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Hope things get better for you. How long were you together for?
I think people in long term relationships then suddenly single are a lot harder off than those who have short relationships- because as a couple you make friends with other couples and become friends with each other's existing friendship circles. When a split happens in a friendship crew of a long term couple, everyone loses out...the split up couple lose friends they thought were theirs all along but friends loyal to the other half of the couple are gone. Couples who are equal friends with the couple who split might bail out altogether...
My heart goes out to anyone who finds themselves single especially if it involves a divorce. There is nothing more painful (except losing a child or family/friend through death).
The enormous amount of upheaval after ending a relationship that had so much history and mutual friends was really too much for me, I thought I was ok, I was definately not.
Even now, much much later and with my gorgeous boyfriend and family all on my side, I do struggle with a lot of regret, memories and things I SHOULD have done better.
This is totally different to being young, single and happy that way.
Having had a few things go awry relationship wise, mainly through drug use of myself and whom I am with, you learn eventually what to not do if you want a relationship to work. Also applies to being happily single, you know... happiness lies in having a healthy relationship with yourself first, then having happiness with others.
Pretty simple, took me x amount of years to learn it tho.
