The SO Pre-conception/Pregnancy/Parenting Megathread vs. You are NOT the father!

[Fawkes]

We are 15 weeks pregnant.

yay! congrats! looks like we're on a similar course - i'm due at the end of June. how's the missus feeling?

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

I'm going to pick up my son from the NICU tonight. This will end <1mo of neonatal intensive care, when 2 or more months were originally predicted. Go kids!

My daughters just had their 1mo visit to the pediatrician today. They're pretty healthy, though one is putting on a little more weight than the other, interestingly enough the one who was always smaller in utero. The pediatrician insists we feed every 3 hours instead of every 4, and lace all the mother's milk with formula. Neonatology isn't my strong point, but I think she's being a bit rash and unrealistic. We'll try it though.

Mrs. Doors is making just enough milk to keep up with demand, though the new feeding schedule will probably put the kaibosh on that. A human female is not evolved to provide complete nourishment to three newborns at once -- she hasn't even the anatomy for it. She's healing up, but very slowly and painfully. She's losing the baby fat like a snowman in July with all that lactation.

 

[L2R]

^your updates always warm my heart, mate. i love hearing good news like this, especially from such good people.

i haven't posted much lately cuz i've been having a rather rough ride here in redstateland. at first, my bond with my boy seem substantially broken from the four month separation. moreso on my skill level than on his apprehensions, but there was a bit of that at first two. remember, kids teach you more than you teach them in the first year. my skills to handle a kid his age just wasn't up to speed. this has since settled, and we're doing alright, but now my marriage issues have reached a crescendo, and now i'm stuck for another month in the house of inlaws who don't like me and with whom i can't converse outside some very basics.

back to the important part, the boy: he's likes to bite my nose, and has developed a rather early sense of toilet humour. wife has used the term "cho" for smelly toilet, nappy or farts. he laughs at the mention of it. yup... he's my boy alright. ... i think he's also got a bit of my groove. bouncing him, he kicks his feets out and wiggles his hips. oh and he can stand if he holds onto something. he gets wobbly and shaky at times, but his legs are strong. still hasn't figured out crawling yet, though.

 

[Perpetual Indulgence]

What are your martial issues?

 

[L2R]

much of it is cultural differences. anyways, don't worry. we will take it where it goes.

 

[Samadhi]

I'm so rapt that you're with ff & felix, L2R - the issues that are there now, well I really hope they are overcome quickly and with a positive outcome

MDAO - AAAAAAHH! When I saw your post, i almost did a jig Please keep updating, it's wonderful to hear how things are going with you

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

^ I'm sorry to hear about that, Rob. Having a trans-cultural relationship fail spectacularly was extremely humbling for me, and gave me a more jaundiced realistic view of the way in which cultures differ. I'd always fancied myself the type of person who was not daunted by cultural differences. But the fact is that I cannot be intimately close with someone who has fundamentally different ideas about what a relationship means or should entail. I cannot open up and be vulnerable to someone who doesn't get or accept why certain things are important to me while others aren't. It may be true that all people are basically looking for the same things in this world. But many things we seek can't be had simultaneously, and we differ markedly in what yearnings take priority over what others, both as individuals and as groups.

 

[L2R]

i've contemplated a story based on aussie-zhoung guo cross cultural romance entitled "jaded".

 

[voxmystic]

Hey there Parents, Preggos, and Interested Parties! Not much time for bl lately, as I can't take my eyes off my precious progeny! Baby Axe is so much fun! Hard to believe he was just this squishy wiggle only six and a half months ago; now he can splash a bath, and give big slobbery kisses, tries to run his own spoon (and sometimes even gets it to his mouth while theres still food in it), bounces for HOURS, stands with help (wobbly, like Felix, but strong!), and he's not quite crawling yet, but he's definitely motoring around on his tummy, kinda skootching backwards. He says "nyuh-nyuh-nyuh" when he wants to nurse. So adorable!

so i found out the other day im gonna be a dad for the first time and while this leaves me very excited however im also a little troubled... does this mean i got to give up my habits? i frequently use concerta and adderall and i smoke weed along with the odd painkiller or benzo... now i know i cant just go through an 8th and pop some klonopin along with a norco and be totally wrecked but is it allright for a parent to use so long as they are responsible about it? im sure some of you have kids and im wondering what type of rules you have for drug use in your house.

