Peep's are not always as they seem.

PEACE
UnS
:)
 
Last night I remembered what it was about being single that I hated so much. Having to get out there and pick up in order to get laid! Thankfully my social networks have greatly expanded in the last few months so the next few will be interesting I'm sure.

The ex didn't end up coming to the club with me because she's stuck in Melbourne with no money. I keep telling myself she's getting her just desserts. This might just be me rationalising the whole cheating thing but if I wasn't at Rainbow I probably wouldn't have cared that she hooked up with someone else. I'm not mad at her anymore. I stopped being mad when I returned her stuff halfway through the festival. I barely feel bad about it at all, though I try not to think about what I saw too much otherwise my blood begins to boil.

On the other hand, I'm definitely freshly back on the market. I met a few pretty girls last night and got a few numbers. I'll give them a call tonight or tomorrow. The ex said she might be in town over the next week and that we could still date casually, and though I have no objections I really don't care what's going to happen. It seems about two thirds of the people I've told think I should just kick her to the curb, while the remaining third think we should remain friends - and that third consists of most of my friends who have met her including my grandmother! It seems to be turning out ok so far and I'm just going to roll with it.
 
So the girlie I liked has reappeared, having intentionally OD'd, is in care, and wants a friend. Hrmmm.

I just know, for sure, that this is all going to end badly. I'm trying to be rational. Work wise, its about to be a very, very hectic three months. Yet for some reason, I cannot force myself to turn away.
 
gher said:
The ex said she might be in town over the next week and that we could still date casually, and though I have no objections I really don't care what's going to happen. It seems about two thirds of the people I've told think I should just kick her to the curb, while the remaining third think we should remain friends - and that third consists of most of my friends who have met her including my grandmother! It seems to be turning out ok so far and I'm just going to roll with it.
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What she did was a betrayal of your trust. You just dont keep people like that near you, as a friend or even as a casual fuck.
 
I realised over the weekend that I feel absolutely no emotion for the ex. I don't love her or hate her. I'm not sure if I'm still attracted - probably not. To me this is worse than hatred and so out of character, although on the plus side I've been able to focus on my various hobbies more with no woman to distract me.

In other news, my brother is having major girl problems of his own. They and their kid just came back from a week long fishing trip, only she doesn't fish. A day later, she took the kid and left. I am so glad I am not him.

I'm starting to see the bright side of being single.
 
zephyr said:
Being young and single and having unserious flings is fun !
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Fuckin WORD, sista.

I have come to the conclusion that the only time my life ever falls apart is when the possibility of a relationship rears its head....when I am il solo mio and just going about my life enjoying it, life is sweet. It's only when there's another guy in the picture that everything is second-guessed and all the insecurity comes out and omg I'm not good enough and blah blah blah blah fucking blah.

I think some people are just not built for being in a relationship. Some people are. I am definitely in the first group, and the only reason it's ever an issue is because it's such a normal expectation in society to hook up with someone. I went to see a counsellor late last year to talk about this shit, because I wanted her to help me get back to a place where I'm strong on my own, and her answer was that I should just keep looking till I find someone.

Fuck that noise.

Why is it just EXPECTED that I should spend years of my life making myself fucking miserable in the process going through guy after guy after guy looking for The One, when I could actually be spending that time NOT obsessing about it and just enjoying my life and exploring it in a way that you don't get to do when you're tied down to someone else, and taking advantage of the benefits of being a single person? I'm not saying that relationships are bad per se; we all know people who have been together for years and are happy and such, all I'm saying is that it's not the ONLY option, and it pisses me off that our culture doesn't support people choosing to be alone rather than be in a shitty relationship just for the sake of not being alone. Being alone is not a bad thing.

[/rant] :p;)%)
 
^In saying that though, would you not agree that there may be that *someone* out there who doesn't make you feel insecure about yourself and who actually makes you feel fantastic. It's not a matter of looking and searching for this someone, but if you happened to find them, would you embrace it or shun them away?

