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Why are women attracted to men who are assholes?

yeh i agree 100% with alf
also check deez points
* Any guy that gets laid more than you do is an arsehole.
* You want to be friends with nice people. Girls rarely want to date friends. The really nice guys become friends before they get a chance to try for the shag.
Instead of going all "I watched "little women" with my ma last night and found it a very insightful experience" try and step back a little - make yourself a little more mysterious and then the girl might be interested in trying to find out more.
* In my experience guys usually use the "Im a nice guy" routine to make up for their personal inadequecies .. play it cool and let the girl deceide your inadequecies - dont try and use the nice bollox as a pick up.
* "Nice guy" equates with boring as fuck. Im not a nice guy - Im a good guy. What does this mean? I wont fuck anyone over but i also dont make out like im mother fucking teresa in front of a girl im trying to pull in the hope that she'll want me for it..
nice guys would never give mother teresa 'fucking' as a middle name :)
[ 13 June 2002: Message edited by: east staines massiv ]
 
How does the saying go, if you want to met a really nice guy stop dating good looking assholes.
I consider myself a nice guy, my friends consider me to be a nice guy, I don't consider myself to be all that particularily good looking, my friends do consider I'm good looking. I treat all people as equals, but if you do something shitty to someone you drop down a standard, but if you do something nice you come up a standard.
Assholes consider themselves to be the hottest shit ever. They consider their group of friends are supreme. They consider themselves to be unbelieveable good looking and that every women wants to sleep with them. They think that everyone who is in their group is off a lower social standing, and are slaves to do what ever they want them to do.
 
ok, here's my thoughts on why girls go for arseholes...
they appear unattainable. therefore, by getting their attention, it's like attaining the unattainable, which makes us feel good/better about ourselves because we've 'won' their attention/affection.
it's all about the challenge.
us girls sometimes like to think that we can bring out the soppy side in a tough 'arsehole'...
that's my $0.02 anyway!
 
There are many reasons that nice guys finish last.
Most nice guys are boring.They don't have or perhaps show much charachter or personality.
They try to hard to please and are too available.
Too quick to agree and bend.They symphasize too much.
Take a look at you:also women are just as shallow as men if not even more so.Look at your hair,skin,clothes,car and body type.
You've got exciting hobbies.You do FUN things in your spare time.etc.
If this doesn't help then bite me.LOL.
later,
M.B.S.
 
QUESTION:
Why are women attracted to men who are assholes?
ANSWER:
Women are attracted to men who are confident, good-looking and rich.
The "asshole" part is like cole slaw.
Nobody asks for it, but sometimes, it comes with the meal.
 
i think it can seem like nice guys finish last, but to be honest I dont think they do.
I really dont think in the back of their head these assholes who are dating a new chick every 2 weeks are very happy individuals.
Whats the upside? The fighting, arguing, always feeling unsure. having no idea what love is, the sex? I doubt that, I don't think a one night stand or sex with someone you've only known a week is anywhere near as amazing with someone you love deeply and have complete trust in. If dont completely trust your lover you can never lose yourself.
The way I see it, if you are a nice guy your looking in the wrong place if you going into bars hoping that the blonde in the short skirt will talk to you.
You'll never be happy with her. She's not your type. The best relationships are often started by friendships, find girls you can get along with before you start having sex with them.
What I'm saying is typical shy, but genuinly nice guy rarely 'picks up'
They meet girls in other ways. its fun, exciting and romantic getting to know someone. Getting drunk and screwing randoms never could compare to that.
nice guys dont finish last. well i didnt. ive found the most amazing girl in the world and she would never waste her time with an arrogant asshole. what im saying is
the arrogant assholes are MISSING OUT on the best girls. the deep, caring, sweet, romantic and beautiful girls. dont give up. nice guys end up with the most rewarding relationships.
 
Nice guys aren't off-putting. "Nice" guys who are only nice to compensate for low self-esteem, are. They give off an air of whiny desperation and that is not sexy.
But there is NOTHING sexier than a confident nice guy. And I vote 100% for "gentlemen".
SLM
 
Right on... the KEY is CONFIDENCE. Girls, I know from first hand experience that even though I'm nervous as HELL meeting you.. because EVERYONE is scared of rejection...
when I finally smile.. and you smile back.. my nervousness leaves...
GOOD ATTITUDE + CONFIDENCE = Energy that will draw most people into you.
 
I would probably be regarded as an 'asshole'.
I usually go out with 2 other friends, one who is a professional male model. We have all been asked at some stage or another to do modelling/catwalks etc. I have known these guys for years and they are among my closest mates.
Are we assholes? Probably.
Why?
Because its so damn easy.
Who *wouldnt* be an asshole if you had girls approaching you almost every time when you went out?
The thing is we all agree to seeing this as a method to finding an awesome chick.
Why tie yourself down in a long-term relationship with the first girl that goes out for coffee with you?
Date a few girls around the place and then eventually you will meet one that suits you to a T.
An "asshole" is someone who isnt afraid to do whatever it takes to find the most compatible girl for him.
A "nice guy" is someone who is just too scared. They lack confidence and are prepared to settle long term for whatever girl falls for their "Hugh Grant" routine, no matter how incompatible.
They call the assertive guys "assholes" but deep down they wish they were like them.
 
