Really? Seems kinda weaksauce for tempbanning. Imo, ime, ymmv, ott, etc, etc. But what ya gonna do?
FWIW (whilst I'm indulging in intrawebz acronyms) BHM is a fine fella (imo, ime, ymmv, etc, etc). In private anyway. Dunno why that doesn't come through as well in public and is not really my place to speculate. He really is a thoroughly decent chap though. Imo, ime, ymmv, etc, etc.
Leaving the specific case aside, I have noticed a marked difference in several posters betwixt public and private personas. I wonder why this is? My suspicion is some kinda underlying insecurity. Again, not talking about BHM here cos I really don't know him well enough to be so presumptuous (and he can certainly speak for himself upon his return). But really does seem to be the case with many a BLer. And presumably many an intrawebzer in general. BL is a relatively anonymous forum (well, not really but then nothing is since we as a people sleepwalked into swapping actual privacy for faux "security") and lends itself to honesty. Is a real shame if people feel the need to put image before truth. Cos truth is so much more engaging than fiction.
Am well aware BHM is gonna think this is talking about him given the timing but it genuinely isn't. Is so common it borders on being universal actually. At least it does in terms of folks I've interacted with both publicly and privately. I just don't get it. You (generic "you") are good enough whomsoever you are. Posturing falls flat and fails miserably for the most part.