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I want sex everyday from girlfriend, too much to ask?

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IzGood

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I'm a guy and was wondering is it too much to expect sex everyday from your S.O.?

For me, it's fun, I enjoy it, I don't see anything negative with it? It's not like a drug or something that causes some negativity. It's enjoyable, it's exercise and it brings you and your partner closer together.

In all my past relationships and my current one, whenever my partner says No to sex, I build resentment towards her.

I feel as though I'm supposed to be a good faithful boyfriend but yet you're denying me sex? What am I supposed to do? Cheat, masturbate, do nothing and be sad? Well for those 3 options, I can be single!

There has been the very odd occasion in my life where my partner has wanted sex and I have not (from memory because I was exhausted from work), but she really wanted it so I just rolled over and she went on top and got what she wanted. I think I was actually asleep half the time but I didn't have any problems with this.

Now I understand there may be certain times when sex would just not be on the cards....such as your pet dog dying, a relative dying, you just lost your job or some other type of disaster. I understand this!

But, tired, headache, don't feel like it, in my opinion I don't think are valid reasons in an exclusive relationship. I think the expectation of your partner to be faithful has to be reciprocated with a willingness to put out when your partner wants. What do you guys think?
 
if for any reason she is feeling pressured she will resist more. i think you'll find if you leave the ball in her court she will more than likely want sex with you.

i know it can make you frustrated and feel a little rejected when told no but the more you ask and the more you let it get you down, the more she will "just not feel like it"

just try leaving it a couple days she if she asks you....have some fun with yourself in the meantime....theres no law against it eh?....

good luck
 
Do you think if I went the other way and just never initiated sex, she would feel unloved and unattractive or would she turn around and have a higher sex drive?

And I'm not looking for a quick fix here, I've had similar problems in past relationships, I'm looking for a long term resolution to the problem.

I feel as though the answer for me is to just cheat or at least have other regular sexual partners. This would solve the problem in the sense that I would have sex more as well as having sex with my s/o. Obviously this is highly unethical and unacceptable in terms of social behavior but I feel as though pushing 1 female for sex everyday is not going to work based on my past experiences.

And also just because I think about cheating doesn't mean that I don't love my partner. I love her very much, it's just that my desire for sex overrides my desire for loyalty.
 
it should be because you both want to in all honesty. i know i get pretty pissed if my man wants to go to sleep and i'm horny but i get my own way and i never fully enjoy it anyway cos the passion isnt there that way. not as much anyway.

you could try spicing it up as another poster has said. turn her on slowly dont initiate sex just tell her you want to make her feel special and if she doesnt want sex thats fine....chances are if you play your cards right she will ride your bones. its all about the intimacy. no pressure....relaxation.
 
But, tired, headache, don't feel like it, in my opinion I don't think are valid reasons in an exclusive relationship.
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LOL. Are you kidding me? So what, she should be forced to lay there and let you screw her when she is completely not into it? Yeah... that's a hot scenario.

What do you expect? How could anyone possibly be up for sex every single day of their life? People get tired, they feel sick, they have other things on their mind... so yes, you are expecting too much that no one in reality would be able to live up to.

Perhaps it isn't that she doesn't want sex, she just doesn't want sex with you.
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Yeah, I wouldn't want to give my body to someone so lacking compassion for MY wants and needs either.
 
MynameisnotDeja said:
What do you expect? How could anyone possibly be up for sex every single day of their life? People get tired, they feel sick, they have other things on their mind... so yes, you are expecting too much that no one in reality would be able to live up to.
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There are plenty of people like that.
 
MynameisnotDeja said:
LOL. Are you kidding me? So what, she should be forced to lay there and let you screw her when she is completely not into it? Yeah... that's a hot scenario.
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no kidding. generally, women aren't like men in that it's super easy to switch into horny mode. sex can actually be uncomfortable and even down right painful if a woman isn't aroused.

relationships work when you compromise; if you're going to be a baby and throw a fit when your girl has other things on her mind than spreading her legs for your daily pleasure, maybe you need to be in a relationship where your partner panders to your sexual greediness.
 
you sound like a kid throwing a tantrum when mommy doesn't give him his milk in the morning.
hydroazuanacaine said:
get turned on by turning her on. make it so she wants to get fucked, and then fuck her. dont just decide its time to have sex now for today. it's an of the moment kinda thing, not a "I wanna have sex now, so please oblige" kinda thing.
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this.
if for any reason she is feeling pressured she will resist more. i think you'll find if you leave the ball in her court she will more than likely want sex with you.
i know it can make you frustrated and feel a little rejected when told no but the more you ask and the more you let it get you down, the more she will "just not feel like it"
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this.
 
