MindBodyStregnth
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I was laughing cuz I though you were making a refference towards always cumming last.I thought hmm I guess that could be constituted as a nice guy trait.8)
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Why are women attracted to men who are assholes?
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djwhirlpool
Bluelighter
my boy is a nice guy and he will always win. 
Bluelighter18
Bluelighter
lol im a asshole but not to girls though hahaha im the nice guy with confidence ha i dont give a shit
lostpunk5545
Bluelighter
Ha ha nice huys definately finish last... I'm living proof
ToM-OoO
Bluelighter
Yeah i have to agree also, we finish last.
but i lack in confidence. That's the way i am so i deal with it. There is no point crying about it, either put up with it or try and have confidence and be a so called "ass hole"
but i lack in confidence. That's the way i am so i deal with it. There is no point crying about it, either put up with it or try and have confidence and be a so called "ass hole"
I'm a nice guy :D
Sadly,I currently am finishing last.
By the way I am confident.I ask girls out("I've asked a variety of different girls out,quiet ones,popular ones,different personality types,different sort of looks,etc,etc,etc").They either turn me down or stuff me around
.I'm NOT needy and get to know the person,in other cases the girls don't want to ruin the friendship 
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Where do people pull this crap that ALL 'nice guys' aren't confident?
I'm also NOT a push over and treat people the way I wish to be treated.If you treat me bad, then I don't talk to that person involved again.
Asshole does NOT = 'confident'.
Asshole= "Up themselves", "Dishonest", "Two -Faced",etc.....
Also,I'm damn HOT so it can't be my looks.This shows MOST woman are only interested in assholes ("Or at least the women I've met so far in my life ") .
I think the problem is when it comes to dating the MEN do the asking out(IN MOST CASES,always the rare cases when a woman asks the guy out. ) and the women do the choosing.
If the woman has many guys after them in some cases they make a DUD choice,they can repeat DUD choice after DUD choice thus explaining why said woman claim "all men are assholes",whch is NOT the case.Us nice guys are out here,you just have to make the right choices women or even SHOCK HORROR ask a guy out.("*This directed at the women who are single and the one's unhappy with finding assholes").
No the above paragraph is NOT an attack on women. Because it makes me think to times, when I have had many choices to make, for something and can find it hard on which one to choice.eg's: "Where to go for holidays,what job to take,etc,etc..I may end up choosing the wrong one("NOT the eg's but you should get my point"),many times too.NO ONE'S PERFECT AND IT CAN BE HARD TO PICK JUST ONE IF YOU HAVE MANY CHOICES.But,I have to learn to make the right choice just as woman have to learn to make the right choice ("*").
LONG LIVE US NICE GUYS!!!!!!!!!
Sadly,I currently am finishing last.
By the way I am confident.I ask girls out("I've asked a variety of different girls out,quiet ones,popular ones,different personality types,different sort of looks,etc,etc,etc").They either turn me down or stuff me around
.I'm NOT needy and get to know the person,in other cases the girls don't want to ruin the friendship .Where do people pull this crap that ALL 'nice guys' aren't confident?
I'm also NOT a push over and treat people the way I wish to be treated.If you treat me bad, then I don't talk to that person involved again.
Asshole does NOT = 'confident'.
Asshole= "Up themselves", "Dishonest", "Two -Faced",etc.....
Also,I'm damn HOT so it can't be my looks.This shows MOST woman are only interested in assholes
("Or at least the women I've met so far in my life ") .I think the problem is when it comes to dating the MEN do the asking out(IN MOST CASES,always the rare cases when a woman asks the guy out. ) and the women do the choosing.
If the woman has many guys after them in some cases they make a DUD choice,they can repeat DUD choice after DUD choice thus explaining why said woman claim "all men are assholes",whch is NOT the case.Us nice guys are out here,you just have to make the right choices women or even SHOCK HORROR ask a guy out.("*This directed at the women who are single and the one's unhappy with finding assholes").
No the above paragraph is NOT an attack on women. Because it makes me think to times, when I have had many choices to make, for something and can find it hard on which one to choice.eg's: "Where to go for holidays,what job to take,etc,etc..I may end up choosing the wrong one("NOT the eg's but you should get my point"),many times too.NO ONE'S PERFECT AND IT CAN BE HARD TO PICK JUST ONE IF YOU HAVE MANY CHOICES.But,I have to learn to make the right choice just as woman have to learn to make the right choice ("*").
