This is what always confuses me. I never really fantasize about anything I wouldn't want IRL. Indeed, I've done more or less all of it, and anything remaining is more or less just specifics of circumstance or little nitpicky details that are basically irrelevant and just permutations on stuff I've done.
Why do you ladies (I notice it more in girls, but I know a lot of guys have fantasies they'd not like IRL too...) seem to have these kind of fantasies? I have an extremely difficult time disregarding empirical reality and/or conveniently removing certain implications of situations and romanticize or idealizing them like that.
Like for e.g. Ms.G has a few fantasies that IRL, would be so utterly and completely un-erotic that it's ridiculous... I won't say what they are, but just by accident while horseplaying with her, I did something to her that would be part of said fantasies, except it was very soft compared to what she was talking about, and in her scenario,there'd be like 200 of that act repeatedly done, and she was sobbing for an hour,despite me comforting her and stuff. ...I felt terrible FYI and it was GENUINELY accidental/unintentional.
Can anyone explain how this works, being unable to understand how the fantasy would be IRL?