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Could you date a non drug-user?

i dunno i dont think i could seriously date someone who didnt use too...

maybe for a bit, but its really nice to come home and smoke a bowl with the GF, or go out and party with her. i like being on the same page as her.. if im rolling, theres no one i want around more than my girl... same with pretty much any drug.

it would suck to have to party alone. :(
 
i dated a nondrug using girl for two years and it was great .
kept me outta trouble !
I used far less,
and I was never tempted to get her to use.
i admired her nonuse. I just didnt admire her ... Theism

anyway LOVE is a drug too. in so many ways.
not just the pheromonal and brain alteration ways.
so , she WAS a drug user ; she loved me !
 
I can't help feeling that if I were completely happy with my life that I'd lose interest in drugs. When I was madly in love with this particularly guy, it was almost as if I were continually buzzing on E because I was so euphoric all the time just thinking about him... I can't help feeling that I use getting high as a crutch if I'm brutally honest with myself.

If I had a career that completely engrossed me or was completely happy in my relationship then I don't think I'd have any desire to take drugs. It's a form of escapism for me.

Of course, the human condition is far from ideal for most of us, so I can sympathise with why people use drugs.
 
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I could as long as they weren't close-minded about it, or as long as they didn't try to restrict me from doing things I enjoy. That goes for anything, though. I could date someone who didn't like dogs as long as he wouldn't care that I went home to visit mine every now and then.

That said, I'd prefer it if they used, too, so I could share experiences and fun with them. :)
 
Yes, it's nice to know people who are completely open-minded but I'm also glad I have friends who are more 'sensible'. It's probably good that I know both sorts of people. But I'm glad my partner isn't a user, though I'm even gladder that he doesn't mind what I do (though I can see that part of me almost wishes he'd put his foot down).

I suppose I'm in a divided mind about it.
 
In theory, I guess I could, but in reality I couldn't imagine it.

Like traveling, taking certain drugs such as psychedelics broadens one's horizons in ways that other things don't.
 
mona lisa, if you feel that strongly against your own use, you should try to quit. i think my drug use is actually good for me, not negative in any way. i only use psychedelics.

(not being preachy, i am trying to quit drinking...jstu pointing out the obvious i guess!)
 
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I've never gone out with someone who was actively anti-drugs, but I have had a few really really good freinds (guys and women) that were anti drugs. Never had a problem with it, because after all we're all just people.
 
That question is one of the reasons Im still single. My use holds me back because Im afraid of being hurt. Theres been many a girl I loved, but I could never be with them. It hurts but I kept my self out possible relationships because of the fear of greater pain.

I met a girl this past weekend, real nice one too. It would be nice ... But no matter how beautiful I am on the inside and on the outside I would be a beast in her eyes and any other broads because of my usage. Someday I'll find a girl who can accept me for who I am and what I do, but until then I refuse to let love in.
 
Personally, I don't trust people who are anti-drug. Same as I don't trust people who don't curse. And asian people. Wait, scratch that last one...

Anyway, my wife went through an acid phase the same time I was going through my ecstasy phase. Even though we rarely do anything anymore, we'd both do almost anything that was offered if the moment was right.

It's part of who I am, and anyone who doesn't want to accept that can't be that integral a part of my life.
 
This is a question that I’ve always asked myself, and I’m not completely sure of the answer. I know I could never date someone that didn’t drink or enjoy a drink when I go out with them… but I’m not sure about the whole drug thing.

I mean… I enjoy drugs, and I might do them ever once in awhile… I would want someone that understood that. If I really cared about them I would attempt to stop for them, but I would never quit drinking because hell… you can’t take everything away from me.

The only problem with dating another drug user is the fact that the relationship can start to be based on getting high with one another… which can be a slippery slope.

So yes… I could date a non-drug user… as long as they drank… LOL
 
syymphonatic said:
I could as long as they weren't close-minded about it, or as long as they didn't try to restrict me from doing things I enjoy. That goes for anything, though. I could date someone who didn't like dogs as long as he wouldn't care that I went home to visit mine every now and then.

That said, I'd prefer it if they used, too, so I could share experiences and fun with them. :)
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ditto.

of course i wouldn't want to date an addict but there is nothing wrong with moderate drug use if you're being responsible about it. just because cigarettes and alcohol are LEGAL doesn't make them any less of a drug.
 
I've actually gone to the effort of trying to meet someone that didn't do drugs at all for curiositys sake, with absolutely no success at all. Met this guy last year that I thought didn't do drugs, turned out he did more than I did, which considering what he was like I don't think was such a good thing. :\

Pretty much every single person I've been in a relationship with has done drugs (more than weed) more than once in their lives. The problem I never want is to end up with someone that is totally anti drugs. That would be a problem, but apart from that as long as we had a lot of the same interests I couldn't care less anymore.
 
No ,probably not. It just wouldn't work.

I like someone to get into trouble with me not keep me out of it.
 
I wouldnt not date someone because they werent a drug user. I would respect their decicion not to take drugs same as id hope theyd respect my desicion to take drugs.

I dated a drug user when i didnt do any drugs. So i know you can still be in love without that being a factor as long as you understand why you both made the desicion you have.

Id prefer it obviously if they had tho:) i think ecstacsy with someone that you have strong feelings for is a fantastic thing to experience.
I guess its just something in my life and my past i would want someone im with to be understanding about because those experiences are a part of who i am

And same as tokey i also have friends who dont do drugs, who are actually anti drugs and it doesnt have much to do with our friendship. They were my best friends before and theyl be my best friends after.
 
As someone who could count his instances of drug use on one hand, I certainly could date a drug user or non-user--just so long as the former doesn't let drugs run their life or consider me a square for not participating, or the latter doesn't act sanctimonious just because I have used once or twice.
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Spot on bel. Also what matters a lot to me is if somebody isn't uptight or judgemental regardless of whatever our situations may be....
 
Kicksave said:
It's part of who I am, and anyone who doesn't want to accept that can't be that integral a part of my life.
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This statement sums it up for me.
 
Yes...as long as they are open minded and non-judgmental about my drug use then it's all right.
 
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