LONG LIVE US NICE GUYS!!!!!!!!!
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tathra
bluelighter
you mean we eventually finish somewhere? i'm looking forward to it. hopefully it'll happen within the next couple years... ![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
Gamecat
Bluelighter
I've found that nice guy oesn't always = lacks confidence and asshole oesn't always = has confidence...
Nice guy is a term tht seems to have been made up by guys who aren't getting any. They tend to be a little over zealous. (Let me show this girl I just met how much I really care about her) which feels awkward and weird to people. (duh)
Asshole is a term made up by the nice guys to describe the guy who just took their girl.
Nice guy is a term tht seems to have been made up by guys who aren't getting any. They tend to be a little over zealous. (Let me show this girl I just met how much I really care about her) which feels awkward and weird to people. (duh)
Asshole is a term made up by the nice guys to describe the guy who just took their girl.
djwhirlpool
Bluelighter
i think a lot of guys who don't get chicks think it's b/c they're too nice, when really it might be b/c they just suck.
just a thought.
just a thought.
randycaver
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djwhirlpool said:
ive claimed that for a long time. maybe they really don't have any redeeming qualities. maybe they are boring, etc. i seriously doubt most girls want a guy that treats them like shit.
amen sista
PottedMeat
Bluelighter
Re: nice guys
Yeah. Introduce the person to your parents as soon as possible. Mothers are blessed with the gift of meeting a potential prospect and sizing them up. It is incredible.
I once dated this girl, for the first time, and I had to forego an "interview process" with her mother the first time I met her.
As we were walking out the door; I asked may date "did I pass" and she promptly replied, "if you didn't, we would not be getting in the car right now".
Damn I love women!
CoolStick said:
Yeah. Introduce the person to your parents as soon as possible. Mothers are blessed with the gift of meeting a potential prospect and sizing them up. It is incredible.
I once dated this girl, for the first time, and I had to forego an "interview process" with her mother the first time I met her.
As we were walking out the door; I asked may date "did I pass" and she promptly replied, "if you didn't, we would not be getting in the car right now".
Damn I love women!
I disagree I like nice guys and I hope to marry one someday
Players are screwed they think there good looking and smooth when in reality there just attention seeking fools. Nice guys respect girls and look after them and that is why I always date nice guys
Players are screwed they think there good looking and smooth when in reality there just attention seeking fools. Nice guys respect girls and look after them and that is why I always date nice guys
Tylerdurden
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I'm a nice guy, but it doesn't mean I'm a geek. Nor does it mean I'm shy & insecure.
It means I'm not a player, I don't see women as a hunter does it's prey. I don't try and add as many women to my "have done" list, to boost my chauvinist ego.
I'm not religious, but I see women in a pagan way, as different but equals.
This whole 'game playing', is a load of crap. It's responsible for a lot of the misunderstanding and hurt between the sexes today. It’s due to our conditioning, men must be machos & women be ‘caught’. It’s not assholes vs nice guys, it’s real guys vs sleazy, false guys. Of course, nerds will call themselves nice guys because they lack any sort of confidence & can only dream about being assertive, they couldn’t be assholes if they wanted to. And yes you must be a gentleman to get a chick, and show them you care. It doesn’t mean play a whole ‘hard to get’ nonsense. I prefer to make friends with a girl first, then tell her how I feel about her.
Being a nice guy means being honest & being yourself with women and treating them as equals, not meat. A chick should like you for who you are, not for who you can pretend to be.
It means I'm not a player, I don't see women as a hunter does it's prey. I don't try and add as many women to my "have done" list, to boost my chauvinist ego.
I'm not religious, but I see women in a pagan way, as different but equals.
This whole 'game playing', is a load of crap. It's responsible for a lot of the misunderstanding and hurt between the sexes today. It’s due to our conditioning, men must be machos & women be ‘caught’. It’s not assholes vs nice guys, it’s real guys vs sleazy, false guys. Of course, nerds will call themselves nice guys because they lack any sort of confidence & can only dream about being assertive, they couldn’t be assholes if they wanted to. And yes you must be a gentleman to get a chick, and show them you care. It doesn’t mean play a whole ‘hard to get’ nonsense. I prefer to make friends with a girl first, then tell her how I feel about her.
Being a nice guy means being honest & being yourself with women and treating them as equals, not meat. A chick should like you for who you are, not for who you can pretend to be.
