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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Sydkiwi: hmmm my guy doens't approve of my smoking at all, infact I'm pretty sure that he hates it, but he wants to be with me, for who I am not what i do.
I really appreciate that, and for that reason I am cutting down with the aim to quit again.
Things usually work out the way they should be, don't be too quick to judge :)
 
Originally posted by Queen Beat:

And funki hon, you said it yourself, you're 18! Just have fun. Fuck your colleagues, snog random women and play with strange little boys. When you find someone you actually want to commit to, then I'm sure you will. And besides, you always have awesome stories to tell so boring people such as myself can live vicariously through you.
[ 13 November 2002: Message edited by: Queen Beat ]
Oooooo babe thanks :) , and thanks for the reassurance. I do envy you somehow in the fact that you are committed and oh so happy in your situation, i think it is sooo special and so great, i am very happy for you :)
I myself will go on with my random little boys, girls etc, just as long as people dpnt think i walk around with the word SEX written on my forehead. Im sure i dont, but it seems that way lately....
-funki-
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Jesus - page 6 - I haven't even had time to look at this one... don't fill it up before I do...
PS: in case anyone cares, i'm still single... not that I do? :p
 
Ive met too many guys who say they will quit and dont. it just means to me they cant like me enough to give it up.
My last bf use to hate it when I nagged him to quit. Im sorry its nothing I will put up with. So Ive decided Id rather be single than date a smoker.
 
Honey, lesson 1:
Smokers are ALWAYS going to quit.
in fact quitting start's tomorrow.
I'm surprised that most smokers arent fuckn brilliant at quitting cos they seem to do it daily...
heh heh...
Smoking is a BIG turn off for me too..
I was with a chick on tuesday night who wanted me to come 'pick her up' and 'take her for a drive'
There were storms over Alice that night so we 'chilled out at my place",
and I'm telling you.. the ***ONLY*** reason that ANYTHING happened AT ALL ...
(ASIDE for the fact that I'm just plain and out a horny cunt hee hee)
...was b/c she had left her smokes at her house and hadnt had one for about three hours...
Even still you could still tell she was a smoker.
*Ughh.*
Dont you just HATE pl whontaste of smoke.
YUKKIE.. YUKKIEEEE!!
BLAH
=K9=
 
Sydkiwi - that is the most absurd thing I have ever read. I think that it’s disgusting that you expect somebody to quit smoking for you. You wouldn’t quit something you enjoyed for another person. Could you imagine if a guy would only date you if you stopped doing all drugs including alcohol and then nagged you when you didn’t. You wouldn’t like it at all and pretty soon you’d get sick of it.
The personal choice to quit smoking is a hard one and it has nothing whatsoever to do with how much they like you. You have to want to quit to be able to do it successfully and often if there is somebody nagging you to quit, you may do it but you become resentful of that person and go right back to whatever your addiction was pretty much as soon as you remove that person from your life.
You don’t like smoking, fine don’t date a smoker but don’t expect a smoker to quit to be with you, 9 times out of 10 the cigarettes will win.
 
oooo.
Lets play Spot the Smoker...
*K9 points at kitty*
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In relation to what i wrote above kitty, I'm doing all this without a drivers lisence mind.
SO... i guess that means...
K9's getting laid ILLEGALLY!!!
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I have to add in response to something written above also:
I am from sydney originally and I'll admit that yes, Sydney is full of 'wankers'.
Im one of them.
We all do it in style.
So get over it. PLEASE.
Sydney is second only to melbourne which has its very own load of 'dickheads' and 'psuedo-intellectual PRICKS' (-i just fukn LOVE that word!!)
*ON TOP* of the normal quota of 'wankers' allocated for that region of the world, which some may or may not have noticed is considerably higher on average than other parts of the globe..
Dont fuk with sydney. it rocks.
and everyone knows it.
"Dont mess with the bull young man, you'll get the horns..."
-THE BREAKFAST CLUB
[ 14 November 2002: Message edited by: #K9# ]
 
I've never met a girl who's made me feel quite as happy and steady as a decent whack 'o' any substance that originally started with poppies... ;)
Maybe I'd give it up, maybe not.
Anyway, its largely an academic question, I don't think anyone I've been with has given a shit... ;)
But tobacco tastes worse than codeine.
-plaz out-
 
The fact that I’m a smoker makes no difference to what I just posted. Think about it for a minute.
Fact is it takes a hell of a lot to get someone to quit anything they enjoy and even more to get them to quit something they're addicted to.
Non-smokers piss me off something chronic with their holier than thou "oh it's easy to quit" type attitudes.
I've quit numerous times, the longest spell was for 8 months and I’ve never found it particularly hard to do so – it’s all about my personal choice to stay away from cigarettes and it lasts until I get bored of whichever health kick I’m on but I've watched others who try time and time again, spending thousands of dollars on nicorette and other quitting aids that just don't work.
Comments like: “Ive met too many guys who say they will quit and dont. it just means to me they cant like me enough to give it up.” are just silly. It’s naive to believe that anybody, especially someone who was a smoker before you began dating them will all of a sudden find you so important that they manage to find the inner strength and desire to quit.
Remember people won’t change for you and trying to change your partner nearly always leads to heartbreak.
I agree kissing a smoker when you’re not smoking yourself tastes foul and I don’t mind people who say they won’t date smokers; that’s their loss considering the number of people who do smoke, but preaching at somebody to change themselves in any way is not going to endear you to anyone.
And K9 wh00t for getting laid :D
 
