unattractive if girl has had more sex partners than you?

[archie]

Sex is a wonderful experience that we should all respect.

I agree with you there.

Even more now it seems that your view of males and females is fundamentally based on an unequal footing. How religous of you.

Men and women aren't equal, it is import to realise that. I don't think one is better than the other.

Oh yeah, everything was PERFECT in 1950, no unwanted pregnancies there!

I think you'll find there were less, and I wasn't alive in the 1950's so I have no idea if things were better or worse back then.

Wow! Better not do any drugs then either - just pointless life experiences!

Nice straw man argument. This thread isn't about drugs.

So I guess you never went down on your wife then eh?

I do a lot, actually. What does that have to do with anything?

8( I have a fucking family you idiot.

*shrug* how mature of you, I haven't said you're a slut, so how about you cut down on the name calling, eh?

and that she will have more than 5 partners in her life.

Why?

 

[Beatlebot]

It's no big deal anyway. Guys who have prejudices like this are the ones who are ultimately missing out.

 

[archie]

I've been following this thread and they were my senitments exactly.

=)

out of curiosity, where do you think that would put me, size wise?

 

[archie]

It's no big deal anyway. Guys who have prejudices like this are the ones who are ultimately missing out.

I wouldn't say so, I think by sharing that side of myself with only one long term partner (and vice versa) I'm experiencing something that you will never come near

 

[fairnymph]

Variety is the spice of life!

 

[fairnymph]

Lots of people are in long term serious monagamous relationships after having played the field when they were younger -- thus they get the best of both worlds, while it is YOU that misses out.

 

[archie]

so you're saying I sacrifice a current long term relationship that will probably end in marriage, so that I can play the field - and destroy any future with the girl I'm seeing at the moment?

 

[swifty]

out of curiosity, where do you think that would put me, size wise?

obviously insecure enough to ask. but I don't care either way, I was just expressing my agreement with Johnny1's comment

 

[fairnymph]

so you're saying I sacrifice a current long term relationship that will probably end in marriage, so that I can play the field - and destroy any future with the girl I'm seeing at the moment?

No, I'm saying that if you had played the field before you got married, you would probably more satisfied and appreciative of your current marriage.

 

[Beatlebot]

^ I agree. Right now I'm in a serious monogamous relationship and I'm happy with that. Because I've had experience and been in relationships before, I know the one I'm in now suits me. I'll never have to worry that I'm missing out.

 

[archie]

Swifty : I can assure you, any insecurities I have don't stem from size.

Fairynymph: I'm not married as yet, and I've had a few other partners.

 

[fairnymph]

Then you'll probably be ok, depending on your personality. And substitute 'settled down' for 'got married'.

Some people will get very antsy if they haven't played the field alot before settling down; for others this is less of a problem.

 

[swifty]

Swifty : I can assure you, any insecurities I have don't stem from size.

Who are you really trying to assure?? Like I told you I don't care & I was just agreeing with Johnny1 and your reaction is somewhat adding substance to his theory...

 

[fairnymph]

Btw, you mispelled my name, only on Y archie!

 

[archie]

Who are you really trying to assure?? Like I told you I don't care & I was just agreeing with Johnny1 and your reaction is somewhat adding substance to his theory...

Not really, I was just heading off that post before it turned into some big penis size debate. If I really wanted to prove my point I'd post dimensions, but I don't think that would add anything to this thread.

 

[swifty]

well my comment was aimed at no-one and you took it as directed at you. anyway who cares.

 

[Dino_as]

^^^
That's unfortunate that you had that experience, but it's foolish to generalize based on that. Using someone is not related to liking sex; it's a separate and ugly personality trait. Don't confuse the two.

Bugger! Did I really type that? Ah f*ck..

yeah I was a confused young man back then. But.. the past is past.. it's all about letting go and moving forward..

I s'pose I don't hold anything against someone who likes sex. That's pointless bigotry. Anyway, I digress.

 

[lifeisforliving]

I agree with you there.



Men and women aren't equal, it is import to realise that. I don't think one is better than the other.

Equal in rights. Equal in bed. Equal in sexuality. Yes - they are equal to a liberal person's mind.

Just because there are genetic/environmental differences betweent the sexes doesn't justify the argument that women can't have more than a few sexual partners!

I think you'll find there were less, and I wasn't alive in the 1950's so I have no idea if things were better or worse back then.

Less that people would ADMIT to, sure.

Nice straw man argument. This thread isn't about drugs.

You are right, but YOU are the one stating that the sex I speak of is "pointless".

I do a lot, actually. What does that have to do with anything?

Because you state that "penetration" is somehow negative and a major difference between "clean cocks" and "dirty" vaginas. Men who have sex go down on the women (hopefully anyways, I'm sure the ladies here will agree) - and going down on a women is pretty much as "dirty" as anything else.

*shrug* how mature of you, I haven't said you're a slut, so how about you cut down on the name calling, eh?

Because you stated:
I'm not thinking of just some heat of the moment fun (as you are), I'm thinking long term. I'm thinking in terms of rasing a family. That makes it quite a different ball game.

You were being an ass for ASSuming that sex with any other partner than your wife is "in the heat of the moment".

and that she will have more than 5 partners in her life.

archie: Why?

Because I would not want her to make a decision such as marriage without having had experience with more than one man. I believe that she would have a better chance at choosing the right man for marriage if she knew what other types of men were like.

Also, I don't see having safe sex in a short-term relationship as a bad/negative/sinful thing.

 

[archie]

Equal in rights. Equal in bed. Equal in sexuality. Yes - they are equal to a liberal person's mind.

They are equal, but have different roles.

Just because there are genetic/environmental differences betweent the sexes doesn't justify the argument that women can't have more than a few sexual partners!

I don't think either sex should be having more than a few!

You were being an ass for ASSuming that sex with any other partner than your wife is "in the heat of the moment".

And you're being a moron P) for thinking that I don't realise all sex is not in the heat of the moment. I should have phrased that better though.

Because I would not want her to make a decision such as marriage without having had experience with more than one man. I believe that she would have a better chance at choosing the right man for marriage if she knew what other types of men were like.

I know what you are saying. I'm not saying she should have only one partner, what I'm saying is that she doesn't need 10 or 20 or more. As you no doubt know, sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship - sexual skill can be learned. I think you're much better off persuing the relationship based on how your personalities work together. If the sex isn't perfect at first it can be worked on. You don't need a vast number of sexual parters to find someone that can give you want in that area.

Also, I don't see having safe sex in a short-term relationship as a bad/negative/sinful thing.

Well... being catholic my hands are somewhat tied there I'm already being enough of a hypocrite for having sex outside of marriage.

 

[Aknum]

8( I have a fucking family you idiot. And I have a daughter, and I hope that my daughter will have good experiences with sex and that she will have more than 5 partners in her life.

What if she had 50? or 150? by the time she was 18? how would you feel then?