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unattractive if girl has had more sex partners than you?

There are quite a few girls saying 'just get over it' as well, but I think more are just offereing further explanations of the topic. That's what lots of people do when they discuss things...they try to figure out more of the why and what do think or do about it, rather than just making a statement ;)
 
Well, speaking for myself... when it's just about insecurity and the poster admits it, then I'll say "just get over it". But saying that it's a "natural instinct" for guys to find girls with high #s unattractive puts the focus back on gender... that basically means it's ok for guys to fuck around but not for girls to... and it's that double standard which gets me all 'riled up'.
 
-PSychiK- said:
Haha.... Men.... i shall never fully understand them. Such confusing creatures.. ;)
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When women learn to block out us checking out a passing hot chick in a mini-skirt, we'll learn to block out your past sexual encounters
=D
 
Uh yeah.. this forum will work great if you try to turn it into us vs them!

And, you only speak for yourself, dude, and you probably shouldn't even do that. :/
 
But saying that it's a "natural instinct" for guys to find girls with high #s unattractive puts the focus back on gender...
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One thing about this as well...the findings that talk about that point out that this may be a REASON people tend to use this strategy, but it doesn't ever say that it's a useful strategy in today's society. Behaviors with an evolutionary origin are based on what worked best for our ancestors, and not necessarily what works best for us today. This also does not mean it's a forced behavior that cannot be overcome or changed. You're not helpless against these thought patterns and it may well be that the people that adapt to different ways of thinking will be the ones whose genes are thus more likely to be passed on in the future.
 
glitterbizkit said:
Well, speaking for myself... when it's just about insecurity and the poster admits it, then I'll say "just get over it". But saying that it's a "natural instinct" for guys to find girls with high #s unattractive puts the focus back on gender... that basically means it's ok for guys to fuck around but not for girls to... and it's that double standard which gets me all 'riled up'.
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Anarcha-feminists neurotoxic and BullitNutz both agree with you.

Also, I think neuro wants to nail you :o :p

Dont tell him I told you, though, lol =D ;) 8)
 
lifeisforliving said:
When women learn to block out us checking out a passing hot chick in a mini-skirt, we'll learn to block out your past sexual encounters
=D
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Interesting... a persons sexual past, and checking out hot chicks.... they still dont measure up dude ;)

Appreciating an attractive person is one thing but full on checking them out in front of you girlfriend is a bit disrespectful in my opinion....but how is a girls sexual past disrespectful? At the time of creating our 'raunchy sexual past' how were we suppose to know you were gonna come along into our lives?

And give us a hard time about it?

All i am saying dude is with your way of thinking you could be passing up a really nice girl.
 
-PSychiK- said:
Interesting... a persons sexual past, and checking out hot chicks.... they still dont measure up dude ;)

Appreciating an attractive person is one thing but full on checking them out in front of you girlfriend is a bit disrespectful in my opinion....but how is a girls sexual past disrespectful? At the time of creating our 'raunchy sexual past' how were we suppose to know you were gonna come along into our lives?

And give us a hard time about it?

All i am saying dude is with your way of thinking you could be passing up a really nice girl.
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It was a freaking joke. hence the: =D

Sheesh. People are serious in here right now. If you read my other posts you would know where I stand on this issue - and you got me dead wrong in your ASSumption.
 
I just did my homework and even stumbled apon this from yourself:


lifeisforliving said:
The only reliable indicator of how a person will behave in the future, in a relationship, is how they behave in the relationship with YOU.

Don't sweat it so much guys, life is for living, not worrying. :)
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I do apologise. It is hard to always pick up on each person's expression over the computer screen.... i will take note of the smilies used in future posts.
 
it would be interesting to see if they women who get really put off by men asking the question "how many people have you slept with before me", are the same ones who've slept with a high numbers of guys.....

this isn't a guy girl thing... i would understand if a girl was put off if a guy had a high number of sex partners in the past, and visa versa.
 
* Gets Crystal Ball out for Diviniation of Fairynymth's # *

* clouds swirel in ball *

* various phallic shapes take shape.. then dissapate *

* the number.... the number... is.... *

> 18!


How close was I?


(you brought it up...... ;))
 
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ROFL!

I think your crystal ball malfunctioned because you spelled my name wrong. :D

The number is actually 13. No doubt it would be much higher if I had not been with my now-husband for over 3 years. ;)
 
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fairnymph ROFL!

