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Lucy20

Lucy20

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A little embarrassed posting this but then i remember my drug days and realize i have no shame:)
I just tried anal sex with my boyfriend, im in my mid 30's so im late to the party but addicted lol
My question is how often is it safe? I used Google and read horror stories of "leakage " and i definitely don't want that lol
 
Lol i i haven't damaged myself. I was wondering from people who do it what a safe amount is, like once a week or month?
There has to be gay people here and otfers that do it
 
Rest assured, you can do it more than once a week or once a month.

Practice makes perfect.
 
Bum sex is great, my ex used to love it & actually ask for anal.
I have had her spray before but only once, as she cum her bum went into spasm & I finished very close to her, as I pulled out she was still growning etc & a piece of liquid-esque poo shot out like a bullet & hit me on the chest. As it was mixed in with plenty of lube & semen it was not very firm & began to run down my chest like a slug, I began to wretch as it was gross, she asked what was wrong & I lied as she would be shamed (even though there is nothing to be shamed about, you do bum sex even though the woman has cleaned herself out before if they have a good orgasam accidents are to be expected)

I'll admit it here too, I learned what a man can do too with a prostate orgasam, I am not gay or bi etc (I like women & that is it) but trust me guys you get a woman to stick something up your bum OMFG when you cum it is like the best orgasam while high on vaped PV (yes it is really that good & anyone ever read my comments on PV they will know how much love I had for vaped PV & what it can do to the human brain)
 
Thank you ZopicloneBandit , next time I'm down on him I'll try rubbing his prostate. Fair is fair right? Ive never been selfish that way and if it would give him an orgasm on par with mine i would happily play with his prostate:).
Anal is addicting, i was raised very very conservative so i think me thinking its its something taboo is part of the fun. The orgasms are a bit different from vaginal sex but wow.. just wow lol
I was nervous about there being a mess but i haven't heard or seen anything. My boyfriend is great though, he would probably lie and say nothing was there anyhow. Even if a mess happened, we are so comfortable with each other it would probably turn into a joke
 
You can do it often! Just keep an eye out for damage, and practice makes perfect.
My late fiance and I really started getting into anal. There were times I had clearly hurt her, and although she liked the soreness the next day, it was a sign to give it a break.

Lube, practice, and apparently the one taking it should push slightly as though they're having a shit, to help it in.

God i miss her. She was a sex genius. She even got me into a bit of bum fun!
 
Lucy20 said:
Thank you ZopicloneBandit , next time I'm down on him I'll try rubbing his prostate. Fair is fair right? Ive never been selfish that way and if it would give him an orgasm on par with mine i would happily play with his prostate:).
Anal is addicting, i was raised very very conservative so i think me thinking its its something taboo is part of the fun. The orgasms are a bit different from vaginal sex but wow.. just wow lol
I was nervous about there being a mess but i haven't heard or seen anything. My boyfriend is great though, he would probably lie and say nothing was there anyhow. Even if a mess happened, we are so comfortable with each other it would probably turn into a joke
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That's great if you're both getting into it together with open minds. The odd accident it inevitable, but I can promise you, there are few people that would be grossed out by it, apart from the one who had the accident.
Openness and intimacy are important, but the odd white lie "no, don't worry" whilst you wipe the poo off your dick with a baby wipe discreetly can't hurt!
 
axe battler said:
My late fiancé............God i miss her. She was a sex genius. She even got me into a bit of bum fun!
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100% the same here too on that one.
She taught me all kinds of stuff & got me to try stuff I'd never think of before I got with her. She taught me a trick that has really paid off too about giving oral to a woman & that was to work round & upto their clit, NOT hit it right away. After a few mins of working upto it use your tongue only & do the alphabet letters with it, I had women squirt from doing that before.
 
Zopiclone bandit said:
After a few mins of working upto it use your tongue only & do the alphabet letters with it, I had women squirt from doing that before.
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Lol, this technique was what my friends in high school all raved about. I personally am a bit more aggressive in my eating, but it depends on the girl. They all like it a bit differently.
 
madness00 said:
Lol, this technique was what my friends in high school all raved about. I personally am a bit more aggressive in my eating, but it depends on the girl. They all like it a bit differently.
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Both techniques are awesome imo. Sometimes i feel like more soft licking, other times i want him to eat it like a fat kid at McDonalds.lol . Going from clit to tongue deep inside and throw in some fingers and you got a party :)
 
Lucy20 said:
My question is how often is it safe? I used Google and read horror stories of "leakage " and i definitely don't want that lol
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Horror stories are just stories invented by people who are either squeamish, prudish or just plain anti-sex.

Leakage is a complete myth. Your anus will indeed become looser and easier to penetrate, but in actual fact the stretch and exercise your anus gets will improve the muscle tone of the anus.
I enjoy anal fisting and have done so for 15 years. I have no problem with anal leakage. Although the day after I have to use the loo more than usual.
There are other potential health problems but these have mainly to do with STDs. You should also never allow an unwashed transfer from anus to vagina.
Anal sex will also reduce the likelihood of developing piles.
 
