Shimmer.Fade
Bluelighter
I really don't mind if you say the ideals of anarchism are unrealistic and could therefore be dangerous to pursue, that's a perfectly valid opinion. But this here? Come on that's hogwash. :D Ideas and terminology evolve, I could just as well claim that your definition of democracy (presumably) "is a mistake of terminology dating back to some clever people" who broke with the good old greek tradition of excluding women, slaves and immigrants from this 'demos'.
I mean you can publish your own dictionairy with your definition of anarchy, maybe it will catch on. But until then I'm afraid you have to accept that at this moment there is a well known definition of anarchy as an utopian society and that people will use the word as such, whether the term makes sense to you or not.
As Vurtual said, it's great that as an anarchist I can just speak for myself. For me the starting point of all anarchistic thinking is the following. If the state compels you by law to do something that goes completely against your conscience, you have the right to say no. But if I claim for me the right to say no to any law that I object to, then I must grant anyone the right to say no to any law. This means that the only ethical form of government (if you could even call it that) would be one that doesn't enforce laws, but merely gives suggestions to the citizens. Thats what free association is all about, people come together under certain rules because they choose to do so.
I agree with freedom of speech and the evolution of terminology, but you anarchists are doing yourselves a disservice trying to convince people that anarchy is not what they think it is. I could probably be defined as an anarchist in some ways, but I do not wish to be. There are other, more appropriate descriptions of what I believe, and one term could never encompass what I believe.
I believe democracy is named after one of many wonderful philosophers, Democritus.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Democritus#Ethics_and_politics
His pupil, Epicurus, took his ideas further, and is of great interest to me.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epicurus