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Staudri's Pregnancy & Birth thread.. Welcome Elijah Travis! UPDATE - New pics p.10

ohh Doofqueen..........that is just sooo cool.

I so wish i had a kid............even moreso when i see how much love im missing out on.

I have a really close mate who is sort of like my son.........actually we both laugh heaps when people mistake me for his dad cos we are so much alike........and while i would happily die for him, its still not quite exactly the same I guess.
But for me, I think now its probably the closest thing I will ever have and for that I am thankful.

No wonder you are so proud of him doof......Just looking in his eyes shows how well he has been brought up and how much love he has recieved.............That is one hell of a lucky kid.

I hope you guys are able to talk about anything to each other cos the tough times are nbot that far away for him as he starts to go through puberty..........Im sure you remember what it was like..............Put yourself in a position where he will never feel scared to discuss anything with you and you will both be fine.

No wonder you are so proud...............I think you should be proud of yourself as well.

I give you a standing ovation.
 
I just had a big smile at your pics doofqueen. You really have created a beautiful little world for your son... because you were brave enough to let your personality shape him, and not worry about what you *should* be doing. Fuck all the parenting books - I say, if a child is bought up around love and respect, with a happy parent, they will turn out ok. <3
 
Hey girl....
I had a little girl when I was 20, granted that's four years after you, but I acted like a 16 year old. My daughter changed my life.
I had the exact same thoughts and feelings as you are expressing. I didn't think I could care for anyone. My little girl is 14 months now, and the best thing that has ever happened to me. You will be able to do it, and I bet you will love every minute of it. It's different when you actually see that little human being. He'll be yours, and you will see how much he loves you.
Congrats! Look at the bright side sweetie. I know it must be hard, but trust me, it is well worth it in the end!
 
thanks guys. I had more pics but thought that was enough hehehe I feel like i've taken over the thread but when it comes to kids and especially my own i have a big loud voice =D Just wanted to reasure the poster that i had mine at the same age she is expecting hers and nine years later (six of those years solo) i have "produced" a well balanced and happy child :) It can be done...go me! =D
 
he is absolutly ADORABLE !!! its great that you two have fun together. the time FLEW by didnt it? i know mine is gunna be 10 b4 i even relize what happened. everyone has made me feel alot better and more confident. ill b sure to post pix as soon as i get some !!!!!! much love for everyone !
 
You sound incredibly mature for your age, and I have a feeling that you will be an awesome mom. I commend you for preparing to do this alone just in case. I have a tremendous amount of respect for waitresses too, its not an easy job :)
 
yea, being a waitress really sucks , expecially when the cook screws up and then i get a shitty tip for it.
 
heya staudri!

Just wondering what your support network is like.
you mentioned something about the boy still being around, but how are your parents with all of this?

xxx
 
You sound like you are going to be a wonderful mother. If only all of us could be on the receiving end of such love... I wish you the best, and please keep us updated. New life is a beautiful thing.
 
u definitly do sound like you will be a great mom..my sister had a baby when she was 15 and she gave it up for open adoption(she gets pics every month and she knows the parents) because she couldn't do it...my friend jamie had a baby at 16 and she is doing just fine.....just think positive and like you said before..do everything you can ..nothing can be better than that..and no matter what he will always love you..he is your son
 
YOU CAN DO IT I DID

First off i wasnt 16 but 18, and in my frosh year of college and i got prgnant, it was hrad the father was in jail, still has not seen his son, and hes almost 2, i met a great guy who has been with me through it all...then in January i gave birth to a wonderful little girl , im only 21, with 2 kids, people say im crazy, and stuff, but i wouldnt change anything... just remeber that thay are thenumber one priority, congratualtions, and good luck....
 
may 22 is my sister's birthday!

anyway, you have to stop beating yourself up. It doesn't help ANYTHING. This is where you are NOW: you have a baby inside you, you're healthy (I suppose) and you have the rest of your life together. So make the best of it. Negative thoughts will just ensure that you can't make it work.

Sounds like you really, really care about this baby. I'm 26 and I once told my parents: "I'm scared of messing up when I'm a dad." They said to me: "all you have to do is love your kids, and everything else will be fine."

Best of luck to you
 
well 3 of my best friends are also pregnant ( some say its in the water here , lol ) so all the unpleasentness that comes with being pregnant , i can cry & bitch with them. my mom is actually the one who told me i was pregnant. she knew before i did, so she bought a test and sent me to the bathroom. the first thing i said when i came out was " im not killing it , and im not giving it away" and she said, " well u need to think alot more on it, but whatever you decide , im behind you , and ill help you" but she does bitch about it , and she HATES the father, so that doesnt help much. but all my friends are supportive and we are all looking foreward to having little ones together, i think ittl help having my friends going through the same things....
 
hey staudri you sound like an awesome person, who is going to be a good mother.
i've never been pregnant, but i feel that when i do have a child i will be a good mother, because i care so much about my future child already and they dont even exist!
you love you kid and that is such a beautiful thing, theres a fair amount of support for young mums out there, if u know where to look.
i think you'll be just fine :)
it will be very difficult at times, but you will get through it if you remain strong.
its good that you have friends around you who will know what you're going through. and don't listen to your mum when she bitches, shes probably just really worried.
i think you know, deep down, what an excellent mother you will be. congratulations, u now have an important part to play in the worlds future, by raising your kid to be compassionate, loving, and thoughtful.
just raise your kid to be like you, and the world will be a slightly better place when they are a grown up.
the most important thing you can give your child is love... so your child is set for life :)
 
i couldnt give him to a stranger and b like " ok, have fun!" hes my responsibility to take care of .....its just not for me
 
First off I want to say CONGRATS!

Secondly, I am 25 years old... and I got pregnant when I was 15. Now, at 15... I had just lost my virginity and 3 months later... POOF, I'm pregnant... Shit... I was in 8th grade and scared to death.

4 months after my 16th birthday, my little boy was born. My entire world changed.

I will not sit here and tell you that motherhood, or teenage motherhood is all peachy. Its not. Its hard and trying... people look at you funny... and treat you like a kid yourself. You have to learn to put aside all your selfishness... and live for another person before you live for yourself. Every thought, every choice you make in your life will no longer just affect you... but your child as well. You will have to make sacrafices, change your ways... your social life will change. But mostly, you yourself will change. I know that you are scared that you don't KNOW how to take care of a child being so young... but truth of it all is simply that motherhood is a NATURAL INSTINCT. Learning as you go along is what every new mother has to deal with. Teenage mothers are no different. Take some parenting classes, read books and find an online support group that will help you out... If you need to, PM me and I will me more than happy to talk to you about it all...

Being a mom to a now 8 year old boy is the greatest part of me. He makes me who I am, and has taught me so much about life that I could never sit here and explain it all to you in one post... the truth is while its all difficult.. its worth it! Seeing them grow up, and become a person and knowing that u influence this child is a wonderful feeling. You may not realize it now... but having a child, is one of the greatest things that will happen to a person.

Being scared is okay. But truthfully hun, there is nothing to be scared of.

If you want to chat PM me.

Take Care!
Heather
 
I don't have much to add to what everyone else has said, I do agree you sound like you have the right attitude to be a great mother :)

What I did want to say was that my mum had much the same attitude to yours when I was pregnant (I fell pregnant at 19). She bitched and complained about it, didn't want to listen when I told her how it was going, didn't like looking at ultrasound pictures, etc. But when my daughter was born (in May last year), she completely changed. She loves being a grandma. So hopefully your mum will have the same transformation :) Good luck!
 
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