I am no longer single.
We wrote each other a note.
"will you go out with me?"
[yes] [no]
Both ticked yes.
And love each other.
After being married and self suficiently single for a long time, I have found a great deal of value in being both single and in a long term relationship.
I find absolutely no pleasure in short term dismal failure flings though. Unfortunately they do happen when incompatible people get together with unrealistic expectations of false pretenses.
Its easy to fall into the trap of isolating yourself from other people to avoid being hurt if you have not dealt with past relationship dramas. I did this for a long long time, but still ended up in yet another epic fail of a relationship.
I am happy now though as the mistake I made was not going with my gut instinct and assuming that a relationship would work out when deep down I knew it wouldnt due to both of us having major drug issues and other shit in our brains.
My gut instinct with my love now is all good. Happy. Trusting and it feels so good to have regained the ability to openly love someone that I feel really normal, not deteched and alien in society.
Being single, living independantly from being looked after by parents or other people does help you to get to know yourself and if you can be a good partner to someone else. I did not like myself for a long time and lost my way.
But am bouncing back with avengance, and my love will be a very very happy and satisfied man as a result.
(I love you babe

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