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My wedding was @ 4:20pm ;p I don't remember exactly what I did that day, but I remember I was super busy. I think i still had to pick up the cake, the leis, I did get a mani & pedi wit my sis in law/maid of honor, i might have gotten away with not having to change any diapers that day, but i doubt it. I remember my daughter freaking out in the car as soon as we pulled up, so yeah I was late to the alter :\ Oh and I wrote my wedding vows in the car in the way to the beach!!! Shhh thats a secret! ;)
 
We'll see how this goes, but my plan is room service breakfast with the boy in the morning, then about 10:30 head over to our place where the girls are staying and onto the salon up the street for hair and makeup. That will go til 2:30, we head back to the hotel to get dressed, and send the boys down to the hotel bar to hang out and take some photos.

Once we're dressed we'll do an hour or so of photos around the area (The Rocks in Sydney) and then have another little stretch hanging out in the hotel bar from about 4 (that's the exhibitionist in me) and the boy will head to the venue (about a 3 min walk) to start greeting guests about 4:30, and I'll leave just before 5.

Ceremony, family photos, party!
 
Love, if it makes you feel better we didn't write any vows at all :P We just recited the typical stuff. I probably would have burst into tears had I written any of my own! Staying composed was hard enough to begin with...

Joannie, it sounds like you guys have a wonderful day planned!
 
^ We said the usual stuff as well - for much the same reasons as you stated, UNH :) As it was, we were able to say some nice things to each other during our speeches - my sister in law (who MCd the reception) asked us to tell each other why we love each other - which was really unexpected. It put us both on the spot, but what we said turned out to be really lovely :)

UNH - how many people did you have at your wedding? We had about 70 - with 23 kids (i've married into a very big immediate family - 8 siblings, each with 2+kids!). It was great, though - every single person at the wedding was a cherished friend/family member and loved one. <3
 
UNH - Love everything about your wedding! It looks like it was a beautiful experience. :)

I'm just going to go on talking about myself :o Here's our plan:

Day Before
6:00 - Rehersal
7:00 - Rehersal Dinner @ my favorite restaurant Lidia's

Day Of
12:00 - 3:00 - Last minute plans & getting ready with hair & nails
4:00 - Signing of the Ketubah (marriage contract necessitated by Jewish law)
4:15 - 5:00 - Hanging out with the bridal party (we're not sure if together or separate)
5:00 - Ceremony with both a Rabbi and a Pastor under a Chuppah
5:30 - 6:30(ish) - Photos for the bridal party & cocktail hour for the other guests
6:30 - midnight - Reception!!! :)

Next morning
9:00 - 10:30ish - Breakfast for all family/friends who spent the night at the hotel selected
12:00 - Plane flight to our honeymoon :)

We expect about 80 people. The only children expected are my niece and cousin's son who are both in the bridal party. Although I don't really know how to tell people 'no kids' so we'll see how many show up.

For the ceremony we're using a string quartet which will keep playing during the cocktail hour. We're using the same club for the ceremony & the wedding so this should make things easier for the guests. At dinner & afterwards we're using one of my good friends as the DJ service. The dinner is going to be buffet style. We were originally going to do sit-down but realized buffets mean people get more of what they want to eat and can pass up the rest. It just makes more sense. Open bar after the ceremony & throughout the night - this was a must by my fiancee (haha).

With all this laid out I don't expect to keep to it 100% obviously, lol. My mom is an accountant so our excel sheets are epic and extremely detailed. I don't know how I'd organize all this without her. She told me something I thought was insightful - expect 3 big things to go wrong while planning and let them go.
 
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^ We said the usual stuff as well - for much the same reasons as you stated, UNH :) As it was, we were able to say some nice things to each other during our speeches - my sister in law (who MCd the reception) asked us to tell each other why we love each other - which was really unexpected. It put us both on the spot, but what we said turned out to be really lovely :)

UNH - how many people did you have at your wedding? We had about 70 - with 23 kids (i've married into a very big immediate family - 8 siblings, each with 2+kids!). It was great, though - every single person at the wedding was a cherished friend/family member and loved one. <3
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Ours was really small. We had 20 people at the ceremony and then 20 more people who joined in for the reception. I too have married into a big family but my husband isn't so close to many of them... How do I put this... They're not all great people =/ This doesn't mean some aren't though! He had his sister, brother, and sister-in-law come down from NY so at least they were there. He has five siblings and two half siblings. Just to give you an idea, his grandma has over 60 grandchildren on ONE side! They seriously reproduce like nothing I've ever seen before :P

My family, on the other hand, is small. I have four parents (I include the steps), a sister, and four step-siblings. I only have four cousins too.

It has been quite a task learning names and who's who. How do you deal?? Haha.
 
