My girlfriend doesn't want to do anal..HELP!!!

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

Women don't have prostate orgasm cause they don't have a prostate gland.

I've heard about how there's a "female prostate" but it's not like the male prostate. I remember one woman on here posted about how she found hers in SLR but she could have been tweaking a lot.

My friend's ex girlfriend (she's a bio woman, not TS/TG) from what my friend told me she LOVED anal sex more than vaginal sex. She loved it to the point where if she was having her period and horny they'd have anal sex and the first time he had intercourse with her they had anal sex. She's not a prostitute or a Transwoman.

Anal sex is a personal preference though.

Even among bi/gay/queer men like myself there are many of us who don't have anal sex, who don't like it, and some who only give anal sex because their partner is into it and they want to please him and some men just keep it as a once a year or few times a year type of thing and not something that they want to do each and everytime they have sex. Some queer men only use fingers/toys/a tongue/a hand and don't use their cock but I've met lots of queer men who define anal sex as any type of sex where the anus is stimulated and some who consider it to be just anal intercourse.

Like I wrote before it's all a personal preference and some people are into it and love it and some people aren't into it.

 

[crOOk]

Actually, I just got an sms girl friend: "[...] and theres somethign else: Ass fucking is now standard" Probably not translated very well, but who cares.

And I know other girls who get off through anal stimulation way easier than through vaginal stimulation. It's not just the prostate that's sensitive for men either, there are countless sensitive nerve endings in the area, both outside and inside.

Give your girlfriend some time. Play with her asshole a bit when you take her from behind. See how it losens up, waiting to eat your finger up. :D If she gets tense wait for a better moment, tell her you'll be careful and all that crap she might want to hear, in the end it won't hurt her at all anyway, no matter how big your dick is and how rough you fuck her. If she doesn't cramp up, most women will assure you it's worse to get a rough pussy drilling.

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

I've heard about how there's a "female prostate" but it's not like the male prostate.

This:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skene's_gland

WideI: I don't have an obcession about it, it has always kinda tripped me out. Found out at Bluelight that males (and my TS friends) enjoy it 'cause they have a prostate orgasm.

 

[crOOk]

Well, I suppose if u'r the kinda guy who stays hard for hours and she gets tired after enjoying it, as a favor she may let U finish there.

I did it once 'cause I knew the guy wouldn't leave until he was satisfied . . . it hurt for 3-days.

She may also do it to keep U from leaving.

My goal is to satisfy the customer and then show him the door. (My slut daze are over.)

That's plain bullshit, a lot of girls are into anal sex. You couldn't let go - it hurt. End of story. No anal sex for you it seems. Others enjoy it. A lot. Some more than others, some will favor it. Others will favor a rough beating or piss over their face or both. Don't judge people like that.

[...]because it simply wasn't meant to be a sexual port of entry[...]

Who meant what? lol

 

[GoddessLSD-XTC]

That's plain bullshit, a lot of girls are into anal sex. You couldn't let go - it hurt. End of story. No anal sex for you it seems. Others enjoy it. A lot. Some more than others, some will favor it. Others will favor a rough beating or piss over their face or both. Don't judge people like that.

No, the guy had a rock-hard, large cock that was too big 4 me either way. I'm not judging them but it seems many guys are inconsiderate insisting on it.

WideI: That's U'r 420 (420th) post U can't quit now! (I gotta quit now 'cause I hafta run an errand.)

 

[yeeteth]

let her do you with a strap on. doesn't sound too appealing? now you know how she feels...

I'm having the same problem an I let her do that to me cause I like that stuff anyways an she still won't she absolutely refuses she even got a plug saying she'd consider then was like nah

 

[ageingpartyfiend]

I'm having the same problem an I let her do that to me cause I like that stuff anyways an she still won't she absolutely refuses she even got a plug saying she'd consider then was like nah

she doesn't want to do it, loads of people don't

if you respect her then that should be that, don't push her

 

[MsDiz]

I’m going to lock this more than a decade old thread until a SLR mod comes along and clears up some of the comments that are frankly, pretty gross.

It goes without saying, respect your partner and what they want to engage in.

 

[xtcgrrrl]

Thread unlocked, can we try to be less cringey now please?

Consent is consent. No means no, it doesn’t mean “pressure her until she says yes.” What are you, 8?! Whining when you don’t get your way.

