Women calling men creeps, is it sometimes about attention?

[ChemicallyEnhanced]

On social media, MOST of the time, especially tiktok. Girls filming themselves in the gym and then if the recording catches a guy looking at them, even really briefly (like, we all glance around kinda randomly a bit when we don't have anything particular to look at).
I saw this girl on live at the gym and this guy looked at her a couple times when she was one of the machines, then he started to approach her and she was like (to camera) "I'm gonna confront this CREEP" and when she started going off at him he was like "Okay, first of all hello. Second of all, I work here. Third of all I'm gay, and fourth of all, you're using that wrong and I was worried you'd hurt yourself". lmao the look on her face.

Like, always believe actual victims, but some people are just so narcissistic and deluded.

 

[crazyhairman]

I would make the same point about men that claim "they don't understand women".

 

[moonyham]

Im nothing special (in fact I’m a junkie in early recovery) and I’ve slept with 20 women so far this year. I’m not particularly good looking and I’m not rich. It’s not that hard if you have even an ounce of game and a dating app.

Doesn't even count if they weren't bareback.

 

[Neuroprotection]

Doesn't even count if they weren't bareback.

For me, it doesn’t count if they weren’t barefoot

 

[sigmond]

I get called a creep because I don’t smile enough and don’t show enough interest. I noticed some women who feel rejected will respond by spreading lies about the man, “creep” being one of the most common.

 

[Neuroprotection]

I get called a creep because I don’t smile enough and don’t show enough interest. I noticed some women who feel rejected will respond by spreading lies about the man, “creep” being one of the most common.

Okay, that’s the strangest reason I’ve ever heard for calling someone a creep! it just shows that the women who over use this Word or use it out of context seem to know just how much it can hurt some men. whenever I’ve heard a girl regularly use the word creep for everyone, I instinctively move away from them, and make extra effort not to talk to them. I think some of them enjoy coaxing men into a situation where they flirt with them and then turn on them and call them a disgusting creep. there’s also the very disturbing possibility, though probably exceptionally rare, that a girl with such tendencies May Harbour the dark intent of making a false accusation of sexual assault. I want to reaffirm that this is very rare, but it has happened in the area where I live.

 

[Doctor Steve Brule]

If a man is shy and decent looking he is "mysterious" but if not so good looking, various levels of "creep." Attractiveness is more objective with women's, oscillating more depending on ovulation cycle. I just barfed in my mouth writing that. Guess that means I'm a creep or at least a dipdoodoo.

 

[xtcgrrrl]

Yea I’ve been followed out to my car, ect. too

When I was working as a stripper to put myself through college (yes that is an actual thing that happens) I was followed home once. The bouncers walk the dancers to their cars so that they’re not accosted in the parking lot, but I saw this guy pull out the parking lot behind me and tailgate me on my way home. I was terrified, so instead of going home I drove to the police station and parked there until he drove away. Then I shakily drove home. That was the only time that ever happened, but it was super scary. And creepy.

 

[AngelsandFairiesarereal]

When I was working as a stripper to put myself through college (yes that is an actual thing that happens) I was followed home once. The bouncers walk the dancers to their cars so that they’re not accosted in the parking lot, but I saw this guy pull out the parking lot behind me and tailgate me on my way home. I was terrified, so instead of going home I drove to the police station and parked there until he drove away. Then I shakily drove home. That was the only time that ever happened, but it was super scary. And creepy.

Wow yes when I was a bartender I had very similar experiences

 

[moonyham]

Because women resort to shaming tactics to fuck men up and try to ruin reputation, and emotionally manipulate others... You are only a creep if she does not find you attractive, otherwise it's cute. You know that any below average woman is capable of summoning a little army of "white knight" simps to "save her" too.

An actual creep would be a real stalker/rapist.

This is very true. I'm pretty good looking and have 'gotten away' with saying all sorts of stuff. Then again I just don't really give a fuck in general and if I wanna tell a girl she looks great then I will.

