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Why are women attracted to men who are assholes?

Yep and nothing too exciting about a nice guy. Girls like guys that use women for sex, a rapist wit. girls are just as sick as guys. I'm perrsonally a nice guy myself though.
 
oh, it's easy to be interesting and still a nice guy, and still get the shaft...

i got a lecture this past weekend saying that "i deserve a perfect relationship" because i'm sweet and thoughtful and all that shit... but that i basically need to be an asshole more often. the lecturer then went on to say that they still want to hang out because they have fun with me, but that they don't want anything more because right now they aren't looking for the type of guy women are supposed to marry...

my mind boggles...

and now my rant begins...

when did i become marriage material? i'm drunk 3/4 days a week, i work full-time and go to school full-time so i have no time to even entertain the idea of a real girlfriend- let alone a "perfect relationship". but because i'm a nice guy the one day of the week i spend with a girl i get drama exploding in my face? it just cracks me up- i start seeing someone different from who i usually date because i don't want a commitment and they freak out because i'm a nice guy and they don't think they should be with me...
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...
 
^^that just sounds like a complicated way of blowing you off.

generally whenever i say, he's a nice guy, i mean, he's nice, i'd be friends with him, but i don't want to date him.

that doesn't necessarily mean, bring on the assholes so i can get fucked over! yay!
 
it was way out-of-context for a blow off, but enough drama for me to tell her to stay the f out of my life permanently. i don't have time to deal with that.
 
I dunno... I'm boring... geeky... I smell most days... hate small talk... won't see stupid movies... NEVER go out... and pretty much expect anyone who wants to be with me to accept me the way I am or bail....

nobody ever wants to bail... I gotta kick 'em out.
 
Some of us are born assholes, some of us are made assholes... Every nice guy can become an asshole...
 
I just love in this thread how obvious the "nice guys" are and who the "assholes" are.

Some whine, some whinge, some brag

Even still it is oh so obvious who is getting laid and who is not.
 
We can get the girl if we scrutinize ourselves first.Is your haristyle outdated or wrong for your face?change it.Your clothes?get some clothes that look good on you.Halitosis?invest in dental work.Fat?gyms need new members constantly.ignorant?educate yourself.

What I'm saying is change yourself for the better and you'll be freshly confident and newly complimented.Also there are 16 diff personality types.Think about the women you've had and the women you want.Where did it work.where didn't it work and what went wrong?

One more thing to remember.Beauty fades but personality lasts forever.
 
the answer was posted.
passive nice guy: dude who never goes out and gets what he wants
active nice guy : dude who goes out and gets what he wants
asshole: doesnt give a fuck.

the truth here is.
active nice guy will get all the chicks. it all derives from being STRONGER, BETTER than everyone else. when you're young that is drilled into your mind... your parents would have told you you were better.. or best.. or whatever.... from birth you are drilled that (subconciously more son now-a-days) you are BETTER than females.. STRONGER than females .. eg.
i know many small kids where ive heard the parents say "dont hurt ur sister, shes not as strong as you"
assholes are "STRONG"... alpha male status comes from being STRONGEST part of a group. assholes are also CONFIDENT.
weak nice guys come last.
 
Play with dice!! Wake up one morning and say "ok, i'll give the option of being an asshole to all the girls EVENS, and being nice and accomadating and agreeable ODDS"

Then roll the dice and act it out.

To succeed you must first fail. To fail you must try. To try you must do. To do you've got to get off your arse and act!

"..........the dice made me do it!" - Chalk as a young boy
 
Why don't I take back that rambling stoned sermon I wrote yesterday and say something useful. 8) Edit.

Comb-overs (a.k.a. barcode hair) are pathetic beyond words. Why? You're BALD, dude. And everybody knows it. No comb-over has EVER passed for a full head of hair, and none ever will.

Being nice to a fault is a lot like wearing a comb-over on your personality. Most likely you've got some very glaring personality flaw. You're cowardly. Or cripplingly shy. Or boring. Or socially clumsy. Or lazy. Or selfish. Or short tempered. Or a control freak. Or irresponsible. Or you talk a lot of bullshit. Trust me, whatever it is, IT SHOWS. In fact, you're probably the only one who can't see it.

You probably wonder why no matter how many layers of saccharine niceness you wrap around yourself, people can always see through it, and STILL avoid you for your flaw.

Well, they're not really avoiding you for your flaw exactly. They're avoiding you for your BLATANT UNWILLINGNESS TO ADMIT, and work on fixing, your flaw.:X

My suggestion for anyone (guy or girl) who's nice and perpetually single:
1. Ask the three people closest to you what your 3 biggest flaws are. Tell them to be very frank with you and promise you won't get angry no matter what they say.
2. Don't defend yourself or even comment. Just listen. When they finish, just thank them and end the conversation. Take what they say to heart.
3. Use the internet to find free online support groups for people with the same flaws as yours. Sounds silly, but no matter what your flaw is, there's a group for it.
4. Take the concrete steps your group suggests.

You can become a better person. You DESERVE to become a better person, in fact. Admitting you have a flaw and trying to do something about it is attractive in and of itself. It shows you're strong and adaptable, refuse to give up or make excuses.

BTW, when I say "nice", I mean overly nice to everyone. Being a pleaser. There is certainly nothing wrong with being nice to people who have shown you they're capable of appreciating niceness. But be cautious, because to many people, nice equals "easy to use". Being nice to such people is like giving pearls to pigs.
 
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It sounds to me like you need to be more selective with the women you date. I always date the nice men. I can't stand the "player guys." However, there is a difference between being a nice guy and being a push-over. Are you allowing these girls to walk all over you, or possibly not speaking up for yourself? If so , then that could be the problem. If that isn't the case, then keep the faith my man. There are many women that have a good head on their shoulders and love nice guys. I think some girls don't like nice guys because they need drama in their life or because they like the games. Speaking from a girl's point of view, the nice guys always win with me. Of course, looks are important but if his personality isn't cool and he's lacking ethics, sincerity, or compassion I wouldn't waste my time.
 
this doesnt apply to everyone...some girls certainly are attracted to the whole arsehol thing...
but also, a few of the guys who have whinged about this very topic have rated themselves too highly...

they always go on and on and make a big deal of things they do...their boasting in itself eventually detracts from the thing they have done...their continual and excessive search for praise and acknowledgment illustrates that the kind act does not come from the heart.

and in rating themselves so highly, they actually fail to see their shortcomings or even the obvious and basic nicities that they should do...they arent half as sweet and caring as they think they are

eh ive made this out to sound like it applies to everyone...but really its just to a couple of people i know
 
Most woman go for assholes because most woman have an extremely low self confidence in themselves to begin with. They feel loathsome and act like they arent good enough. Being with an asshole makes them feel better about themselves because they are with a guy that are confident and that really couldnt care less about them.

Woman dont want to be in a club where they are welcome as a member.

But woman fall into the same trap, same abusive relationship and it ends the same way with them being played. Instead of learning they fall back into the asshole trap time and time again. Its not the fault of the nice guys, they are just being who they are. Its the fact that woman can barely look at themselves in the mirror and not feel adiquite.

Nice guys have to be assertive to a certain extent. Woman can smell fear from a guy a mile away and avoid it like the plague. Why? Because if the guy likes them then there must be something wrong with them because they dont have any self esteem to think, hey this guy might actually be a decent person.
 
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