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^ I'm keeping my maiden name as well. I have several reasons.

1. His is a meaningless version of his original last name, Ellis Island style.
2. Mine has a lot of family symbolism to me as its passed down through my lineage.
3. I'm already somewhat attached to my last name professionally.
4. The only people still with us from our family tree with our last name are my father and myself. My sister took her husband's last name. I'd like to keep it going.
5. My first and last name sound better together than it would if I were to take my fiancee's.

It's sorta a no brainer for me. It doesn't bother him in the slightest. In fact, his brother-in-law took his sister's last name. :)
 
amen, sisters. i'm keeping my last name too! it means a lot to me, and i'm the only one in the world with my first & last name.
 
I took my husband's name - I love my surname (it's really unusual), but i really had no issue with taking his- I love being Mrs ***** :) There are also numerous men on my dad's side of the family with his surname, so there is no issue there.

Doris - like you, i think i'm the only person in the world with my first and maiden name, but again, it wasn't a big deal to me. :)
 
I happily took my hubby's last name - it's a nice feeling and it meant a lot to him that i did. :)
Having his name is special, even though it's a very common name i don't care!
 
doris delay said:
amen, sisters. i'm keeping my last name too! it means a lot to me, and i'm the only one in the world with my first & last name.
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there are only a handful of people with my first name spelled the way i spell it. so with either name, i am pretty sure i am the only person who has it.

also, like amor said, my husband's name has no significance to him.

there are times when its mildly annoying not sharing a last name, like when i go to use his medical insurance. people seem very confused that we are married and do not share a last name.

i am not sure what we will do about names when we have a kid. at that point, my husband really wants us to share the same last name.
 
I liked the sound of his surname more then my own. It flows better.
He comes for a good loving family. I am so happy to have married into such a wonderful group.

My mom thought I would keep my maiden name. I said, ma if they were a bunch of assholes I wouldn't even think about changing my name...but they are not :)
 
my fiancées last name is 'wright,' and i just couldn't bear to be 'mrs wright,' especially since my last name is so unique..
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
I liked the sound of his surname more then my own. It flows better.
He comes for a good loving family. I am so happy to have married into such a wonderful group.

My mom thought I would keep my maiden name. I said, ma if they were a bunch of assholes I wouldn't even think about changing my name...but they are not :)
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This. Isn't it wonderful? I love his family so much. I just had a 2 hour coffee/catch up with one of my sisters-in law <3
 
AmorRoark said:
I presume you guys do not presume I do not like my fiancee's family because I'm not taking his last name. I talk to them weekly and tell them I love them regularly. :)
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The thought never popped into my head, Amor (i have never associated someone not liking their in-laws with not taking their surname). Many people choose to keep their own surname. :)
 
^^ alot of people who are already established in a professional field also keep their name. It avoids a lot of paper work. I deal with doctors and nurses that are contstantly having to deal with the state and getting liscenses changed and creditials certified because the names are different now than what is showing in the social security database. I myself think its a big hassel. And god forbid something happen and it not work out, the process of reversing the name change is even more painful than changing it in the first place. At least in California and in the health care industry.
 
animal_cookie said:
how many of you officially changed your last to something new (your husband's or a hyphenated name or whatnot)?
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although my last name is utterly awesome, wifey kept her own. not only that, i also suggested ages ago (and we agreed) that the first child get the last name of the parent common in gender, then the second the other. since we're having a boy, he'll take mine. the second kid, boy or girl, will take hers.


funnily, i took on her grandmother's family name in my chinese name.
 
I got everything changed within 2 days. The DMV and Social Security office were open Nov 24th and I had the day off work. No hassle for me. My professional affiliations and all accounts were emailed long before the wedding date so I knew what each required to make the change. I had to fax the marriage certificate and paperwork to certain groups that needed it.

I had set in place with the financial mgr at work that my tax status would switch to marriage the day after our wedding. New business card and name plate changes were completed by my employer within the week of my marriage.
 
^^^ you are lucky you are not in cali and working at my company. It would have taken at least 2 weeks before they would have even looked at the request to change it.
 
I worked for a small practice of about 150 employees. I received any requests in a timely fashion. Yeah I was lucky to have minimal bullshit.
 
6.5 weeks out and I'm waffling about the name change.

He says he would like me to but doesn't mind if I don't, I was fine with it for a while (just annoyed at people who started calling me Mrs A****** right after we got engaged) but the closer I get the less sure I am.

I'm not really sure why it is I'm feeling weird about it, I don't particularly care for my current name apart from the fact I've had it all my life, and I don't particularly like or dislike his name either. I imagine it's my own type of cold feet, since I don't feel particularly weird about any of the commitment stuff considering how long we've been together.

I do think part of it is that it starts with an A, so Jo A***** sounds ok, but Joanna A***** sounds a bit weird with the two 'a' sounds. I half considered changing my first name to just Jo at the same time as the surname, but professionally I like being introduced as Joanna and then telling clients they can call me Jo, makes people feel a bit more connected.

On top of that my mother in law asked me recently about this, and told me she wished she'd never changed her name - she felt she was so young when she married that she didn't really know who she was before she became someone else. Not really sure if/what she's trying to tell me there!

Do any of you read A practical wedding? There was a post on that recently about a woman who took her husband's name after the wedding, then changed it back after a year or so. No big deal, she just felt it didn't fit.


In other news, my shoes turned up yesterday! They're Betsey Johnson pumps with a little bow on the side of the toe, so cute. I've been wearing them around the office to break them in - I'm hoping to be one of the few brides not complaining about sore feet from wearing brand new shoes on the day.

We also (finally) booked our honeymoon, we have one night at home the day after the wedding, then 7 days in Tasmania, then another two days public holidays at home to get our shit together before going back to work. Can't wait. We've booked pretty standard hotel rooms for the two nights in Tassie's two cities, B+Bs for two nights in the country, and luxury cabins for a night in the mountains and a night on the Freycinet peninsula Freycinet peninsula
 
I'm super jealous of y'all that got/are getting a honeymoon :\ Idk I guess living in a part of the world where most ppl come to honeymoon makes up for it...I'd just LOVE to have a week or 2 ALONE with my hubby!! *dream!*
 
Ooh, I see we're talking rings now... There are some lovely rings here, ladies!

Amor, I love how simple your ring is and the history of it makes it priceless! What an amazing ring!

Well, John and I got married on the 22nd but our ceremony isn't until the 26th. We have officially booked Southern Comfort (the yacht) and have invitations ready to be sent to 40 guests. I found my wedding dress last week and it's PERFECT... Photos to come when I get a chance to take some (the shop wouldn't allow pictures and the dress is still there to get altered). It was the very first one my mom, best friend and I saw and the first--and only--one I tried on! It's a light, light off white/champagne color and is strapless with a small train. It has some lace and beading here and there but nothing outrageous. It's really fitted and then starts flowing at the waist. It is just beautiful... My description isn't doing it any justice.

Anyway, I had readied myself to pay several thousand for a dress only to find out this one is about 3k less than I expected it to be! Dances were done upon this realization =)

As far as rings go, let's just say I'm glad that men's rings are so much cheaper! I got John a 5mm white gold wedding band and he got me this:

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It's PERFECT for me. I didn't want to get the biggest rock possible, you know? I wanted it to be simple, elegant, and classy above all else. It's a platinum band with 11 small diamonds. I am in love... I'm such a girl :P

Anyway, I'm loving hearing about y'alls weddings. This thread is awesome.
 
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