 

[ketquest]

This is very true. I'm pretty good looking and have 'gotten away' with saying all sorts of stuff. Then again I just don't really give a fuck in general and if I wanna tell a girl she looks great then I will.

Even being good looking you might get some revenge burn by turning them down. They hate being rejected and some will come up with lies to ruin you.

 

[moonyham]

These days I don't work with attractive women lol. But when I was younger and bartending, I was pretty wild and surrounded by them. Even then though, you can usually spot the sour vengeful types pretty easily and you act accordingly.

 

[Frog Dreams]

I see young women walking around all the time, dressed as sexually as society will allow, showing as much skin as possible, all plucked and shaved and made up with their hair done... and then they give me a weird look when I walk past if I even glance at them. More so now, because I'm middle aged and I have a long wiry beard like a homeless person. Funny thing is, I'm not interested in that type of woman. I'd honestly rather not have them parading around like that if they're going to glare at me like I'm a predator. I can see more skin on the internet. It's all in their head.

There are heaps of young women around who are obviously super self-conscious about how much skin they are showing. So why do it?

Doesn't indicate very good mental health to me. Same thing with guys who walk around with their shirt off so everyone can see how muscly they are... although they typically don't give a fuck if people look at them.

...

If men dress as sexually as possible, women would call them creeps.

When women walk around dressed as sexually as possible, they call men creeps.

We're creeps either way, apparently.

It's all insecurity and projection, IMO.

If you go to a hippy nudist festival, naked men and women just interact with each other as normal.

 

[Neuroprotection]

I see young women walking around all the time, dressed as sexually as society will allow, showing as much skin as possible, all plucked and shaved and made up with their hair done... and then they give me a weird look when I walk past if I even glance at them. More so now, because I'm middle aged and I have a long wiry beard like a homeless person. Funny thing is, I'm not interested in that type of woman. I'd honestly rather not have them parading around like that if they're going to glare at me like I'm a predator. I can see more skin on the internet. It's all in their head.

There are heaps of young women around who are obviously super self-conscious about how much skin they are showing. So why do it?

Doesn't indicate very good mental health to me. Same thing with guys who walk around with their shirt off so everyone can see how muscly they are... although they typically don't give a fuck if people look at them.

...

If men dress as sexually as possible, women would call them creeps.

When women walk around dressed as sexually as possible, they call men creeps.

We're creeps either way, apparently.

It's all insecurity and projection, IMO.

If you go to a hippy nudist festival, naked men and women just interact with each other as normal.

All that you said is so true. The thing is, such insecure women that constantly call men creeps for no good reason just come across as repulsive to be around. when I was at school and university, I came across many extremely popular girls. those of them that constantly use the word creep were generally very insecure and tended to attract male and female friends who were simply using them for their social status or to pass time. on the other hand, The girls that didn’t miss use this term were much more respected and loved by everyone.

 

[Foreigner]

Some women know how to use the term properly. A creep is a persistent guy who won't take no for an answer, who lurks or proceeds to engage with you in obvious but manipulative courtship behaviors. That is a creep in my eyes.

For the rest of women, you're only a creep when they don't want it. When they do want it, it's flattery.

And yes women weaponize this term to degrade men. I've seen it more times than I can remember.

I'm gay and I've seen gay men use this behavior too, but it seems like it's because they internalize the attitudes of their mothers or female friends. It's bizarre.

I like being flirted with. If I don't find the guy attractive or I'm not interested, I just say that. I don't think he's a creep unless he refuses to back off. I am much more annoyed by how modern culture has created so many imaginary "microaggressions" that people are afraid to approach one another. So they just stand around on their phones talking to their friends, being lonely. It sucks.

