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***Singles Thread*** - WE LOVE IT.
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MikecMikec
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doof n trance, i used to be like that with girls, on my part it was lack of confidense that i really liked the person im with. You just gotta stop doubting if you like the person and stop caring what everyopne else thinks about him/her and fully dive in 
idk thats what it was with me, but that I'm in highschool and those relationships are a bit different.
idk thats what it was with me, but that I'm in highschool and those relationships are a bit different.
Doppelganger
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You girls who desire an asshole as a boyfriend are children!
Seriously.
Don't give me any of that "at least you know where you stand with an asshole" crap.
I know what it's like to be with an asshole. I don't doubt for a second that it's any different for anyone else. They leave you feeling empty. EMPTY! And that emptiness craves that it be filled... so you stay with them hoping that they may just fill it for you.
They don't.
That's what it's like to be with an asshole! Stop sugar-coating your insecurities to make it out that you enjoy being treated like a worthless piece of shit. Sure, some days with an asshole may be good [and in comparison to the bad times, they probably seem excellent,] however the majority of the time spent together, you're either fighting or fucking. And with an asshole, both of those things, in the dark and loneliness of the night, manage to leave you feeling like shit.
But yes, it's definitely painfully exciting. Go an asshole!!!
Seriously.
Don't give me any of that "at least you know where you stand with an asshole" crap.
I know what it's like to be with an asshole. I don't doubt for a second that it's any different for anyone else. They leave you feeling empty. EMPTY! And that emptiness craves that it be filled... so you stay with them hoping that they may just fill it for you.
They don't.
That's what it's like to be with an asshole! Stop sugar-coating your insecurities to make it out that you enjoy being treated like a worthless piece of shit. Sure, some days with an asshole may be good [and in comparison to the bad times, they probably seem excellent,] however the majority of the time spent together, you're either fighting or fucking. And with an asshole, both of those things, in the dark and loneliness of the night, manage to leave you feeling like shit.
But yes, it's definitely painfully exciting. Go an asshole!!!
mmmm arseholes.
I left an arsehole boyfriend awhile ago, and now to my personal shock I am seeing mr nice guy. I have to remind myself he is not an arsehole, that he's not up to any manipluative crap, that he does like hanging out with me, dosn't want to crowd me, will not be upset when I see my mates, dosn't think everything is my fault, calls when he says he will and thinks I'm hot naked, clothed, or semi clad. You have no idea the astonishment this brings. So astonishing I forget myself and begin to interpret innocent things as the start of something bad and have to stop in shock when I relise.. no, he's a nice guy.
Its very odd. If I could bottle this type of odd and sell it I'd make a bloody fortune.
I left an arsehole boyfriend awhile ago, and now to my personal shock I am seeing mr nice guy. I have to remind myself he is not an arsehole, that he's not up to any manipluative crap, that he does like hanging out with me, dosn't want to crowd me, will not be upset when I see my mates, dosn't think everything is my fault, calls when he says he will and thinks I'm hot naked, clothed, or semi clad. You have no idea the astonishment this brings. So astonishing I forget myself and begin to interpret innocent things as the start of something bad and have to stop in shock when I relise.. no, he's a nice guy.
Its very odd. If I could bottle this type of odd and sell it I'd make a bloody fortune.
Doppelganger said:
I don’t think its desiring an asshole as such.
I know I for one definitely don’t desire that! Not in a boyfriend anyways.
The best sex ive ever had tho has been with the assholes/players, could just be coincidence but they are usually good at that cos more often than not, that’s all they have to offer.
I think most girls would agree that an asshole usually seems so nice to begin with too. That’s how they get you, the assholeness comes out later.. So you stay with them, hoping itl be how it was again.
I tend to be a bit suss of the nice guy, wondering when their going to turn into an asshole.
Again this is past experiences tho, that ive learnt from & I think my cunt radars getting better I just need to stop getting suckered in
zephyr
Ex-Bluelighter
Question:
Whom amongst us are actually genuinely happy they are single? Not bitter and twisted, looking for revenge against some cunt whos treated them badly, not secretly pining for someone to love them, just actually fucking over the moon about their singledom?
Anyone?
Whom amongst us are actually genuinely happy they are single? Not bitter and twisted, looking for revenge against some cunt whos treated them badly, not secretly pining for someone to love them, just actually fucking over the moon about their singledom?
Anyone?
![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
zephyr
Ex-Bluelighter
MODS: the title of the other thread was more uplifting than this version's....can you change it to something more positive?
