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***Singles Thread*** - WE LOVE IT.

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- got no bitterness toward ex's im actually mates with most of them.

- i sometimes pine for someone to love but dont we all??

Im young & still finding what makes ME happy anywho so il aprreciate & make the most of my singledom till i find someone that i can share the happy me with:D

btw doppleganger - i really like the resolve you've come to - sounds like youve found your happy self, now just to find the right person to share it with
 
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silvia saint said:
my problem is i'm yet to meet a girl who isn't afraid to use the word cunt. ;) ;) ha


Found you one :D Meet Wanda

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zephyr said:
Question:

Whom amongst us are actually genuinely happy they are single? Not bitter and twisted, looking for revenge against some cunt whos treated them badly, not secretly pining for someone to love them, just actually fucking over the moon about their singledom?

Anyone?

*Raises Hand*

It's only recent (maybe 12-18 months) that I've felt this way. But certainly, life is grand as being single.

Doesn't mean I wouldn't take an opportunity if it arsoe but I'm not actively looking.

I put it down to an increased female friendship precense in my life and energy outlets other than sex.

But as mentioned by a few other (one other?) poster, there has been a huge amount of soul searching and personal growth. I'm happy for once with who I am and understand myself far better than before.

I kind of get the feeling I wasn't as self aware until recently. I've always been aware of my friends, their growth, changes and the environment around me. But you never think 'gee maybe I should think about myself'.

I guess it takes lonely and miserable as friends to teach you a bit about yourself before you can join the ranks of content and somewhat happy.
 
zephyr said:
MODS: the title of the other thread was more uplifting than this version's....can you change it to something more positive?

Bluelight singles thread: WE LOVE THE COCK!

I agree .... its a real downer ---- who the hell thinks like that?! (i mean the title)

when you think like that ..... who wants to love someone so negative
 
princess_kitti said:
I agree .... its a real downer ---- who the hell thinks like that?! (i mean the title)

when you think like that ..... who wants to love someone so negative

p.s: i agree with the above about being happy single. i don't have to argue with anyone
 
Nice title change

Now i think everyone should write the thing they LOVE most about being single!

For me its that all of my spare time is spent with my fantastic friends & that I get to experience & enjoy so many more new and exciting things:D
Its all about meeee lol jk
 
Space. And not having to answer to anyone. "I'll be back in an hour." "I won't be home on saurday." "I swear i love you.".

Pfft.
 
^^ ++ 1 on both the above

1. I don't have someone hanging off me whenever I go out

2. I don't have to explain my clothing choices to anyone

3. I can spontaneously change my plans

To quote SATC - "I love you, I just love me so much more" =D
 
Will I get in trouble if I say the "We love it" bit sounds like you're trying really hard to make yourselves believe it?
 
i think we will have to execute joey old witch way...

HUNG!!!

I must admit, i have been single for something close to 5-6 months...

Not totally enjoying it, but like everyone else has stated...

fuck it is good to have your own space...
 
ruski said:
*Raises Hand*

It's only recent (maybe 12-18 months) that I've felt this way. But certainly, life is grand as being single.

Doesn't mean I wouldn't take an opportunity if it arsoe but I'm not actively looking.

I put it down to an increased female friendship precense in my life and energy outlets other than sex.

But as mentioned by a few other (one other?) poster, there has been a huge amount of soul searching and personal growth. I'm happy for once with who I am and understand myself far better than before.

I kind of get the feeling I wasn't as self aware until recently. I've always been aware of my friends, their growth, changes and the environment around me. But you never think 'gee maybe I should think about myself'.

I guess it takes lonely and miserable as friends to teach you a bit about yourself before you can join the ranks of content and somewhat happy.

Very well put.
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I've been single for about 2 years now and have gone through much the same process. It's only been the last few months that I've really been interested in finding someone else, but I've gotten a lot fussier about who it is that will fill that role. I think that goes hand in hand with being happier with myself and therefore thinking that I do actually deserve someone decent.

In the meantime, I am far happier being single than being in a relationship with the wrong person.
 
I don't mind being single because I have syphilis and I never tell my girlfriends. I don't need that kind of guilt weighing me down all the time!
 
ruski said:
I kind of get the feeling I wasn't as self aware until recently. I've always been aware of my friends, their growth, changes and the environment around me. But you never think 'gee maybe I should think about myself'.

Good point of discussion!

I always used to think that I'd done a lot of soul-searching, but it wasn't until I questioned EVERY little value I held, that I realized I'd never soul searched ;).

In the past I skimmed through my reasons for doing things - without really questioning them. [I thought] I just KNEW! I created some reasons for why I did what I did, and considered myself in-touch with inner-nature... %) TA-DA!!!

Now I realize that soul searching is definitely not such a breezy experience. It's hard! It means re-defining yourself and changing many of your values [even the things you may have thought you liked about yourself.] Mainly though, it's about being completely honest and devoted to the person who has sure done a lot of [unintentional?] compulsive lying to you in the past [yes, that would be yourself.]

If you think you've soul-searched and haven't called yourself a fraud and disliked yourself immensely for it - then I'd still doubt whether you know yourself AT ALL! Soul-searching is different to being depressed when something goes wrong, and finding a way out of it.
 
If you think you've soul-searched and haven't called yourself a fraud and disliked yourself immensely for it - then I'd still doubt whether you know yourself AT ALL! Soul-searching is different to being depressed when something goes wrong, and finding a way out of it.

Excellent point of differentiation.

Soul searching is definatley more than just finding a way out of your current downward spiral.

The main issue for me was that I went from the stage where my body/brain was ready to realise that girls exsist then progressed through late teenage hood/early adulthood through 3 varied length relationships without ever really getting the chance to grow myself during that period.

I always had someone else around and it wasn't until singledom brought on forced personal growth and hindsight that I was able to really start the introspective journey that begun a few years ago.

I also think that endurance sports (mainly running long distance) have given me a mantra in which to carry myself on. For non-runners it may seem a bit strange to try and comprehend but just the relationship between your feet and the road can help you deal with very real situations very much encompassing and propelling the insight I mentioned.
 
silvia saint said:
my problem is i'm yet to meet a girl who isn't afraid to use the word cunt. ;) ;) ha

haha don't get me started on that topic. I use it all the time but only (as much as i try) in a positive way (the whole feminist in me coming out for that one) Reclaim the cunt!
 
Single life means:

a. Freedom to follow the flow and whatever it throws in front of you. Go out, stay in, random call to an old friend for half the night, work late, drive up the coast and vanish for the weekend
b. Dont justify your actions to anyone (unless you still live with your parehts). Decide and do whatever you feel is right for you
c. When the world is too much, retreat and relax in guaranteed solitude at home with the certainty that nothing can interrupt your night
d. Check out, chat up, take home that random amazing person you see out. Even if you dont its still the option that adds a splash of magic
e. More time to spend how you want to (without compromise). Your Family. Your Friends. Your Entertainment. ... without guilt
f. Your life is not predictable, you'll socialise more and meet/converse with a lot more people many of whom will change how you see the world forever

<3 the singles

PS. The title? Really gahy
 
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