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Could you date a non drug-user?

ifonly said:
sure, i could date a non drug user. i know a few girls who dont do it themselves, but are totally open to the fact that its my choice. they know they cant stop me and just accept it, and encourage safe and responsible use. i can still share my drug bender stories with them and they will laugh and discuss but wouldnt use themselves, and this would work well i feel.
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Would they feel comfortable with their boyfriend's using though? There's a big difference between a friend taking drugs and a partner taking drugs.

And thank you SmC. Maybe an apology to the drug using ladies of the forum wouldn't go a miss, eh Dan?
 
I have been with a non-drug user for over 10 years now. My partner never indulges , not even alcohol. I have used (not abused) a lot of drugs in my 10 year relationship and it has not caused any problems.
 
I couldn't.

Even those non-users who are relatively non-judgemental are susceptible to changing their views of drug use when it involves someone close to them.

And as Gavin83 brought up, there's also the temptation to bring up drug use in an argument and use it against you.

It also depends on what drug use means to you. Obviously if it's something you think of as being quite special then I think it's important to be able to share that with someone.

If it's not important to you then you'd probably have no problem dating a non-user because you'd be able to easily give it up for him/her.

Finally, I find it kind of a turn on watching a girl snort lines, so that's another factor. ;)
 
I am happy to date a non-drug user, as I am one myself.

It pleases me to meet people that focus mainly on relationships to get their fill of good feelings.
 
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^^ so what are you doing on BL then?

and are you saying that people who use drugs don't focus on feeling good from the relationship they are in but the drugs they are taking?
 
Dyno_oz said:
I am happy to date a non-drug user, as I am one myself.

It pleases me to meet people that focus mainly on relationships to get their fill of good feelings.
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If you're not doing drugs then you don't really fit in with BL or this thread. I am confused as to why you're even on here.

My point about wanting to be with another user is that it will enhance my drug experiences further than what i'm getting now. It makes the relationship stronger if you both have great experiences on drugs I think.
 
doofqueen said:
^^ so what are you doing on BL then?
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Hey, I'm a non-drug user and I've been wandering around since 2003. Then again, the only reason I'm here is SLR...I have no memory of how I wound up in this crazy place to begin with! =D
 
I would, but they would need to be accepting/tollerating of my drug use and not get all preachy on me.

Then again, my drug use is very limited these days. A bit of weed here and there, and an occasional trip on LSD or Mushrooms.

That being said, I think there are certian types of drug users I would not date. ie: someone who was really into coke, or meth, or popping benzo's every night just to chill out.

I have a general motto of "theres a time and a place for drugs", and doing lines at work for a pick me up isnt one of them. If *I* felt like they were an addict or venturing into addict territory (doesnt matter if they felt like they had it under control or not), I wouldnt date them.

I guess it comes down to a matter of recreational / social use vs habitual/addictive use. If they just did coke once or twice a month while out drinking with friends? I wouldnt take issue to that, but if they were doing coke daily .... then well.... buh-bye.

Maybe a bit of a double standard, but thems the breaks.
 
Theres a bunch of non drug users on BL actualy. I don't use drugs anymore, its been 3+ years.

Turns out the girl I'm with is completely anti-drugs. I don't think its going to be a problem between us though. =)
 
^ Yeah if you used to use drugs that's fine but if you never have then it its strange to join a drug forum really.
 
Well BL has healthy living, CE/P, thought and awareness, SLR, and others.. all of which have nothing to do with drugs. Maybe people just like the atmosphere and large community.
 
Possibly. But they should be aware the main focus is to do with harm reduction on drugs, so they aren't exactly talking with people who are like they're is all i'm saying, you get me?. Anyway, back on topic! :)
 
I think non-drug users and drug users are less different than you would imagine!

but ya, back on topic. :P
 
Edit: Deleted some of the msg as it didn't come out the way I thought it would.

I wouldn't mind dating someone who is a non user and isn't anti-drugs but it would feel like i'm missing out I think.
 
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Hell no I couldn't date a girl who didn't use drugs. Drug use is as natural and sacred as prayer or food or dance to me and anyone who refuses to participate to some degree is a lame ass square.
 
Being sober is fucking boring at times though, how can anyone always be cool with it? lol. I don't get those people....
 
Nah, I won't accept that excuse any more than I'd accept some shy girl's excuse that she doesn't know how to dance.

I don't drink alcohol or smoke pot, nor do I like being around drunk people, but if someone can't find a drug (and/or isn't willing to experiment so as to eventually find one) that has the spectrum of effects that they enjoy most, then they are not interesting to me. There's no way anyone I'm interested in can say there are no drugs which are fun. They also can't say they don't want to try a new food, or read a book I recommend, or try something sexually I suggest. If I caught myself hesitating to try something that my partner enjoyed out and learn to enjoy it myself, I'd consider myself unworthy.
 
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