I agree 100 % with min on 'the rollercoaster effct'.
I seem to always fall hard for guys that give me shit. I'm attracted to players
Is it their confidence? Maybe, its their attitude that they can have evcery girl they want- when they choose you, it makes you feel even more special, even if they can't get any girl in real life. Its all about attitude.
Is it my low self esteem? I don't have extremely low self esteem, but I used to when I was younger, so maybe its a subconscious thing that if a guy likes me as much as I like him, and treats me as good, he must be shit, since I think of myself in that way. If a guy puts himself above me, then he must be worth something.
Or is it that a challenge is always more exciting? Finding the sweetheart which is buried deep down inside the Bad Boy?
Maybe we are secretly masochistic? The rollercoaster effect, falling in love with pain?
I think for me, its all of the above.
There have been guys that were pefect, looks, personality, reasonable amnount of confidence, but somehow, I always seem to fall for the overconfident, a little bit emotionally fucked-up guys.
I'm 18, by the way. :) (I hope it goes away with time...)
[ 24 February 2003: Message edited by: glitterbizkit ]
 
Well this isn't EXACTLY the same thing, but for me.. I tend not to lean towards 'nice guys' because they seem to eager and willing to do anything. The 'assholes' you actually have to chase and it makes things more interesting and seeming to be worth it.
I forget who said it and I'm not going to look back, but the quote.. 'assholes have bigger cocks' is a bunch of BULLSHIT!! that was probably the lamest thing I've heard in quite some time. Even if it was a joke, still really retarded! :o )
 
well, in my case, nice guys always finish last...I'm almost 20 years old and I've only been in one realy relationship.
let me tell you about myself...I consider myself to fairly nice, generous, caring, loving, romantic at the right times, intelligent, and just basically everything that a typical girl says she wants in a guy. now don't get me wrong here, I don't think I'm 'all that.' I'm also somewhat shy towards girls that I have the hots for, but other than that extremely open about all my feelings and outgoing. Once I get to know a girl I like at least a little or its obvious that she feels the same about me, then I'm not at all shy. I have been in a few other relationships, but I don't really count those...my first girlfriend I got soon after I turned 18...we went out for about 3 and a half months, then I had to go away for military training for 2 months. she came all the way down to ft. jackson, south carolina (from indiana) just to be with me for one weekend in the middle of it. I really missed her a lot and definately was very shocked for her to do that. anyways, so then I got back and decided to move to a bigger nearby city about 50 miles away from her, but still wanting to be with her. it was very difficult and this went on for about 2 months. then I found out that she cheated on me with another guy (something I do NOT tolerate in a relationship like we had). so I broke up with her. I cried along with her while I broke up with her, and after I broke up with her. three weeks went by and I was actually considering taking her back, so then I went down to visit her for a weekend...I get there and I find out she has a 'guy friend' visiting her. I'm kewl with it and everything, because we're not 'dating.' and so then while he's off in another room for about half an hour, she starts to put some extremely serious moves on me, and I'm liking it, so I just kind of go along. she kisses me (not just a little peck on the mouth, either), then takes me hands and puts one on her breast and the other on her groin and presses my hand into herself. so I go along. then he walks out into the room and it was all very awkard. I stuck around for about half an hour, then she hints to me that I should go...so I leave (the whole time with the intentions of asking her out again, but not with her 'guy friend' there). the next night, she goes to a dance with the same 'guy friend' and yet she wanted me to go, but didn't want to go with me for fear that it'd be too 'awkard'. he asks her out that night and she says yes. the next day when I call her before I leave town, she tells me right away (which I appreciated her telling me right away), but then 'has to go.'
all of that really made me feel like a piece of meat. anyways, so I've been in a few ohters, all lasting a little less than a week with them all cheating on me, but I don't really count those. so ya, I'll have to say that nice guys DO in fact finish last......
[ 24 February 2003: Message edited by: cF_nM ]
 
I've always tried my hardest to be one of the nice guys, and yes, it can be dis-heartening at times when you see an absolute sleaze 'player' getting one of the nicer girls that you know he really doesnt deserve.
but luck usually does change in the end. you just have to get into a circle of girls and become their friend, and after getting to know you they will most likely come to like you in that way....this is assuming they are slightly mature...
highschool girls are almost a lost cause though when it comes to choosing decent guys....well from what I've seen anyways.
 
Originally posted by Strawberry_lovemuffin:
Nice guys aren't off-putting. "Nice" guys who are only nice to compensate for low self-esteem, are. They give off an air of whiny desperation and that is not sexy.
But there is NOTHING sexier than a confident nice guy. And I vote 100% for "gentlemen".
SLM
Strawberry Lovemuffin for President!
Girlie, every time you say something it's spot on. ;)
[ 27 February 2003: Message edited by: batty ]
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Alot of women are out looking for the Bad boy.Alot of women have problems.The Nice guy isn't "nice" hes fat or ugly or boring or has bad breath.Maybe the woman or women are sadomasachistic.Perhaps she uses drugs and is only into someone for free/cheap drugs.
Do you have major character flaws?Follow her around?stare too hard?too available and pliable/maliable?Are you a wimp?
Women look for the bad boys early on in life.Many times they marry total loosers.Then in thier 30's or 40's they realize what mistakes they made and start looking for that nice guy.That father figure.
I'm not saying that you have to be an asshole.Indifferent works.A friend displays sympathy.A lover displays pashion but not romance.
Be confident,Cocky,Flaunt your arrogance and indifference.Listen but don't sypathize or try and fix her problems.You don't care that much.She wants you to spend time with her but you can't sometimes.you've got school,work,friends or something else that you can't get away from.She calls but you gotta call her back later etc.
You ARE the dominant assertive alpha male.Anything else isn't desirable.She chases you.NOT the other way around.
Give shit don't take it.If somethings worth having it's worth having at any cost.
M.B.S.
 
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