AmorRoark said:
UNH - Love everything about your wedding! It looks like it was a beautiful experience. :)

I'm just going to go on talking about myself :o Here's our plan:

Day Before
6:00 - Rehersal
7:00 - Rehersal Dinner @ my favorite restaurant Lidia's

Day Of
12:00 - 3:00 - Last minute plans & getting ready with hair & nails
4:00 - Signing of the Ketubah (marriage contract necessitated by Jewish law)
4:15 - 5:00 - Hanging out with the bridal party (we're not sure if together or separate)
5:00 - Ceremony with both a Rabbi and a Pastor under a Chuppah
5:30 - 6:30(ish) - Photos for the bridal party & cocktail hour for the other guests
6:30 - midnight - Reception!!! :)

Next morning
9:00 - 10:30ish - Breakfast for all family/friends who spent the night at the hotel selected
12:00 - Plane flight to our honeymoon :)

We expect about 80 people. The only children expected are my niece and cousin's son who are both in the bridal party. Although I don't really know how to tell people 'no kids' so we'll see how many show up.

For the ceremony we're using a string quartet which will keep playing during the cocktail hour. We're using the same club for the ceremony & the wedding so this should make things easier for the guests. At dinner & afterwards we're using one of my good friends as the DJ service. The dinner is going to be buffet style. We were originally going to do sit-down but realized buffets mean people get more of what they want to eat and can pass up the rest. It just makes more sense. Open bar after the ceremony & throughout the night - this was a must by my fiancee (haha).

With all this laid out I don't expect to keep to it 100% obviously, lol. My mom is an accountant so our excel sheets are epic and extremely detailed. I don't know how I'd organize all this without her. She told me something I thought was insightful - expect 3 big things to go wrong while planning and let them go.
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where does Kenickie & Pander Get Drunk and hit on other wedding guests fit into that? =D
 
One of the photos I sorta took off the photographer's site. We already bought the photos though so I think I should be good. Can't wait to get the USB stick with all of the pictures!

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It sucks because they're tiny but I'll post the actual photos when I get them.
 
i am the maid (matron maybe?) of honor in my friend's wedding. but i don't want to be...

when she asked me to be her maid of honor, i told her i honored that she would think of me but that i am still planning on moving cross country. i told her i would help plan stuff from a distance but realistically, i would only be back in town once or twice before her wedding. she was fine with that and said she wanted me to be the maid of honor because it would mean a lot to her. she said that she understands that there might be things i would be unable to make it to and there are always the other bridesmaids.

well, the wedding is still over a year away and more and more things keep coming up that she would like me to be present at. i keep explaining that its not feasible for me, flights run $350-$500 and i would need to use at least one vacation day per trip. she insists that she would be offended if i don't attend these things but even more offended if i am not her maid of honor.

i don't want to offend her but i really have no idea what to do :(
 
^ I'd just tell her bluntly what you told us here:

i told her i honored that she would think of me but that i am still planning on moving cross country. i told her i would help plan stuff from a distance but realistically, i would only be back in town once or twice before her wedding. she was fine with that
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I'd also highlight the last part of that quote - that she said she was fine with it. Even if her feelings have changed, she can't expect everything else to change around them.

I had 2 in my bridal party - my best friend and my niece - one lives in Sydney, the other in Brisbane - I mitigated any issues by allowing them to essentially choose their dresses (with guidance on colour/s, dress length, etc), and they didn't attend my hens. I completely understood as they would be spending money on their dresses and flights to the wedding.

While I understand that your friend might be sad that you can't be there for everything (i know i was regarding my bridal party), it's not entirely fair of her to lay this guilt trip on you.

I hope it sorts out ac <3
 
thanks guys :)

is it uncouth to tell her that i think another friend (who is also bridesmaid) would be a better choice? if so, i will just reiterate what i have been telling her for the last few weeks.

or can you quit a wedding? ;)
 
Holy anxiety, Batman.

Last day of work tomorrow and I'm reeeeallly hoping the way I feel is related to how much work I still have to to. Cos I'm not sure how I'll stand feeling like this until Saturday night =\
 
week and a half til go time. i still have to pay for my tux, get a keg and take care of the catering (pizza!)
we just got the license and rings yesterday. i cant wait!
 
^PIZZA at your wedding?! Yes!

That is awesome beyond belief, you guys rock! <3 If I ever take the plunge it will be BBQ or perhaps pizza now that I know that I would not be the only crazy person to ever do that. ;)

Hoping all who are marrying have a wonderful day, can't wait to see pics :)
 
joannie_mhm said:
Holy anxiety, Batman.

Last day of work tomorrow and I'm reeeeallly hoping the way I feel is related to how much work I still have to to. Cos I'm not sure how I'll stand feeling like this until Saturday night =\
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I felt exactly the same way in the last week - and it was definitely related to work - once i'd finished, the anxiety was replaced with excitement. <3

I'll email you today *hug*
 
Well we've settled on our honeymoon location. We're going to an all-inclusive in Mexico on the fiancee's parents' dole. I've done the Mexico all-inclusive and wasn't just thrilled until I looked it up. It's going to be perfect for us. Near perfect reviews. Adults only. Private beach. Infinity pool. Etc. Etc. Etc.

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Yay. :D
 
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