Gamecat
Bluelighter
There's a difference between actually being an actual nice guy and what is commonly reffered to as the nice guy who always finishes last.
You can be a nice person and still get plenty of dates/action. Thats not at all what the term is reffering to. The term is mainly used by those guys that aren't getting any because they're acting like fools. They're being pushovers, and come across as desperate. But because they'll do just bout anything to prove to her that they're the right one for her, they see themselves as the ultimate nice guy. "Oh nice guys always finish last." No they don't. Pushovers finish last.
You can be a nice person and still get plenty of dates/action. Thats not at all what the term is reffering to. The term is mainly used by those guys that aren't getting any because they're acting like fools. They're being pushovers, and come across as desperate. But because they'll do just bout anything to prove to her that they're the right one for her, they see themselves as the ultimate nice guy. "Oh nice guys always finish last." No they don't. Pushovers finish last.
belisimo
Bluelighter
I agree. Being a girl and often being struck by the asshole /nice guy syndrome myself. I can't help but feel sorry for nice guys. My only advice to nice guys out there, is to try to be a little bit hard to get while courting a girl, when you've got her she will want you to be nice then.
tathra
bluelighter
fuck 'em before you befriend 'em, otherwise you'll be stuck as just a friend forever
from my and many others' experiences, thats the way it works.
from my and many others' experiences, thats the way it works.
nothinginside
Bluelighter
the reason i seem to not like the assholes of the argument is because they're just not real.
people who think they're so much more than the other just turn me off in general.. we all have assholes.. and mouths.. all the rest is just details.
that's why i remain "nice".. i consider it a bit more reserved.. more real.. conversation is good.. but not a one-person controlling other-person kinda thing..
people tend to think that they actually matter. the only way you matter is if you make yourself related to the other... connect, relate. converse.
the only thing that matters is the relations between us.. alone we're nothing. alone we're alone. nobody has a clue who you are but you so why don't you let someone know you?
i'm a nice guy... a bit weird while stoned --- as i'm typing..
but that's just my take on things.. i don't see why this all has to be an ego game.... we're all the same here.. we should just go with it..
but yeah.. nice guys can be a bit wussy.. i am one of those.. but i remain wussy only until i have to do otherwise.
people who think they're so much more than the other just turn me off in general.. we all have assholes.. and mouths.. all the rest is just details.
that's why i remain "nice".. i consider it a bit more reserved.. more real.. conversation is good.. but not a one-person controlling other-person kinda thing..
people tend to think that they actually matter. the only way you matter is if you make yourself related to the other... connect, relate. converse.
the only thing that matters is the relations between us.. alone we're nothing. alone we're alone. nobody has a clue who you are but you so why don't you let someone know you?
i'm a nice guy... a bit weird while stoned --- as i'm typing..
but that's just my take on things.. i don't see why this all has to be an ego game.... we're all the same here.. we should just go with it..
but yeah.. nice guys can be a bit wussy.. i am one of those.. but i remain wussy only until i have to do otherwise.
LahLahGatecrasher
Bluelighter
Oh
There is a saying:
Be mean keep them keen!!
And that is soo right, but then there are the arseholes out there that think they are supper nice guyz, but if you realize nice guyz like the hot slim chick, perfict bod, and etc... and thats why they get rejected off coz of the choice of the higher class girl. they wont settle for second best, just the average chik who wants to hav tons of fun, maybe be curvy, thats when then average chiks think the "nice guyz" are real arseholes.... Nice guyz??? is there a nice guy out there??
No men are only out there for one thing, and are selfish pigs!!
Now why do u think I can only being myself to be friends with guyz?? Coz I now, well atm bring myself to be only friends with heaps of guyz, I know only be friends wont hurt me as much as if I was with one of them as there girlfriend!!
There is a saying:
Be mean keep them keen!!
And that is soo right, but then there are the arseholes out there that think they are supper nice guyz, but if you realize nice guyz like the hot slim chick, perfict bod, and etc... and thats why they get rejected off coz of the choice of the higher class girl. they wont settle for second best, just the average chik who wants to hav tons of fun, maybe be curvy, thats when then average chiks think the "nice guyz" are real arseholes.... Nice guyz??? is there a nice guy out there??
No men are only out there for one thing, and are selfish pigs!!
Now why do u think I can only being myself to be friends with guyz?? Coz I now, well atm bring myself to be only friends with heaps of guyz, I know only be friends wont hurt me as much as if I was with one of them as there girlfriend!!