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Bluelighter
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Thank you TPD..you're the best.
I was thinking about what your posted and my jumbled response for a bit when I was taking a long walk just now. I'd like to get a little more into, if you don't mind (and of course feel free to shoot me a pm/email as opposed to posting it you'd like to keep it private). Anyways, here are some questions:
1) Whom are you referring to? Depending on who they are, such as a loved one or family member or long time close friend, you absolutely should be able to believe and rely upon such people! There is a major problem with them or something funny going on if they deceive and/or manipulate you...
2) This is just a comment: For those of us who's trust has been abused, I don't think it is all that odd or unatural for us to behave so. Then again, even if we were justified in not trusting people, that should be taken as a sign that something is (or was or has been) up that needs to be addressed. So it can be put behind us and we can move on with out lives, I mean, in a content/happy, fulfilled and constructive as possible way.
3) Comment again: Even if you stopped trusting people, you'd end up living a pretty sad life. Yea, there wouldn't be the chance of your trust being abused, but it would essentially mean you would have to become a hermit or completely isolate yourself socially, and we certainly all know where isolating one's self can lead...
4) Comment: Yea, as I said, you might avoid being hurt in this one way, but you'd end up hurting in a lot of different ways, due to your isolation and lack of truly human contact and relationships I mean.
Logically, yes and no, as I've described. I think your subconscious, or whatever, is actually 100% right in not making it easy to stop trusting everyone. Because you know you need to have relationships with other people, at least if you want to live like a human in any sense (and, again, as we all know, humans are social animals, and do not exist anywhere completely alone). Trust, and one's ability to believe what others say, are one of the building blocks of society and humanity.
Can you elaborate? I totally hear you, but I'm interested to hear what you want. As in, whom is it that is lying/deceiving you and in what ways do they do so, and you allow them to do so? Although it would be equally foolish to place the blame for the hurt that other's abuse of your trust can bring on yourself, we must never forget that, as I've said before, it takes two to tango. And furthermore, ignorance can certainly be bliss, especially in this case, but it's not very practical and only effective in the short term... it will just allow your problems to become worse and more difficult to address. It'd be a shame to see such a beautiful life go more or less to waste. That's way over-dramatic, but, again, you know what I mean... And you know me, drama queen that I am
Of course, you need to take care of and protect yourself. If someone lies to you, then you should and need to do something about it. The question, though, is what? That depends on who has abused your trust, your relationship to them (as in if you can ditch them or you/they need to work on rebuilding trust), etc. etc. This is why I ask the question @ 1) that I did.
hehe, you can see my question/numbering system kind of broke down there...
Glad you're feeling a bit better!!!!
^SideOrderOfOpiates: I will be 25 on the 24th of this month. Although I'm not doing too bad, as lot of what you said resonates with me. It's kind of hard to think of myself, trying to establish myself with my writing, working pathetic (given my education and ability) jobs trying to get by and often feeling rather isolated and miserably so (it's hard making new friends in San Diego given I've never lived here before), while I see my best friend getting the job of her dreams and my other close friends (whom I keep in touch with, which is few, like we're talking three or four people) succeeding in grad school, etc. etc. whereas I hated law school so much I ended up forfeiting a juicy scholarship and dropping out after the first year... Life can be a bitch, as they say... Still though, given where I'm at, I don't have many places to go in life but UP!
Thank you TPD..you're the best.
