well, after being a part of this thread since it's inception, although not really taking much part in it, i thought i'd reply.
knowing yourself, and loving what is there does play a big part in building long term, solid, satisfying relationships. misery loves company, so you'll prolly attract a needy psycho-bitch if you're a bit that way. the best relationships are the ones where you're happy with who you are, and where you're at, and don't need anyone else to complete you or your life. as the dalai lama said 'the greatest love is that where our love for each other is greater than our need for each other'. find someone that feels the same way, and hang out with them just 'cos they're cool ppl, and everything else will seem to fall into place.
now, i've been in love before, and it's the best feeling. nothing else on this earth drug-wise can beat that feeling of well-being and euphoria that you feel when you're in love. you feel ten foot tall, and nothing is a problem. and whether it ends up being good, or bad, or completely indifferent, i don't regret any of the times that i've loved, and given completely of myself. it's like a 24/7 cocaine high, and i've found nothing else to beat it. that's why i usually go on week long benders, and trash myself completely when it goes all wrong, 'cos i'm chasing that feel-good vibe, and i never quite attain it.
and then again, i've been single most of my life. why? well the reasons vary depending on what my age was, and what stage of my life i've been going through, but i can honestly say that it's never bothered me, and except for the occasional 'i wish I had someone' tear drop, i can say that i've never regretted my choices. i only have to look at the love-lives of my mates to realise that the world's oldest proffession has a lot going for it :D . and i do get a lot of satisfaction from all my platonic and non-sexual relationships. you can build them up to where you do have a reasonable level of intimacy and sharing, and i am also blessed with a wonderful family.
most of the bitching and moaning i see in this thread is from needy ppl that are looking for a partner that will fullfil their lives, and provide that little (or lot) something extra that seems to be missing from their lives. you'll never find it. the answer is inside you. find that, and you'll see that you don't need anyone else. that's when you'll trully appreciate all those ppl in your life, and you will have a better chance of hooking up with someone that you are suited to.
after all that, i'm going to take a temporary leave of absence. i'm working on something at the moment, and if all goes well, i might start posting in the couples thread soon. but then again, i'll prolly be back here in the not too distant future. my point is, it's all ok. i'm happy with who i am, and what i have to offer, and no matter where i'm at, i know i'm in good company
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and plaz, keep it up dude. i love tweakers, being one myself, and your shit keeps the thread alive and moving. however, i would recommend falling in love just once. it really is the best feeling.
-fluffy out-