In my house, Dad has more leeway than I do, since I'm the one who carried the baby, and I'm the one who feeds him. Biology dictates. I have had single drinks or single puffs here and there since he was born. On my birthday, I pumped and got pretty lit, but I had a very trusted sober person to babysit my son and I. But mostly, parenting is the best high. The ol man still gets his drink on more than I do, but less than he used to, which I appreciate, since I have way less tolerance for drunk behavior than do when I'm drinking. He doesn't like weed. Everything else will come back around, in it's time. It can wait. We're rocking our baby, and babies don't keep.

* Fawkes announced her pregnancy
* GEG & Atri are having a GIRL!

SWEEEEEET!!! Congratulations!!

well my life has always revolved around my two incredible sons, and i couldn't imagine being a mom to a girl, but i better start imagining it!! we get a little princess in march and i can't wait. it is a little surreal, we were shocked at the ultrasound, i just "knew" it was going to be another boy :D never liked being so wrong.

I was so shocked to learn I was having a boy....after 3 girls, I just KNEW I couldn't make a boy! Little girls are so spectacular! Congrats!

Two identical girls and a boy (who looks pretty damn identical to his sisters!) were delivered safely and without incident by C-section this morning to Mr. and Mrs. MDAO of the greater New York area. The girls were 3lbs 3 and 4 oz, while the boy was 3 lbs 7 oz, meaning my wife had almost 10lbs of baby in her, not counting all the other extra tissue that goes along. She went 33 wks -- not bad for multiples. They're in the neonatal ICU for ventilatory support, since all premies have underdeveloped and not very pliable lungs. But they're otherwise quite healthy.

WOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOO! Triple congrats!!!!!!

25 wks

You're so beautiful!!!!

We are 15 weeks pregnant.

Congratulations!

Mrs. Doors is making just enough milk to keep up with demand, though the new feeding schedule will probably put the kaibosh on that. A human female is not evolved to provide complete nourishment to three newborns at once -- she hasn't even the anatomy for it. She's healing up, but very slowly and painfully. She's losing the baby fat like a snowman in July with all that lactation.

YOUR WIFE AWES ME!!!!!! I cannot imagine mothering THREE!!!!!! babies while recovering from surgical birth...respect and love to her!! I use Mother's Milk tea from Traditional Medicinals, and a fenugreek supplement, and it makes a big, fat, hge increase in my milk production. Of course, I'm not feeding triplets, but sometimes it feels like I could!


Lefty, so glad you have your boy back in arms!!!! Whatever else, that is the BEST!!!

 

[Samadhi]

Seeing your post made me smile all over my face, vox

 

[voxmystic]

Some highlights from the last few months:

 

[voxmystic]

 

[L2R]

lol! classic pumpkin!

 

[CHiLD-0F-THE-BEAT]

Haha, cutest most awesome baby picture ever!!! He looks like a happy little man. :D

 

[Samadhi]

Vox, my head couldn't deal with the cuteness that is your babies and just went all asplodey :D

 

[Fawkes]

excellent news, MDAO! and, what a beautiful boy, vox!

i have a question for parents: what are the baby basics or items you couldn't do without and are there any items you thought you'd use constantly that ended up being pretty useless?

 

[Busty St Clare]

-A pram that folds flat to allow them to sleep but at the same time folds up into the palm of your hand (or at least doesn't take up all your car boot space)

-Travel cot

Both allow you to get out of the house but still allow them a proper sleep routine

 

[L2R]

i fkn LOVE our baby bjorn carrier

and so does our boy

hands free, lower back support. equal support for baby at arms and legs. they can face both ways. nice airflow so not too hot, yet they benefit from your bodyheat too.

 

[voxmystic]

Ditto on a well-made carrier. I pack my baby lots, and have several ....a stretchy wrap-style like the Baby Bundled or Moby is nice for newborns, a good ergonomic pack like Ergo or Bjorn once their little heads are more sturdy, and a free-standing frame backpack is great, because you can put it on without help. And if you plan to breastfeed, good nursing bras are golden! I like my Anita bras best. Perfect amount of stretchiness in the cups, nice, padded shoulders, and they come in black, which was a major selling point. I dislike plain white cotton military-issue-looking under things.

Thanks for admiring my sweetie!

 

[L2R]

ok, imagerocket seems to work here





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