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miss apple: I know exactly wot u mean. Im picky and none of the guys who like me Id never consider.
Why should I settle for second best?
 
my hand just doesnt treat me with the same respect it used to, i think it is time for us to break up
 
Badaboomtish!
Buzz buzz!
Keeeeeeeeeearkey!
Medicine!
Grey poupaw!
Mustard!
Dentist!
Break that hip Doris!
Nasty!
And I'm always here, though not posting anywhere near as much as I used to.
I care so much about being single, I'm heartbroken that nobody loves me. Blah blah blah (care factor would fit on the head of a pin with room to spare for a few grains of salt).
Alright, I'm lovin it!
-plaz out-
 
Sllip, no i dont think friends are enough either.
I dont know how I am feeling at the moment about being single. You know I think I am okay. Im not caring half as much as I should. But Ive got better things to do than be upset by some wanker. So I think I will make a full recovery very soon :)
One thing that does shit me though is the no sex. That sucks. I really took that one for granted hey!!! And I am planning to be single for summer so that means none for me for a while :(
Oh well it is good preparation for when I go back to Thailand and become celebate for a year :)
 
Originally posted by vurtomatic:
can u love someone if u dont love urself? (that's a question, im not replying to any posts)
short answer, no.
I've had a relationship break up because I didn't love myself enough to allow the other person to love me in return.
I put him on so much of a pedestal that I wondered how someone that fantastic could possibly love someone so not-as-fantastic as he was. Consequently I never believed him when he said he loved me and looked for signs to prove this was the case. When you're looking for signs, you see them...whether you're making it up or not...so the poor guy had no hope.
This happened quite subtley, and it's taken me a long time to realise what actually went wrong. For a very long time I blamed him for being an arsehole when I realised that he couldn't love someone who was so negative about themselves. it was almost like I convinced him that he was silly for liking me...so much so that he believed it himself.
I've learnt a lot about myself since then...it turned out to be a good thing for me.
Also, on a simpler level and a lot earlier on in a relationship (more courting I guess)...confidence is a very attractive quality in the opposite sex. Not too many people are drawn to someone who is self conscious and unsure of themselves.
[edit: I've just reread your question....yes you can love someone if you don't love yourself. but you end up loving them too much...and needing them too much to be happy. consequently it's difficult for the other person to love you in return]
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Sllip: Friends are nice, but let's face it, when you role over in the morning and feel the other half of the bed empty and cold, there is a small sense of lacking. Unless you're me, in which case you sleep in the middle of the bed anyway, due to having been single for so long. ;)
Vurt: I believe JOhn Butler saud it best when he said "I don't know myself, so how can i share me with you girl, or anyone?" I don't believe that one needs to know or understand oneself 100% to love another, but if you don't LOVE and RESPECT yourself, then i don't see why others should.
:)
 
and sllip - I get a lot of happiness from my friends. in fact, all my life all of my happiness has been from the beautiful people I'm lucky enough to call my friends.
but no, they're not quite enough. there's a level of closeness and intimacy which I think humans all crave that just can't be reached with platonic friends. (and no, I'm not just talking about sex)
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But do you need intimacy or do you crave it? I love to eat good food but I don't need it.
Don't get me wrong I crave intimacy just as much any other person in the world, hell the greatest single thing about being in a relationship is waking up in the morning with my arms around someone. But I'm not going to cry if I never meet anyone ever.
 
in response to Sllip's question on intimacy...
I really don't know!
I sat here and thought about it for a while...
while I would like to say I don't need intimacy, I don't know if that would be the truth.
where does one draw the line between need and crave?
 
Originally posted by Sllip:
But do you need intimacy or do you crave it? I love to eat good food but I don't need it.
Don't get me wrong I crave intimacy just as much any other person in the world, hell the greatest single thing about being in a relationship is waking up in the morning with my arms around someone. But I'm not going to cry if I never meet anyone ever.
Have you been in love before sllip? really truly utterly and hopelessly in love? if you honestly think you can live without having another relationship in your life I wonder if you ever really have?
I hope you do. It's kinda cool.
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well, peeps i'm officially back in here after 3 years of chasing after some who didn't want me
well, what can i say, never fall in love w/ ya fuckbuddy when u THINK it might turn in2 something more ... IT NEVER DOES!!!
i was thinking the other day 2 go on a sex crazed rampage, but then i realised i dont like 1 night stands, they're 2 messy!!!
so i think i'll sit back & relax 4 a bit & hopefully i wont run out of money buying batteries 2 quickly ;)
TC
 
Who needs batteries?
Duracell and Energizer have a big reward posted for anyone who cuts off my hands and tongue.
Hehehehehehehehe. :D
 
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