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^ No it isn't.

IMO, I don't think she should be sleeping around with her two exes and at the same time meet a new "nice" guy...

Just pointing out, in general, people in SLR have the tendency to sympathize with the posters. But this is always one side of the story, and very often not the best side.

No offence Mariposa, but would you enjoy to be on the other end of the line?
 
I'm not sure I can see the problem with Mariposa's post. She's single and she's going on a date with a guy? That sounds pretty good to me. I don't see anything wrong with sleeping with an ex as long as they know that's all it is. Mariposa said they were exes, so she clearly isn't dating any of them. So I don't see anything wrong with going on a date with someone. I hope you enjoy yourself, Mariposa :)
 
Being lonely and complicated is a bitch. I am rooting for her as much as I am rooting for my lonely and complicated ass.

:D

I fall for almost anyone that will give me the time of day and let me park my penis in their garage. And then I wake up.

:)
 
Psyduck said:
^ No it isn't.

IMO, I don't think she should be sleeping around with her two exes and at the same time meet a new "nice" guy...

Just pointing out, in general, people in SLR have the tendency to sympathize with the posters. But this is always one side of the story, and very often not the best side.

No offence Mariposa, but would you enjoy to be on the other end of the line?
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She's single, what's the problem? I'm sympathising because there's nothing wrong with being interested in someone when you've got no commitment to anyone else. It sounds like it's pretty obvious there's nothing more than sex with the exes so I don't see why this matters.
 
Psyduck said:
^ No it isn't.

IMO, I don't think she should be sleeping around with her two exes and at the same time meet a new "nice" guy...

Just pointing out, in general, people in SLR have the tendency to sympathize with the posters. But this is always one side of the story, and very often not the best side.

No offence Mariposa, but would you enjoy to be on the other end of the line?
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I'll address this. I'm not offended. :)

Recycled Ex 2 and I have not slept together in 7+ years. He lives 3500 miles away from me, and we have not seen each other in over 5 years, much less hooked up. We always kept in touch, though, because we have a deep connection. I met him 13 years ago at my first 'real' job. We have helped each other through enormous shitstorms. This time around it is all talk so far. He and I are not likely to see each other soon because of each of our work schedules and money. I can't just fly 3500 miles on a moment's notice simply because he and I have reconnected as strongly as we have.

Recycled Ex 1 and I, however, have slept together since we broke up. Neither of us was sleeping with or seeing anyone else. We are also good friends who hang out without sex frequently. The sex did happen and it was great every time. He's also the only person I've slept with recently.

New Dude is aware that both exist. He's also disclosed to me about his past relationships. He's like me in the sense that if he and I have the 'talk' or become sexually intimate, we'll be doing that only with each other. We haven't had sex or even come close to that. Kissing, sure, but that's as far as it has gone. So far. ;)

I've wanted to move on with my life from some painful bullshit in the past - some of it very recent and unrelated to dating. I did not expect to meet such a sweet human being when I'm not feeling much like dating. What I do want is to have an exclusive relationship with someone with whom I share common interests, goals, dreams, good times overall. I've made that choice. I recently met someone awesome, and he thinks I'm awesome too. I think that's a good start to a healthy relationship. I'll follow up as it progresses. :)

Thanks llama and Pagey. <3 I definitely have to see this through.
 
So I'm going to admit something. I cannot dance. At all.

This girl tried to dance with me tonight. The dance floor was empty, Tuesdays are slow but that's Dnb night so that is when I go.

Anyway I get on the dance floor and just kinda bounce around a bit. This move seems to make women think I can dance. One approached very quickly and literally shook and rubbed her ass all up on my crotch.

Kept bouncing.

She grabbed my shoulders and shook them around.

Kept bouncing..

Then she said "your gonna have to try a little harder!"

Kept bouncing.

She shook her ass on me, shook me more... Was very vigilant. I finally just said " I can't " because I was becoming embarrassed with the fact I cannot dance and am the only person on the dance floor.

I'm pretty bummed but fuck, dancin is simply just NOT my forte, and never has been. A similar situation happened a few weeks ago ending with a woman being frustrated that I would not dance with her.

Should I take some dancing lessons or something? Fuck. This is beginning to become irritating.
 
