***Singles Thread*** A kit kat chunky stole my relationship!

[Doppelganger]

^ I wasn't invalidating your posts. I was just stating my own opinion, it really had nothing to do with you, personally.

My observations were based on all the female's who have posted in this discussion - sassy, zephyr, yourself, and I. As opposed to all the male contributors - Candyslut, hoptis, and lostpunk.

All of us females explained that fuckbuddies are not always so simple, whereas all the males gave me the impression that a more complex scenario confused them somewhat.

That's all!

 

[Mary Poppins]

^ fair enough. In essence, it's all about the rules of engagement, which are never usually discussed. People should take cues from Seinfeld

That was in the past!!!

I have never had a fuck buddy. And, seriously, i have not had casual sex...since...well, you know who and I don't intend on.

It's all about a new lease on life.

1. So your experience has nothing to do with your argument? Interesting.

2. You have a gaydar profile and joined daddy.com. Enough said.

3. Ahhh, the old 'other end of a spectrum backlash to a certain extremist lifestyle before you settle into a more balanced perspective'!

It's all about the balance my dear.

I will save my argument against people are anti-casual sex for another time

 

[MR Candyslut]

^ of course my experience has something to do with my argument! As they all do. I never said otherwise. But just as much it is based on my experience, i still maintain that most males would concur that the nature of a fuck buddy relationship is pretty damn simple.

Also, i have discussed with you numerous times that not everyone on those two sites are there to pick up. Granted, that is probably the main reason. And indeed, the main reason i used it before, but that is not to say that it is my continued intention with them.

Plus, i had a gaydar site. Brisdan_22 is dead And i mean, think about it, I certainly may have had the odd fuck or two, but it was not like i was some gay slut hooking onto anything that moved. Correct me if i am wrong, but i don't think i have ever advocated the desire/ability to separate sex and love. This does not mean that i do not play up once in awhile (against my better judgment) but I certainly wouldn't say that I ever advocated such a pro-casual stance on sex.

 

[Mary Poppins]

Ok, let me get this right.

You admit to having had casual sex in the past, you say you 'never will again' (which I am taking for the hyperbolic statement it is) and you're saying you're anti-casual sex!

Gee Mr CS - you almost sound like some of the fucktards who posted in that infamous thread saying that despite the fact they take drugs, they are against the drug trade!!!!

Advocating the desire/ability to seperate sex and love is seemingly very different to 'living the dream'!

Action speak louder than words CS.

(and despite the fact you're not engaging in casual sex atm, I still think your points are invalid. You've never had a fuck buddy, yet you're speaking on behalf of your brethren regarding their attitudes to them.)

 

[MR Candyslut]

Why do you see those all as mutually exclusive?

Yes i have had casual sex in the post, i said i don't intend on again, and yes, I am saying that for me, I am anti-casual sex because i personally do not find it satisfying.

I am not casting aspersions about others who engage in it. I am saying, that, for me i never really found it particularly satisfying and don't intend on doing it in the future.

 

[lady grey]

I saw my ex today. You know how there is that one that will always get to you. Your first love. yeah him! His fiance ran off on him with another guy. I havent seen him in almost 2 years.
It was a bit strange but still good to see him. it just reminded me of how good he made me feel & how much i want that again.

I dont want that with him. It just made me want something i havent wanted in a very long time. i think i want a relationship

 

[sassylx]

^ !

 

[sassylx]

^ theres a difference between sleeping with someone as a sort of added closeness with someone you care about as a true friend and just using someone you really couldnt give a flying fuck about and dont really care if you hurt them by your insensitive actions.

Exactly - in this case, respect would be paramount - i dont believe a friendship can survive without respect, and what i was initially saying is that it really sucks when you get into a FWB situation and then you find that the respect starts to lag.

Fuck buddies could well be people who are attracted to each other but for reasons on one or both of their behalves don't want to be together, it could be between people who are friends and also fuck, or it could be with somone you have no emotional investment with, or even negative emotional investment.

This renders your puritanical/literal definition of a fuck buddy slightly obsolete as to say that people can only expect to receive 'sexual' appreciation in some of those scenarios is preposterous - you would obviously not only expect a certain level of affection and respect but in addition in sassylx's case - I don't think you'd feel comfortable being as direct/crude as "wanna fuck", as these people obviously know you outside of the context of the bedroom.

I wouldn't write that to someone, regardless of what I thought their attitude towards it would be, because I don't consider it an accurate reflection of me.

+1.

Just because we're happy to partake in a fuck buddy relationship, doesn't mean we don't also want respect. Personally, I think it's disgraceful that so many people see the two as mutually exclusive.

That doesn't mean you're our type for a relationship, and it doesn't mean we're not cool with you sharing the same experiences with other girls - it just means we chose you as our fuck buddy because we actually like you.

Like you to a certain degree, enough to fuck you

 

[psycosynthesis]

I'm lonely. hold me.