IzGood said:
I feel as though I'm supposed to be a good faithful boyfriend but yet you're denying me sex? What am I supposed to do? Cheat, masturbate, do nothing and be sad? Well for those 3 options, I can be single!
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i think your being too demanding. its like your saying "she has to do everything i want.."

IzGood said:
There has been the very odd occasion in my life where my partner has wanted sex and I have not (from memory because I was exhausted from work), but she really wanted it so I just rolled over and she went on top and got what she wanted. I think I was actually asleep half the time but I didn't have any problems with this.
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like thats embarrassing. not to mention mean. why even bother having sex if your not gonna be into it. my bf has only done that to me once, and it made me feel uninteresting and shitty and not worth having sex with. its a dick move. granted he did make it up to me later, but still.

IzGood said:
But, tired, headache, don't feel like it, in my opinion I don't think are valid reasons in an exclusive relationship. I think the expectation of your partner to be faithful has to be reciprocated with a willingness to put out when your partner wants.
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now you just sound like a five year old, like i said before, expecting her to do it when ever you please. what about what she wants. you have to make compromises. just masturbate or something.
 
Fawkes said:
no kidding. generally, women aren't like men in that it's super easy to switch into horny mode. sex can actually be uncomfortable and even down right painful if a woman isn't aroused.
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Exactly. We have to be turned on. Just like the guy has to be turned on or he won't be able to get his mushy soft dick inside of her. If the mechanics aren't right, it won't work.

I consider myself a pretty sexual person and if I am very tired I can't get physically aroused. There is no energy for the process to happen. So if I was tired and unable to get in the mood it isn't like I would just be being selfish. It won't physically happen. I wouldn't tolerate a partner who would be so incredibly insensitive to that. Women are not blow up dolls.

if for any reason she is feeling pressured she will resist more.
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Exactly. Sex is supposed to be romantic and fun. It isn't exactly sexy if it becomes something you have to cross off your to do list with the rest of your daily chores.
 
Maybe you just need to find a girl who wants sex as much as you do. Or you need satisfying sex that you don't need every day because you're satisfied with it (does that make sense?). I used to want sex with my ex every day. Because he sucked at it and I had hope or something ridiculous. My boyfriend now satisfies me and I don't need it every day. Although like every other day is nice :)
 
IzGood said:
Do you think if I went the other way and just never initiated sex, she would feel unloved and unattractive or would she turn around and have a higher sex drive?

And I'm not looking for a quick fix here, I've had similar problems in past relationships, I'm looking for a long term resolution to the problem.

I feel as though the answer for me is to just cheat or at least have other regular sexual partners. This would solve the problem in the sense that I would have sex more as well as having sex with my s/o. Obviously this is highly unethical and unacceptable in terms of social behavior but I feel as though pushing 1 female for sex everyday is not going to work based on my past experiences.

And also just because I think about cheating doesn't mean that I don't love my partner. I love her very much, it's just that my desire for sex overrides my desire for loyalty.
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Time for an open relationship. Were you both can enjoy others. But you have to be ok with her being with other guys
 
If doesn't want to have sex one day for what ever reason (being tired and having a headache are valid reasons, especially the headache. who wants to fuck when they can't even think!), just masturbate to some porn. Get yourself off if it isn't the ideal situation between you too.
 
llama112 said:
Maybe you just need to find a girl who wants sex as much as you do. Or you need satisfying sex that you don't need every day because you're satisfied with it (does that make sense?). I used to want sex with my ex every day. Because he sucked at it and I had hope or something ridiculous. My boyfriend now satisfies me and I don't need it every day. Although like every other day is nice :)
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Damn it your absolutely right. ! Lol
 
if your sex drives are really mis-matched (once a day vs. once a week), then it's probably best to cut your losses. there can be all the compatibility in the world, if one of you is constantly sexually frustrated and the other feeling pressured, you're not going to have a happy relationship.

if it's just the odd instance where you're in the mood but she's not, maybe see if she's ok w/ a handjob or you masturbating with here there (maybe kissing your neck/talking dirty). otherwise, porn and weed are my best recommendations.

i don't think a girlfriend is responsible for all her boyfriend's sexual needs, but i've acted interested in enough boring dinner parties, family problems and emotional meltdowns to feel like it's not unfair to ask her to act interested in a handjob every once in a while.
 
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