Love you man. I reached that realization long ago, however... rarely but it to use in the moment, if you follow me. My problem is learning how to think before I act. Not act first and then agonize in remorse afterwards.

Work in progress we all are brother.
We need to live more in the moment. Think in the moment. It's impossible to think about your own desires if you are truly living IN THE MOMENT.
I always hated when my therapists would talk about mindfulness, but, they are 100% right. 100% right....
namaste