Re: never lie
EsourceR said:
"never lie to a girl"
All we really want is someone who cherishes, loves and trusts us as much as we do them.... 8)
Haha... do you know what a woman REALLY wants from a guy? To feel SAFE. Ask a girl what she wants in a guy and you will get a million diferent answers... all of which sound noble and reasonable. What she really is looking for, though, is a guy who makes her feel safe. An overly nice guy will not make a girl feel safe. Ask her why she doesn't like him, and she will say something like, "I don't know... he's not my type." Or "He's really nice, but we just didn't have any chemistry."
What she really dislikes about him is that he does not stimulate her on a sexual level as well as an intellectual one. In other words, he doesn't make her want to fuck him. To fuck a girl, you have to stimulate her on two levels - the intellectual level, with your words. And the sexual level - with your attitude. With what you seem to suggest WITH your words.
Nice guys fail to do this. They may talk about every subject under the sun, but they rarely will say something like "You look good in that outfit Cindy" with a naughty smirk.
See, "nice" guys are not actually "nice" guys. And women know and understand this on a purely instinctual level. A guy who is too nice to a girl is not being honest to her or himself. Because the truth is, if he is attracted to her, he is probably thinking about fucking her more or less the entire time he is talking to her. However, what he is actually saying to her has nothing to do with fucking. On the contrary, a guy who DOES stimulate a girl on her sexual level, as well as her intellectual one, IS being more true to himself and to her. Because the truth is, he IS attracted to her, and he DOES want to fuck her. And he is being truthful, to a degree, by letting her know this - through his suggestive comments and behavior.
Of course, like anything else in life, a balance must be maintained. You can't just go up to a girl and tell her how much you want to fuck her and keep it solely on that level. The other extreme is the "nice" guy. The guy who wants to fuck her just as much as the next guy - but is too ashamed to show his affection (his NEED FOR A WOMAN IN HIS LIFE) - to show it to her. Consequently, the so-called "nice" guy is not, after all, nice. He is actually manipulative and selfish - because no doubt he is pissed off by his inability to get laid. And the shame he feels from actually approaching a woman LIKE A MAN keeps him from getting laid. So he is stuck in a cycle, and he is probably clueless to what he's doing wrong. Over time though, he will build up some kind of manipulative sub-conscious scheme in an effort to bypass the shame and still get what he wants from a woman. Hence the "nice" guy. He is extremely nice to her because he wants pussy from her. He's not nice to her because of the overwhelming goodness of his heart. He basically is being overly nice in an effort to get into her pants.
I'm not going to go any further into the psychology of the nice guy. You get the picture.
Back to my point though, a guy who stimulates the girl on both her level to mate and her level to communicate with a man will make the girl feel inevitably safe. And women understand this on an instinctual level.
Honestly, its amazing how intuitive women are. It amazes me on a daily basis. They're beautiful creatures. Ethereal almost. In the words of one of my favorite philosophers - "quiet and magical beings."

This last paragraph is totally unrelated to the rest of my post. i just started thinking about women :D