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The Engagement/Wedding/Honeymoon thread

Congratulations, UNH <3 and also on the little bean! I didn't know - that is so very exciting *hug* :D

Your ring is gorgeous - all the rings are beautiful. I figure that, even if an engagement/wedding ring isn't to my taste, the fact that the person wearing it loves it so very much makes it all the more beautiful. In saying that, there have only ever been one or 2 rings that i've thought i'd not wear (and they usually consist of a HUGE rock. The biggest i've seen was 3.5 carat and i was shocked that the woman could lift her hand to show me ;)) <3
 
AmorRoark said:
I presume you guys do not presume I do not like my fiancee's family because I'm not taking his last name. I talk to them weekly and tell them I love them regularly. :)
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I think it's fine to keep your own name. I don't have any presumptions about you. <3

If I get married, I plan to stay Ms. ****** professionally and I would not be offended at all if I was called Mrs. Whatever socially. If my husband were to have a strong opinion, I would take it under consideration at the time.

I definitely would not have taken my ex-fiance's name under any circumstances as it just doesn't go with my first name and has a strongly bad connotation. I would consider hyphenation, but I will most likely keep my name. Until fairly recently, I was the eldest female cousin on my father's side. Then my uncle went and had a kid who is a ****** and I don't feel that pressure to carry on the name.

You can always use your maiden name as your middle name and take your husband's name.
 
^ I know a lot of women who have done that (the middle name thing).

Now applying it to my situation (because it's all about me, right? ;)) it unfortunately wouldn't work because of the professional aspect and the fact that my middle name is the same as my mother's. Since my parents are divorced it'd probably crush my mom's feelings.

I really like the idea as an alternative. :)
 
Thanks, Samadhi! I agree with you on the big rocks, by the way. I dunno, after a certain point they just become somewhat gaudy, you know? I'd rather have a bunch of small diamonds than a really big one any day. I also agree when you say that even though a ring might not be something you would personally wear, it automatically becomes beautiful when its owner adores it immensely.

Mariposa, I definitely get not using someone's last name if it doesn't flow well. Thankfully my husband's goes with mine just fine ("Laura" might be a boring name [to me] but it's easy to pair with almost anything at least). I'm using my maiden name as my middle name now and taking my husband's last name for my own. I want to keep my family name in the picture too, especially because it's so small. There are only a few of us left so I wanna keep it around :P
 
How exciting, Joannie!

Our wedding ceremony was on Saturday evening aboard the yacht I mentioned earlier and of course it rained =) It did, however, stop just long enough to do the ceremony on the front of the boat (with each wedding party flanking either side and the minister, John and I at the very front if that makes sense). The Ravanel Bridge, Rainbow Row (houses), and the Yorktown aircraft carrier were in the background (pictured below).

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Everything went swimmingly! After the ceremony we docked, did the sword ceremony (where I was promptly whacked on the ass by the best man's sword), picked up more people, and the party began.

I can't wait until the photographer's photos are ready... In the meantime here is one someone took of myself and some family and friends (my cousin is on the far left and my sister is to the right of myself).

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Awesome. More people keep posting photos on Facebook.

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Getting ready.

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Cutting the cake... with a sword (hence me laughing). No, we did not cram cake in each other's faces. Does anyone else here find that tradition tiresome and tacky?? :P

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We broke tradition in many ways. We spent the night with each other before the wedding, saw each other beforehand on the day of the ceremony, etc.

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A bridesmaid (my best friend) and myself getting our nails done.
 
aww, those are pretty pictures. you look so happy in them. and i really like your dress, its simple and flattering :)

i threw cake at my husband's face. but we do strange stuff like that all the time. i also saw him before the wedding, we took most of our pictures before the ceremony.
 
Thank you! I love how the dress is simple too.. Plus the fact that it isn't white (not that white dresses aren't gorgeous).

I think the whole cake thing has come from my mom rubbing off on me. We joked about doing it while cutting the cake and she freaked out and started saying, "No, no, no..." :P
 
You looked amazing, UNH <3 simply stunning!