PLAZ!!!!
ha ha ha.. i forgot..
You and I are both CODY Ho's!!!
Praise the Lord and Hallelujah for Pandeine Forte.
Dropping two of these babies feel not unlike its own little peak.
and dumping ONE whilst on a good strong pill makes for interesting stories the following morning..
We'll have to get CODY'ED togther wen i get my ass bak home to Sydney for NYE... (NYD really)
=K9=
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So is leading someone on for five years, always kepping just enough contact to make sure that they are hanging on but not quite there.
So that you can call them at anytime if your life takes a plunge or doesnt seem to be going the way you want it and you want reassurance.
And you know that they will be waiting there like a stupid puppy that cant see its tail for the fur.
This happened to me..
I wrote her my final email fave days ago..
And she just tried to call my fone. (i assume that she just got the mail)
She rang five times. I let it ring out each time.
(WOOT! GO caine the determined! I didnt give in!)
I dont ever intend on taking anymore of her calls again.
-Has anyone tried this before? Coldturkey?
Does it work? Or will she keep me waiting and still have me wrapped around her little finger come next month..
???
I so wish it were possible to make someone disappear out of my life.
BLUGH
=K9=
 
I like PsychoKitten's last post. That subject might be a good topic for Part XVIII! ;)
Have you ever tried to change for your mate? Did you ever try to change a mate? How important is it just to accept your partner and be accepted by your partner? Have those sort of issues contributed to you being single?
Hmmm....
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Ive met too many guys who say they will quit and dont.it just means to me they cant like me enough to give it up.
That is the most pathetic thing I've ever heard, seriously, that's such a load of shit it isn't funny.
syd_kiwi, the next time you're with someone why don't you quit something that's a big part of your life and see how far you get with it. Battling addiction isn't the easiest of things to do and it's even harder when it's something you enjoy and don't even want to quit.
I don't mind smokers or smoking much at all, hell, I even have the (very) odd ciggarette and was once a social smoker. Most of my friends smoke or used to smoke and my work mates smoke at times it can seem like I'm the only person on the planet that doesn't heh. The only time I get annoyed with smokers is when I seem them flick their butts out the window or leave it on the street etc, how hard is it not litter? Honestly, THEY COME IN A FUCKING BOX, just put it back in!
Annnywayy...
I've gone out with smokers before, I'm seeing one right now, it doesn't phase me a bit they are their own person and can do what they like as far as im concearned, it's when people start trying to force things that it becomes uncool. Though if they were that sort of person to begin with I doubt I'd have hooked up with any of them.
*bites into his slice of tangent*
[ 14 November 2002: Message edited by: Mirage ]
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Bluelight Singles Part XVIII - Aw, screw it!

"Okay guys by now you all know the drill. Anyone who goes on about their dislike of this thread or comes in to gloat in their happy coupleness will have their posts deleted." - Psychokitten, Aus Social Moderator
Towards the end of "Bluelight Singles Part XVII - Surviving life's lessons" there was some discussion of expecting your mate to change to meet your expectations. There were a few good replies, and here's a nice quote from Psychokitten:
Remember people won’t change for you and trying to change your partner nearly always leads to heartbreak.
Have you ever tried to change for your mate? Did you ever try to change a mate? How does this fit with standards and expectations you have for a relationship? How important is it just to accept your partner and be accepted by your partner?
/me shoves this thread out of dry dock
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I slowly changed to suit a girl once. I even thought I loved her at one stage. All it took was one weekend of shinanigans to realise that we were two different people and that it wasn't going to work.
Still here, still single, and still no sex. Not that I haven't been offered or can't get any.
 
I dont think I have ever tried to change anyone.
But that is not my reason for posting here today, I am posting to vent. My ex is a complete selfish wanker and I am so much better off without the bastard. The shit he put me through :(
I have never ever been treated that bad by someone, and noone deserves that treatment.
Atleast I have learned a lesson from this... and that is... oh fuck it, I dunno what it is... I guess never base your decisions on another person and what they want you to do because you might get fucked over and then feel like a complete dick.
The second ex that is going into my hate book.
 
My ex tried to change me.... once again it had to do with smoking.... but also my drug habits.
He succeeded for a while, but it only lead me to lie to him....
The bad things are just part of accepting a person if you ask me.
But me is happy now :) *sends the boy a kiss*
 
Originally posted by sydkiwi
If he was right for me he'd quit.
I'm shocked.
you're expecting someone to give up a part of their life for you? you're entering into these relationships on the basis that the person will change for you?
You can never expect someone to change for you. A relationship with that kind of expectation just isn't going to work. The guy will just end up resenting you for making him change.
I know you're meaning that you would be the catalyst to him wanting to give up....but you can't say if they guy doesn't want to give up smoking that he doesn't like you enough!
Do you think you would ever love a guy enough to want to give up drugs? I know that I wouldn't. Drugs have been too instrumental in shaping me and what my life is like today for me to ever meet anyone who I would like enough to give up drugs. That's not saying that drugs are the be all and end all and that they rule my life, it's just that I would never give them up for a relationship with a guy. It might be ok for a while...during the period where I would spend every single waking moment with my new boy. But once the honeymoon period had worn off and I would go back to finding enjoyment out of all aspects of my life I'd resent him for removing one of the things that I really enjoy doing.
I know smoking is slightly differnt in that it's healthy to give up and can only be a good thing for the person, but my point is that you can't expect him to do that for you!
I'm not trying to have a go at you sydkiwi so please don't get offended. I'm just shocked that that's your opinion.
(can I also just say that I used to be like that...till I met a smoker...and I found that I actually didn't mind the smokers breath and actually thought him holding cigarette made him look cooler :) now I don't mind going out with smokers at all. maybe I just liked him enough to overlook the fact. maybe this just means that you don't like this guy enough to overlook the fact that he smokes.)
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