^^ thank you. Ya i would never go from ass to anything. Ive seen it in porn but im to much a clean freak and there is bacteria.
Funny how times change, when i grew up anal sex was taboo, now its openly(kinda) discussed.
Thanks for the reassurance
 
Lucy20 said:
A little embarrassed posting this but then i remember my drug days and realize i have no shame:)
I just tried anal sex with my boyfriend, im in my mid 30's so im late to the party but addicted lol
My question is how often is it safe? I used Google and read horror stories of "leakage " and i definitely don't want that lol
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Anal is safe so long as you take the necessary precautions. For people with horror anal stories, it is likely they didn’t use lube, didn’t use a condom, engaged in forced entry (not waiting for the anus to relax/become aroused), or they were not psychologically prepared.

If you want to do anal play, make sure you have a ton of lube and that you’re prepared to engage in plenty of foreplay so that the muscles and sphincters of your anus can relax properly. Spit is not enough and I can’t stress that enough. Spit dries quickly and you’d need to be consistently drooling in someone’s anus to have a semblance of proper lubrication. The skin within the anus is relatively thin so it can tear easily and cause much more intense pain or discomfort if you are not prepared to engage in anal.

It is best to use a condom so as to prevent infection from occurring within your partner’s penis (fecal matter is relatively unsafe to consume or have enter your blood stream as it can make you sick). Wearing a condom also protects you from getting infections/diseases via fecal matter entering small cuts or tears in the lining of your anus or potential diseases/infections your partner(s) could carry.

Stories of men and women contracting HIV/AIDS back in the 70’s, though serious and legitimate, often involved lack of protection, forced entry (despite mutually consented arousal), multiple partners (unprotected), and lack of hygiene upkeep.

If you’re worried about small pieces of feces coming out, you can douche with mild/warm water but otherwise a shower should suffice. Also if you plan to do oral stuff on the anus, dental dams (or cut up condoms) work fine as protection from fecal matter entering your mouth.

Also to make sure it isn’t uncomfortable, attempt to defecate before having anal sex so there’s less risk of “leakage”, accidental poops during sex, or discomfort.

What augustaB said is true, but leakage usually occurs after forced entry and is accompanied by an inability to control the external sphincter. Leakage does not occur when you are properly relaxed. The anus’ plasticity is amazing and regular (well-practiced) anal play can improves your anus’ elasticity thus preventing you from needing things like adult diapers.

Just stay safe, lubed, properly relaxed, and mentally aroused with your mind not preoccupied on anything stressful and you’re likely to have a good ol’ Time!
Hopefully this helps.
 
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Yeetdruggie said:
Anal is safe so long as you take the necessary precautions. For people with horror anal stories, it is likely they didn’t use lube, didn’t use a condom, engaged in forced entry (not waiting for the anus to relax/become aroused), or they were not psychologically prepared.

If you want to do anal play, make sure you have a ton of lube and that you’re prepared to engage in plenty of foreplay so that the muscles and sphincters of your anus can relax properly. Spit is not enough and I can’t stress that enough. Spit dries quickly and you’d need to be consistently drooling in someone’s anus to have a semblance of proper lubrication. The skin within the anus is relatively thin so it can tear easily and cause much more intense pain or discomfort if you are not prepared to engage in anal.

It is best to use a condom so as to prevent infection from occurring within your partner’s penis (fecal matter is relatively unsafe to consume or have enter your blood stream as it can make you sick). Wearing a condom also protects you from getting infections/diseases via fecal matter entering small cuts or tears in the lining of your anus or potential diseases/infections your partner(s) could carry.

Stories of men and women contracting HIV/AIDS back in the 70’s, though serious and legitimate, often involved lack of protection, forced entry (despite mutually consented arousal), multiple partners (unprotected), and lack of hygiene upkeep.

If you’re worried about small pieces of feces coming out, you can douche with mild/warm water but otherwise a shower should suffice. Also if you plan to do oral stuff on the anus, dental dams (or cut up condoms) work fine as protection from fecal matter entering your mouth.

Also to make sure it isn’t uncomfortable, attempt to defecate before having anal sex so there’s less risk of “leakage”, accidental poops during sex, or discomfort.

What augustaB said is true, but leakage usually occurs after forced entry and is accompanied by an inability to control the external sphincter. Leakage does not occur when you are properly relaxed. The anus’ plasticity is amazing and regular (well-practiced) anal play can improves your anus’ elasticity thus preventing you from needing things like adult diapers.

Just stay safe, lubed, properly relaxed, and mentally aroused with your mind not preoccupied on anything stressful and you’re likely to have a good ol’ Time!
Hopefully this helps.
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Thank you very much. We don't go there until I've already had an orgasm so i am very relaxed and we use alot of lube. He is extra gentle as well
 
It was more a question than a statement.
Although I’ve ssen some shocking things online. Prolapsed arsehole don’t look good
 
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