Bluelight singles thread: WE LOVE THE COCK!
Bluelight singles thread: WE LOVE THE COCK!
m4dd0g
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Good call. I think to be on the safe side you should have a cry about it though *hopeful smiley*Doppelganger said:
I'd say thats because 'emotionally safe sex' is not exciting sex. Try finding a nice guy who knows the diffence between good and bad gamestrancegirle said:
lol. Its the extra dose of phycho that makes it so excitingzephyr said:You arent allowed to dump me e-boy. Dump all your others, but Im your number 1 ho, got it? Even if you do Ill pretend you didnt and claim you as my own.
Im pretty happy about the single status. Could do with a serious sexing though
zephyr
Ex-Bluelighter
jicky said:
yes! :D Discovery Road cab sav baby :D
m4dd0g said:
ditto. :D
joannie_mhm
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m4dd0g said:
*sigh*
If only you'd said so last Friday night
James is way into you
zephyr
Ex-Bluelighter
Bluelight singles thread: Im sure theres cock around here somewhere...
drEaMtiMe*@#
Bluelighter
i don't care much for assholes, and this is why...
assholes are people who's biggest fear in life is that they'll be hurt if they decide to open up to the world, so they choose not to do so.
essentially it's purely a defence mechanism - hurt in order to avoid getting hurt .
therefore i believe that it's actually a lot easier to be an asshole than it is to be nice. especially when you consider the epidemic proportions of cunty people there are in the world, there seems to be almost no other way to be than to be a cunt; if not only to protect yourself from the cunts.
however, whenever there are those philosophical questions put forth such as, 'what does it mean to be human?' it always comes back to our ability to feel, to have emotions, and the (now day controversial) existence of a soul.
growth can only occur once you let yourself feel and once you have the courage to let yourself take risks. and life is about learning things and hopefully growing.
i think it's not weakness to feel. it’s a weakness to not.
so there you go.
assholes are people who's biggest fear in life is that they'll be hurt if they decide to open up to the world, so they choose not to do so.
essentially it's purely a defence mechanism - hurt in order to avoid getting hurt .
therefore i believe that it's actually a lot easier to be an asshole than it is to be nice. especially when you consider the epidemic proportions of cunty people there are in the world, there seems to be almost no other way to be than to be a cunt; if not only to protect yourself from the cunts.
however, whenever there are those philosophical questions put forth such as, 'what does it mean to be human?' it always comes back to our ability to feel, to have emotions, and the (now day controversial) existence of a soul.
growth can only occur once you let yourself feel and once you have the courage to let yourself take risks. and life is about learning things and hopefully growing.
i think it's not weakness to feel. it’s a weakness to not.
so there you go.
Doppelganger
Bluelighter
zephyr said:
I'm comfortable being single, but not over the moon about it.
I've done a lot of sole-searching over the past year or so, and now know exactly what I want from myself and others. I guess before I had no idea... so I used to just bounce from fling to fling hoping that Mr. Right would show up.
My values have since changed dramatically, and I really appreciate how comfortable I am with being alone these days. I have absolutely zero desire to involve myself in dead-end relationships again, zero desire for casual sex... I'm happy with myself.
That said, I'm open to love! I finally admitted to myself [after, like, a 5 year battle
] that when it comes to relationships, that's all I REALLY care about...Not sex... but love. I used to make it all about the sex to disguise my hopeless pining for love. I don't need to do that anymore... I feel not ashamed to admit to myself and others what I really want. In fact, I feel strong... because it took me a lot of time in solitude to reach this understanding. At first it was awfully lonely, and many tears were cried. I despised myself and certain people for a LONG time. And due to my honesty with myself regarding my weaknesses, I was weakened further... I found myself prone to panick attacks. I guess this proves that sometimes it's more beneficial to deceive yourself
.But anyhow, the panick attacks miraculously disappeared overnight... and I was left with a gentle love for myself. A love that whispers "If love is what you want, love is what you'll find... but the truest form of love will be found only between two honest souls. Two honest souls who have had not only the courage to know themselves, but also the strength to live according to what they know about themselves." [I think the latter is the hardest part in a world of temptation.]
So I'm now living my life accordingly, and thoughts of a partnership are not controlling my life. I want to be involved in a partnership, but if I can't find the right one, I'm genuinely happier alone anyway.
I'VE GROWN TO THE POINT WHERE I'M HAPPIER ALONE!
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