I think your crystal ball malfunctioned because you spelled my name wrong.

The number is actually 13. No doubt it would be much higher if I had not been with my now-husband for over 3 years.
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Yeah... marriage does "things" to the sex life.... You know a heart monitor.. and you watch it go "blip" "blip" "blip" regularly? That's me not in a relationship. IN a marriage well.. looks flatline (in terms for NEW sexual encounters! *cough *cough just had to correct that..).

I'll give my number, but it's mostly due to a stint in the entertainment industry coupled with making some good money in a career I had in the Internet gold rush.. but I digress.... and to be brtually honest, I don't know the exact number! umm.. actually, I think that's embarassing in and of itself. Nevermind...:\ nothing to see here... move on move on
 
WOLTERP said:
it would be interesting to see if they women who get really put off by men asking the question "how many people have you slept with before me", are the same ones who've slept with a high numbers of guys.....
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well I don't consider my number to be high (although maybe some would), but I wouldn't be put off by the question unless what the guy was really asking was "how many guys have you slept with and if it's more than the number of girls I've slept with you better lie to me or I'm going to get all insecure and pissy"
 
glitterbizkit said:
Well, speaking for myself... when it's just about insecurity and the poster admits it, then I'll say "just get over it". But saying that it's a "natural instinct" for guys to find girls with high #s unattractive puts the focus back on gender... that basically means it's ok for guys to fuck around but not for girls to... and it's that double standard which gets me all 'riled up'.
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Your rabid feminizm is cute, but unfounded. 8)

Yes, it could be a natural instinct for guys.

Think about it, it's not rocket science
- a man is trying to get as many women pregnant as possible
- a women is trying to get a strong mate to get her pregnant and protect her

Whether you like it or not, the genders are different. No one said it is ok for men to sleep around, but don't whine when someone calls you a slut for doing the same thing, as I mentioned earlier the rules of dating have been turned on their head, and some things (insults) die hard. Black people have turned "nigger" into a positive word, why can't women shut up and do the same with "slut"?

That said, I reckon it shows no respect for your body, contributes to the break down of relationships, and rips apart the whole reason for sex to begin with.

Each to their own.
 
-PSychiK- said:
Interesting... a persons sexual past, and checking out hot chicks.... they still dont measure up dude ;)

Appreciating an attractive person is one thing but full on checking them out in front of you girlfriend is a bit disrespectful in my opinion....but how is a girls sexual past disrespectful? At the time of creating our 'raunchy sexual past' how were we suppose to know you were gonna come along into our lives?
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Yeah, it is such a bad thing to look at a women (it is disrespecting you!), but going and fucking a huge number of men is no reason for someone to disrespect you. 8(

My gf looks at other men, I look at other women. If we're not doing anything with those people, who cares?
 
archie said:
Your rabid feminizm is cute, but unfounded. 8)

Yes, it could be a natural instinct for guys.

Think about it, it's not rocket science
- a man is trying to get as many women pregnant as possible
- a women is trying to get a strong mate to get her pregnant and protect her
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Very correct... but also know that biologically, it's been shown that women prefer "masculine" looking men when they are ovulating, and more "feminine" looking men when they are not ovulating. So, biologically, they fuck the strongest/best looking then go back to their more feminine male because THAT feminine male will be more likely to stick around and care for the child. Sleeping around is bulit into BOTH genders.

Whether you like it or not, the genders are different.
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Yes, just not in the way you want it to be.

No one said it is ok for men to sleep around,
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To me, it has the same amount of importance.

but don't whine when someone calls you a slut for doing the same thing, as I mentioned earlier the rules of dating have been turned on their head, and some things (insults) die hard. Black people have turned "nigger" into a positive word, why can't women shut up and do the same with "slut"?
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Black people may have turned it into a positive word, but I (a white male) better not say nigger! I find similar occurence happens in the gay community though, slut is not seen as a bad word - just meaning the person in question was doing someing sexual and sly.

That said, I reckon it shows no respect for your body, contributes to the break down of relationships, and rips apart the whole reason for sex to begin with.
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The # of sexual partners does not = respect for one's body. That is simply your neanderphallic ;) idea.

And nature has CLEARLY stated in the hardwiring of our brain that ***SEX*** should be used NOT ONLY for procreation but for ***BONDING*** and ***ENJOYMENT***.

Anybody telling you different must be reading from a bible, and not a biology book.
 
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