As for traditions - my husband stayed at his best man's house - but only because we had a full house and it meant that my best friend and niece stayed in our room with me! My best friend shared my bed and my niece was on a mattress (we had about 6 people staying over). We all ate dinner together the night before and had some drinks, etc. :)
 
Gorgeous UNH! Was that a second dress when you were cutting the cake?

Re tradition, SO much we're going for isn't traditional - definitely starting with staying together the night before.

We're checking into the top notch hotel around the corner from our venue the day before and staying until the day after. For me the idea was that I wake up next to him every day, why would I want to wake up alone on that day of all days?
 
We weren't into the typical traditions at all, as we're unique people and have always been more on the spiritual side, hence why we did the Celtic hand fasting tradition in our ceremony.

All i can say is that i am so damn glad we kept our wedding at a low budget. We found the perfect venue, the perfect celebrant and for me my dress was perfect and it only cost me $160! With paying a mortgage and me needing to buy a decent car, we had to keep it low. In my opinion a day can be just as magical without setting yourself back or putting yourself in debt. The only thing i regret was how retarded my mother acted, but i don't hold it against her she just cracked under the pressure but that's all sorted now <3

UNH - you looked absolutely amazing!! Your wedding looked gorgeous. So happy for you hun, what an exciting chapter this is for you!!! :D
 
Thank you, Love! I definitely felt gorgeous =)

It's funny though, I didn't sign up for any of the typical wedding day stuff. What did you guys do on your wedding day?

It seems like a lot of women spend the night before the big event with friends as well as the day of. Apparently manicures, pedicures, and even facials are a must for the bride as well as her bridesmaids in the morning and then group primping comes before the ceremony.

I'm way too laid back to deal with all of that so instead of a big group, my best friend and sister were the only ones with me the entire day except for when it came time for hair, nails, and getting dressed. The back of the dress is so complex that we actually had a woman come in and do it up for me :P She also steamed it beforehand and helped the other girls with their dresses (some of them needed some hems fixed and whatnot). That woman was a god-send! But yeah, I felt like even that was too much. I wanted a massage the day of but there was no way in hell to fit that in! How do women handle such complex schedules on their wedding days??
 
On my wedding day, I had my mum, dad, 2 of my closest friends and my niece at the house. My niece and i had our hair styled (one of my friends and my niece were my bridal party) and then we pretty much chilled out until the make up artist arrived. We then slowly got ready and headed to the venue. It was a really lovely, chilled day - no stress, no drama <3 Like you, a massage would have been lovely on the day - but I actually purchased a voucher through a discount website entitling me to 4 x treatments in the months leading up to the wedding (the voucher cost $69 and i had approx $500 worth of treatments). The afternoon before, i had a full body scrub/body wrap and there was a 30 min massage as a part of that. It was brilliant and not expensive (bonus!).

I have to say again how beautiful you looked, UNH :)
 
Our wedding was at 6p on a Monday. I had breakfast with my soon to be husband and brother in law at the Bellagio where we were staying. Then we met my parents to go see the Bodies exhibit at I think the Tropicana Hotel. My make-up appointment was 4p. I already had a manicure the day before. My husband and I got ready together in the room we shared. I did my own hair.

My mom helped me with the dress in the bathroom and my dad offered to try to sew the top tighter as I did not try it on for months...it was too big!

We all went down to the lobby to meet the limo driver and went to the chapel together as a new family.
 
our wedding was also at 6pm. my mom, mother in law, bridal party and i all got our hair and makeup done at a local salon. then i went to lunch with my bridesmaids before heading to the hotel to get ready. they used my bridal suite to get ready and i ended up down in my parents' room because it was on the same floor the ceremony was on.

we took a bunch of pictures around 4 and by 5.15 our guests started arriving. one of the groomsmen opened up a tab at the hotel bar and began buying our friends drinks. most of our family chilled in their hotel rooms until the ceremony started.
 
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