rant*N*rave
Bluelighter
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This and this:
I'm typically extremely sexual, and I have sex at least once or twice every time I see my boyfriend (a few times a week at the moment, and we usually spend most of the weekend together), BUT I'm also on a bunch of medications that can whack me out at times, and I recently got an IUD taken out (I was one of those freak medical occurrences and got ridiculously sick on it), so there are days when I just feel like rolling over and passing out. If my guy didn't respect that, I'd put his ass to the curb SO quickly... But he does, cuz he's awesome
fawkes said:no kidding. generally, women aren't like men in that it's super easy to switch into horny mode. sex can actually be uncomfortable and even down right painful if a woman isn't aroused.
relationships work when you compromise; if you're going to be a baby and throw a fit when your girl has other things on her mind than spreading her legs for your daily pleasure, maybe you need to be in a relationship where your partner panders to your sexual greediness.
It's one thing to once in a while pull out that card and ask your s/o to do something for you, whether it be a sexual favor or not, because you know, you like each other and stuff, and that's how reciprocation works and all... But it's another to demand something every day that's not only annoying to the other person but physically uncomfortable. For women, it's a completely different story if you're not into it. Too much sex when you're not turned on can actually cause psychosexual disorders.double ewe said:if your sex drives are really mis-matched (once a day vs. once a week), then it's probably best to cut your losses. there can be all the compatibility in the world, if one of you is constantly sexually frustrated and the other feeling pressured, you're not going to have a happy relationship.
if it's just the odd instance where you're in the mood but she's not, maybe see if she's ok w/ a handjob or you masturbating with here there (maybe kissing your neck/talking dirty). otherwise, porn and weed are my best recommendations.
i don't think a girlfriend is responsible for all her boyfriend's sexual needs, but i've acted interested in enough boring dinner parties, family problems and emotional meltdowns to feel like it's not unfair to ask her to act interested in a handjob every once in a while.
I'm typically extremely sexual, and I have sex at least once or twice every time I see my boyfriend (a few times a week at the moment, and we usually spend most of the weekend together), BUT I'm also on a bunch of medications that can whack me out at times, and I recently got an IUD taken out (I was one of those freak medical occurrences and got ridiculously sick on it), so there are days when I just feel like rolling over and passing out. If my guy didn't respect that, I'd put his ass to the curb SO quickly... But he does, cuz he's awesome