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Single? For how long?

I love sleeping next to/cuddling with boyfriends - one of my exes absolutely hated it and reaaally needed his space to sleep at night, he'd get so pissed off at me haha. Hook-ups on the other hand, are NOT supposed to touch or hold me during the night. It borderline grosses me out and if he does that, I'm never seeing him again :p
But I also have quite a problem with people touching me in general...except with BFs.
 
It might have something to do with being OCD. Good, rough sex is always welcomed...but I don't want anyone's limp, spermy dick against my skin all night.
 
Illyria99 said:
It might have something to do with being OCD. Good, rough sex is always welcomed...but I don't want anyone's limp, spermy dick against my skin all night.
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Yeah that's understandable.
If I love/really care about the guy I do like it though. Well, not the limp dick part, but the general closeness rather haha.
I just hate it when one night stands do it because it presumes we care about each other and stuff and just...no.
 
Longest I been single since I was 15 had been just over 2 years - this time for once it's been 3 years a few weeks ago!

I fucking love snuggling up post-coitus/at night - usually spooned but sometimes tangled up like vines...sometimes I just don't need or want it, but usually it's so nice to be the big spoon, I miss it so much when I haven't slept with anyone for a while, much more than actual sex.
 
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I rarely let one "one night stands" stay all night. It's like, I want you to fuck me, we can do nasty things for hours...but once it's over, I want you out. I mean, I do try to be polite about it, but a lot of guys seem so surprised.

What's going through my mind after fucking is, "Do I have enough detergent to wash my sheets?"
 
^ I should do that. I never want them to stay over but I haven't really figured out how to say it yet because it seems their expectation is always that they will.
 
Tell them you have to work in the morning. Or tell them your boyfriend is working the late shift and will be home by 1am. ;)
 
Hahaha yeah the boyfriend thing would probably do it :D
This one guy, he stayed over at my place, in my minuscule bed and would NOT stop holding me even after I asked him about 10x to stop because it was stopping me from sleeping. I was starting to get really annoyed at him, and just frustrated in general, so I set my alarm 3 hours earlier than I needed to and told him I had class at 9 rather than 12 so that he'd leave sooner. Heh.
 
Pagey said:
Hahaha yeah the boyfriend thing would probably do it :D
This one guy, he stayed over at my place, in my minuscule bed and would NOT stop holding me even after I asked him about 10x to stop because it was stopping me from sleeping. I was starting to get really annoyed at him, and just frustrated in general, so I set my alarm 3 hours earlier than I needed to and told him I had class at 9 rather than 12 so that he'd leave sooner. Heh.
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Illyria99 said:
I rarely let one "one night stands" stay all night. It's like, I want you to fuck me, we can do nasty things for hours...but once it's over, I want you out. I mean, I do try to be polite about it, but a lot of guys seem so surprised.

What's going through my mind after fucking is, "Do I have enough detergent to wash my sheets?"
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This is a really interesting thread, from a guys perspective sometimes she wants me to stay longer or all night and other times it's definitively out the door once we've finished. Had the same situation over the weekend actually. The way I judge it without any awkwardness is after we're done I just spoon cuddle her while we lay in the bed (yes sorry about the limp spermy dick) , if she holds my arms closely to her, then she wants me to stay if it's like it's just me holding her then I know it's time to go - pretty easy to pick up on what she wants like that. Personally I have no problems either way, I don't do one nighters these days with anyone I don't find attractive enough to easily spend the night with if it works out that way, but don't develop that attachment that lots seem to with the expectation of can I call you. That's why it's a one nighter.
 
^That's quite cool that you judge her reaction and act accordingly without really caring either way. The perfect hook-up as I see it :p
 
^ Sorry probably didn't explain that well. I guess it's not that I don't care either way, I always care about the person that I'm with but as you guys said earlier, I don't like to make my hookup feel uncomfortable by wanting to stay when she doesn't or vice versa. There are definitely times that I'd love to stay or even meet up again but not going to push it if I can tell otherwise.
 
I'm going on 19 months I think.first 8 or so were choice... hardcore depression and anxiety probably from a drinking problem, followed by a suicide attempt and discontinuance of SSRI. I don't wish SSRI and benzos on anyone, as far as sex goes. The last 11 or whatev months I have struggled to find a drop of desire...have a hard time getting it up...and I'm only 22. Such a shame because I have a gifted size and used to love sex. Especially when the SSRI was new. Felt like i was rollin for a year and performed great...now I could cry I'm not even.confident enough to attempt dating. Anyways thats my story haha typing from my phone got sidetracked a bit, if any of this doesn't make sense
 
Its been way to long as I've already posted in this thread. I'm hoping to change this fact within the next couple of months or so. We'll see. I'll settle for a hookup, but wouldn't mind a casual fling.
 
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