I completely agree with the ridiculousness of being expected to find a "soul mate", but if i do indeed find that person, then great. But as you said, im not going to do my head in trying to find them.

Just a thought.
 
^Judging from that one line answer, I think that was the point the counsellor was trying to make. Then again, she couldn't be a very good counsellor if she's actually giving answers. They're supposed to help you find them yourself.
 
Puts A Smile On M'ay Face...

gher said:
I realised over the weekend
that I feel
absolutely no emotion for the ex.
I don't love her
or
hate her.
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Strange,
hey,
but can happen,
true.

I'm starting to see the bright side of being single.
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Fuckin' good to hear.
You've always seem so straight-up,
it would be fuck'd fo' someone to take you down
like that,
fo' any UnReasonable amount of time.

PEACE BRO
UnS
:)
 
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Massive_ said:
^In saying that though, would you not agree that there may be that *someone* out there who doesn't make you feel insecure about yourself and who actually makes you feel fantastic. It's not a matter of looking and searching for this someone, but if you happened to find them, would you embrace it or shun them away?

I completely agree with the ridiculousness of being expected to find a "soul mate", but if i do indeed find that person, then great. But as you said, im not going to do my head in trying to find them.

Just a thought.
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I just don't see the point in it. Best case scenario, I find the perfect someone, they're gonna leave at some point anyway, that's just what people do. Whether we break up or he carks it, at some point I'm gonna be forced to rely on myself again, so I just think it makes sense to cut out the middle man.

For me personally, the benefits of having someone there for a short period of time are not worth the disadvantages that come with them. My emotional needs are filled by my friends, who I love heaps, and I can get sex from any random anywhere anytime, it's the one advantage of being gay. ;)

I can deal with losing friends only because I keep them at a safe enough distance to begin with, but you can't do that with a partner because you end up relying on their presence whether you like it or not. And I'm not saying my choice should be everyone's choice, maybe it's just that I'm not strong enough to deal with the fallout and other people are....whatever, that's not important. The important thing is I think that consciously being single is just as valid a lifestyle choice as consciously choosing to be in a relationship, and it shits me that that's perceived as 'wrong', when my entire life follows a pattern of only ever working when I embrace being single and independent.
 
I still miss my ex, I still think about her from time to time. But I know its not going to happen anytime soon if at all.

I've tried to move on, and yeah I've snogged a few chics, but when it's been time to go in for the kill, I've found an excuse to leave. I wish I didn't have that feeling. I would have been laid a number of times by now.. damn you!
 
^That happened to me the day after my breakup. Still at Rainbow, I met a chick from Perth. Hung out with her, made out for a bit but felt guilty about going further. I have no regrets about missing that one though. I was on mushrooms at the time, which combined with the guilt would have made for a terrible experience.

Only a couple of days ago I felt the desire for sex for the first time since the breakup. I guess I'm making progress. I think I'm ready to be friends with the ex now and I want nothing more from her. I'm feeling lonely again too. It got the better of me just now. I tried to call her and tell her all that, but I think she's seeing someone (possibly the guy she cheated on me with) and is with him now so she hung up on me.

Now I have an awful sinking feeling. I'm trying not to think about it. I have enough problems accidentally thinking about what I could have done when I caught them.
 
Sounds UnFair

^
Certainly not tryna tell you
how to live yo' life, bro...
...but she fuck'd you over...
...an' she still seems to be doin' it...
...IMVVVHO maybe avoid the friendship thang fo' awhile,
as she will still be,
well,
fo' lack of a better expression,
"gettin' her cake an' eatin' it too"...

(relieved guilt on her part; still gettin support from some she's been close too...)

Plus the las' bit of your post shows you still care,
so it might cause you to back-peddle emotionally,
maybe without realizin'.

PEACE
UnPatronizing
:\<3
 
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