Mariposa said:
New Dude is aware that both exist. He's also disclosed to me about his past relationships. He's like me in the sense that if he and I have the 'talk' or become sexually intimate, we'll be doing that only with each other. We haven't had sex or even come close to that. Kissing, sure, but that's as far as it has gone. So far. ;)
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Ok fair enough. I was assuming you were just sleeping with your exes for the fun of it (hence the term "recycled ex"). If you are on the same page with the new guy and he is aware of them, then I guess not much blame can be made afterwards. In your situation, the guy is not a "one night guy," and you both get along very well and spend quality time. Nonetheless, I would be pissed off to find out afterwards the girl I was hanging out with and spending quality time with was sleeping arround with her two exes just for fun. Hence, my reaction.
 
SchutzStaffel00:

Dancing is fucking ludicrous IMO. It's not something I would personally invest time or effort in learning. It's a useless skill unto itself, with the only intrinsic positive attribute it has being physical fitness/exercise. Of course, one can find more dignified ways of getting exercise. Dancing is a series of repeated, pre-defined movements set to a time pattern, and to me, it basically reminds me of doing close order drill, except that it's doing close order drill voluntarily, for recreation. That concept itself disturbs me greatly.
 
Well then, I'll just have to cross you off my Birthday Party invite list.

:(
 
Some girl that arrived here a year ago... I had a little crush on her the first weeks. She is now leaving the country again. She is increddibly pretty and I always liked her. I never made a move and eventually my interests faded away. We always stayed good friends. I don't have any problems with the fact she's leaving the country now.

Would it be a wise to say it in a funny kinda way "hey, you remember the first weeks you were here, I had a crush on you then. I thought you were really pretty and cool." Would that come across as strange? I seem to have this strange urge to make up for all the lost oppurtunities. I just want to throw it out in a casual way, though.

Better "too late" or "never at all" to tell people you liked them?
 
Might as well tell her, Psyduck! Why not? :)

ss00 - as for dancing - why not try learning? you don't even have to pay for dance classes, I'm sure there are videos online that you could learn from. Dancing is fun and it may be more enjoyable for you to go out if you can dance better or at least have different moves or something. I love dancing :) I'm not the greatest but I'm better than I was when I first started clubbing! I learned from others as well, kind of mimicking their moves. not completely copying of course, but you can learn from it!
 
Psyduck said:
Some girl that arrived here a year ago... I had a little crush on her the first weeks. She is now leaving the country again. She is increddibly pretty and I always liked her. I never made a move and eventually my interests faded away. We always stayed good friends. I don't have any problems with the fact she's leaving the country now.

Would it be a wise to say it in a funny kinda way "hey, you remember the first weeks you were here, I had a crush on you then. I thought you were really pretty and cool." Would that come across as strange? I seem to have this strange urge to make up for all the lost oppurtunities. I just want to throw it out in a casual way, though.

Better "too late" or "never at all" to tell people you liked them?
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Tell her for sure!!! I would love to hear that, would not be creepy at all. I have told that to guys before, and in both cases they responded that they had crushes on me, too....win win all around!
 
llama112 said:
Might as well tell her, Psyduck! Why not? :)

ss00 - as for dancing - why not try learning? you don't even have to pay for dance classes, I'm sure there are videos online that you could learn from. Dancing is fun and it may be more enjoyable for you to go out if you can dance better or at least have different moves or something. I love dancing :) I'm not the greatest but I'm better than I was when I first started clubbing! I learned from others as well, kind of mimicking their moves. not completely copying of course, but you can learn from it!
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I'd like to. I need more practice. I'm pretty good at moving to the music, alone, if I'm feeling it.
 
You should definitely tell her Psyduck. Plus it's not like you're asking her out or anything, you're telling her you had a crush on her in the past so I really don't see what harm it could do :)
For instance I made this good friend my first week at uni, ridiculously hot guy (as in every girl turns around when he walks down a corridor or whatever) but I sadly learned that he had a, well, boyfriend and eventually I told him I'd had a huge crush on him when we met, he thought it was funny, it's cool, end of story. I really doubt she could take it anything but well :)
 
I am so tired from my trip and the only thing keeping me from falling asleep before this plane takes off in an hour is Bluelight.

Long distant relationships really do suck balls. I miss him already.

I am gonna crash so hard when I get home. I showered but damn I still smell like sex.
 
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