 

[Kellsee]

This is one of the reasons that I think more effort needs to be invested into understanding just how toxic and destructive shame can be. Words do matter. And people need to be more accountable for the effect that they have on other people. At some point it doesn’t even matter that you don’t understand why something that you are saying is hurting someone else. If it’s hurting someone or making them feel uncomfortable then stop! You don’t have to understand why someone else is offended for it to be validated as offensive. Them saying it does is enough. But then at the same time there’s people that always out victimize everyone else so that they never have to be accountable so it’s not always an easy boundary to define.

I think what it comes down to is learning to determine what’s within your control and what’s not. We waste so much energy on what’s futile

Ultimately you have no control over someone else being a dick and using words irresponsibly. You usually cant stop people from calling you names if they are willing to. But it might help to remember that most people are only projecting and it’s probably not even about you as much as you’re thinking it is anyways. I’d much rather be the one offended than someone that needs to be able to tear someone else down in order to feel complete. Bless their hearts! May they get well soon.

 

[Neuroprotection]

This is one of the reasons that I think more effort needs to be invested into understanding just how toxic and destructive shame can be. Words do matter. And people need to be more accountable for the effect that they have on other people. At some point it doesn’t even matter that you don’t understand why something that you are saying is hurting someone else. If it’s hurting someone or making them feel uncomfortable then stop! You don’t have to understand why someone else is offended for it to be validated as offensive. Them saying it does is enough. But then at the same time there’s people that always out victimize everyone else so that they never have to be accountable so it’s not always an easy boundary to define.

I think what it comes down to is learning to determine what’s within your control and what’s not. We waste so much energy on what’s futile

Ultimately you have no control over someone else being a dick and using words irresponsibly. You usually cant stop people from calling you names if they are willing to. But it might help to remember that most people are only projecting and it’s probably not even about you as much as you’re thinking it is anyways. I’d much rather be the one offended than someone that needs to be able to tear someone else down in order to feel complete. Bless their hearts! May they get well soon.

All that you said is so true thanks. i’ve actually noticed that being confident and not caring about what disturbed people say/Think forces them to respect you and they come begging for attention.

 

[Frog Dreams]

This is one of the reasons that I think more effort needs to be invested into understanding just how toxic and destructive shame can be. Words do matter. And people need to be more accountable for the effect that they have on other people. At some point it doesn’t even matter that you don’t understand why something that you are saying is hurting someone else. If it’s hurting someone or making them feel uncomfortable then stop! You don’t have to understand why someone else is offended for it to be validated as offensive. Them saying it does is enough. But then at the same time there’s people that always out victimize everyone else so that they never have to be accountable so it’s not always an easy boundary to define.

I think what it comes down to is learning to determine what’s within your control and what’s not. We waste so much energy on what’s futile

Ultimately you have no control over someone else being a dick and using words irresponsibly. You usually cant stop people from calling you names if they are willing to. But it might help to remember that most people are only projecting and it’s probably not even about you as much as you’re thinking it is anyways. I’d much rather be the one offended than someone that needs to be able to tear someone else down in order to feel complete. Bless their hearts! May they get well soon.

Shame ultimately comes from within.

Some people are riddled with shame, despite not being significantly shamed by others.

It is internal. Trauma is internal. They are decisions.

...

But, I agree with you on another level. I've definitely been shamed by women for being a creep when it is totally in their head and I'm just a nice person who happens to look like a creep.

 

[deficiT]

Good stand up bit about this from Drew Michael.

"That's the problem with being a single dude, because you're just this creep. Everybody knows it. There's no one way to own it. You're just this creep, trying to figure out what to say to trick people into fucking you."

 

[Illyria99]

Too many women walking round with their tits bursting out then calling men creeps for looking or commenting.

Definitely true. A lot of women here in LA walk around in tight yoga pants, no underwear on, serious camel toe, and their crack right in your face. And if a guy looks at them twice, they're all, "OMG what a perv, he's looking at meeeeee, I feel so violated!"

Honestly, if I dressed like that, it means I want to get fucked. Duh.