 

[FaTz]

I saw my ex today. You know how there is that one that will always get to you. Your first love. yeah him! His fiance ran off on him with another guy. I havent seen him in almost 2 years.
It was a bit strange but still good to see him. it just reminded me of how good he made me feel & how much i want that again.

I dont want that with him. It just made me want something i havent wanted in a very long time. i think i want a relationship

Awww babe, see I know this exacttttttttt feeling, I had the identical thing appen to me at the 2005 Kryal Kastle where I saw my ex after not speaking/seeing each other for about 12 months, and I was left completely and utterly FUCKED for about 3-4 months after that.

However you've got that one thing that i never had in my head, "I don't want that with him" alhtough for me it was a her hehe. I just kept thinking how special she used to make me feel and how perfect it all was...

But on the upside (for me anyways) I'm about <----------> That far from fucking off out of this thread for a while. But we shall know more friday night/saturday morning. And considering this is my first "Date" as such in about 4 years due to every other girl i've been with was just random, drunk, high or all combined, I'm completly shit scared lol

 

[Mary Poppins]

^ great news kiddo

I'm sure you'll be fine, just remember to breathe

 

[lady grey]

Awww babe, see I know this exacttttttttt feeling, I had the identical thing appen to me at the 2005 Kryal Kastle where I saw my ex after not speaking/seeing each other for about 12 months, and I was left completely and utterly FUCKED for about 3-4 months after that.

However you've got that one thing that i never had in my head, "I don't want that with him" alhtough for me it was a her hehe. I just kept thinking how special she used to make me feel and how perfect it all was...

But on the upside (for me anyways) I'm about <----------> That far from fucking off out of this thread for a while. But we shall know more friday night/saturday morning. And considering this is my first "Date" as such in about 4 years due to every other girl i've been with was just random, drunk, high or all combined, I'm completly shit scared lol

Thanks mate its good to know im not the only one! I had a good 2 - 3 years of being fucked over this guy. i still dont think im totally over it but i just dont want to be with him cos i couldnt handle losing him again & im pretty sure his not too keen on the idea as his quiet heartbroken atm

Good luck with your date fatz!:D:D im sure you will do great! let us know how it goes?

 

[FaTz]

oooh yeah.... I forgot to update...


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OUTTA HERE

 

[up all night]

Excellentay Fatzio.

 

[katmeow]

oooh yeah.... I forgot to update...


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OUTTA HERE

Haha, I knew you would beat me out :D

Congrats dude!

 

[doofqueen]

On the whole male/female FB thing....

I have no problem with an established FB sending me a "U free to play?" kinda message. I have friendships with me FB's as well as sexual relationships... hang out... talk etc and not just fuck... (even though thats the main reason we hook up) I like dirty and raunchy messages but maybe thats just me... if you only have a sexual relationship (with friendship etc) I don't see the problem with sending/getting messages like the above mentioned as thats all you hook up for right? How is that being disrespectful? i mean... really....

Or do i just have sex like a man?

"I thought i was a slut, then i realised i was just acting like a man" <--- bumper sticker

 

[gher]

Once again my girl problems are rearing their ugly head, hence my posting in here. I just spent most of the weekend with a close female friend of mine who I happen to be mildly attracted to and upon reflecting on the weekend, she resents me because of it. In fact she resents anyone for being attracted to her at all.

I've been in this situation enough times to know not to pursue anything further. I've lost a number of friendships because of it and I'm determined not to lose this one. I know she reads these forums occasionally so I hope she reads what I'm about to write, and if she doesn't then I'll tell her myself.

I can't help being attracted to anyone. Neither can any of the others you're afraid of wanting more. I'm not sorry, you'll just have to live with the fact that I'm a heterosexual male.

Update: I think I just lost her and now I know why people dislike her. Another part of my soul just died.

 

[kazza_baby]

Single now since boyfriend moved to New York.

Sad that he left 'n' all but I must say I'm happy being single.. relationships don't seem to agree with me.

 

[Wacky]

Once again my girl problems are rearing their ugly head, hence my posting in here. I just spent most of the weekend with a close female friend of mine who I happen to be mildly attracted to and upon reflecting on the weekend, she resents me because of it. In fact she resents anyone for being attracted to her at all.

I've been in this situation enough times to know not to pursue anything further. I've lost a number of friendships because of it and I'm determined not to lose this one. I know she reads these forums occasionally so I hope she reads what I'm about to write, and if she doesn't then I'll tell her myself.

I can't help being attracted to anyone. Neither can any of the others you're afraid of wanting more. I'm not sorry, you'll just have to live with the fact that I'm a heterosexual male.

Update: I think I just lost her and now I know why people dislike her. Another part of my soul just died.

Sorry to hear gher.

If a person resents you for being attracted to them,then they have ISSUES,and to be blunt in this case the female you are talking about sounds like a bitch.A healthy person would take it as a compliment,be flattered,but respectful in rejecting you(Especially,if you are friends with said person.)

ps: WHO IS IT?

 

[Diego Blunt]

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