Lol...
If I knew my guy had been with a bunch of girls (kissing, intercourse, oral, whatever), I would actually be more grossed out. If he went after other girls, I'd be like see ya with no problems. My husband was not like that, and that is one of the main reasons I got with him to begin with... he had respect for women and relationships.
First of all, not all men who get with lots of women are "players" who don't respect women and relationships.
Second of all, no one is talking about revealing the OP's past sexual history, and no one is telling him to actively seek out other girls.
The subtle implication he should send out if that he COULD if he wanted to, not that he will. Meaning, he has the ability to get with girls.
The whole point is, wouldn't you feel much more special if your husband could get with hundreds of other girls, but he CHOSE you? On the flip side, wouldn't you be repulsed if your husband couldn't get with any other girl besides you to save his life, and NEEDED you instead of choosing to be with you?
It's not about being a player, it's about being an attractive man. An attractive man these days is someone who is fit, handsome, successful, charming, and is sought after by women. Maybe you don't like all these things, and if that's the case, you're in the minority.
Why do you place so much emphasis on sex? It sounds like there's something deeper going on than you just liking the act of sex. Plenty of people wanna have sex everyday, but most of them don't build a ton of resentment if their partner turns them down on occasion.
Are you possibly addicted to sex? It sounds like you almost have mental withdrawals when you are denied; it sounds like what you experience is akin to withdrawing from drugs and being extremely irritated when they're not available.
Or, are you placing an emphasis on sex in order to escape from something that's going on in your life? Maybe you lack passion in other areas and focus all of your emotions on the act of having sex, thereby placing an unhealthy emphasis on the sex itself?
Of course these are just random suggestions being thrown out there because I'm not quite sure why you feel this way. You've explained the fact that you do feel this way and asked whether or not this is normal and/or okay, but you haven't really given any in depth background information (at least not in your first post; I have yet to read any other replies).
Anyway, to answer your question as to whether or not it's too much to ask your partner for sex everyday, well, it truly depends on a lot of variables (think the quality of the relationship, the way your partner feels about sex to begin with, chemistry on both mental and physical levels, etc.).
I can tell you one thing: The more you place an emphasis on sex, the less she'll want to have sex with you. Whenever I've been with a guy who constantly asked me if we could have sex, I was completely turned off, especially if he got annoyed. It's just irritating when a guy constantly brings it up as if it's the most important thing. I'll have sex when I WANT to have sex, and like most women you'll know when I want to have sex because I'll make it obvious. Don't run around her begging or demanding, and don't act like a child when you don't get what you want because--once again--that'll only turn her away further.
I agree with the second part. The least attractive thing a man could do is "ask" for sex. Sex is supposed to be spontaneous and happen when both people want it, the whole "asking" part is very un sexy. And if he lets her know or begs or demands for it, yea it will push her away even more. The worst thing a man could do for his sex life is talk to his woman about how she needs to give him more sex.
However, you don't understand why he wants sex every day. That's fine, but different people have different sex drives, surely you understand that? He likes sex every day, that's his choice. No point questioning him in this, it's his personal preference.
But really, overall being sweet and loving is what made me choose him. There are infinite bad boys out there, some of whom are hot... not every guy will make you dinner when you're sick or give you massages every day or listen to you for hours regardless of whatever it is you're ranting about. Not every guy is someone you can really talk to. That real connection is what makes it work.