Furthermore, there isn’t any discussion a lot what’s “reasonable” or not. A boundary is a boundary. Even if she says “I won’t have sex on even-numbered days” or something like that, what you do is say “ok.” Unless you’re only in it to get something out of it, and that’s not love. Love is unselfish, and if you love someone you don’t wanna hurt them. Right??

Anyway, OP’s question was long since answered to his satisfaction I believe

 

[ions]

It is my firm belief that sodomy is battery. Butt sex is breakup sex.

 

[ions]

I agree. on the clit. Work the clit.
I was a backstreet boy at one point.
It didn't end well .

 

[yubacity]

Stick your tongue down there

 

[Senior Moderator]

If someone isn't comfortable with anal play, just leave it alone. End of story.

 

[Juicewrldfan]

If someone isn't comfortable with anal play, just leave it alone. End of story.

Yeah. I never really understood anal play. It’s kinda gross imo. That’s just me though. I mean shit comes out there. Why would I want to put my in there. I especially don’t understand the allure people have with putting their tongue down there. Gross asf.

On a side note, when I was in my youth, I was wondering what all the hype was about and why some guys enjoy it. And was exploring my sexuality. So I stuck a frozen hot dog up there and there was no pleasure. Just felt like a really cold turd stuck up there. I don’t get it. Guess it’s just not what appeals to me sexually. For those that do, I have no judgement. Just not my thing. I knew for sure at that point that I wasn’t bi. Nothing goes in my exit port ever since. Nothing wrong with it if it is what someone enjoys. Just like I said not for me.

And I definitely wouldn’t push it on someone. I joke about it with my girl sometimes and she’s like umm no, that would hurt.

 

[yubacity]

Yeah. I never really understood anal play. It’s kinda gross imo. That’s just me though. I mean shit comes out there. Why would I want to put my in there. I especially don’t understand the allure people have with putting their tongue down there. Gross asf.

On a side note, when I was in my youth, I was wondering what all the hype was about and why some guys enjoy it. And was exploring my sexuality. So I stuck a frozen hot dog up there and there was no pleasure. Just felt like a really cold turd stuck up there. I don’t get it. Guess it’s just not what appeals to me sexually. For those that do, I have no judgement. Just not my thing. I knew for sure at that point that I wasn’t bi. Nothing goes in my exit port ever since. Nothing wrong with it if it is what someone enjoys. Just like I said not for me.

And I definitely wouldn’t push it on someone. I joke about it with my girl sometimes and she’s like umm no, that would hurt.

Anal sex not all that but i love sticking my tongue down there but if she says no then n o it is

 

[Senior Moderator]

but if she says no then n o it is

Good

 

[Mr. Krinkle]

Yeah. I never really understood anal play. It’s kinda gross imo. That’s just me though. I mean shit comes out there. Why would I want to put my in there. I especially don’t understand the allure people have with putting their tongue down there. Gross asf.

Yup - totally - im with you on that 100%


but OP's name is great tho - 2 in the pink, but nothing in the stink

 

[TheUltimateFixx]

So I stuck a frozen hot dog up there and there was no pleasure.

I'm not bloody surprised. What you want is something warm and wet.

I knew for sure at that point that I wasn’t bi.

You do know that liking anal play or not has nothing to do with specific sexual attraction -?

 

[foodcrisis]

in my experience vagina feels like it's made to put a penis in, it wraps around the penis nicely and feels like it's sucking it in... putting a dick in a butthole on the other hand, from my experince maybe my girlfriend wasn't good at it or something, but it feels like it's pushing out or rejecting the penis.

i would've never thought to have anal sex if it weren't for a buddy of mine. he'd never shut up about how most girls asses don't have hair and guys do, so girls asses are meant to have dick in them. lol i was always afraid to use birth control with my girl, and we were living together, so i figured why not anal. after a few tries i asked her if she liked it and she said no. i felt bad and we never did that again.

i think anal sex is mostly something that girls get paid to do in movies. watching these moving surprisingly still turns me on, really no more than regular sex, but they still work and if the girl is pretty, i definitely watch. it looks to me like it's something that girls train for, some are better than others and this can make it attractive. really though, i don't think anal gives the same chemical release as stimulatiing the clit. i'm not a girl, so i really don't know. it seems like nature made dick and vagina for loving and anal sex was just some creepy person in evolutions idea. idk. i remember once my girlfriend and i were sleeping together naked and we ended up having sleep sex, like i woke up banging her. that natural act never would've occurred with anal.

however, i could go on about how i like to watch anal in movies and i'm tempted to post some vids of stuff that i just find amazing. i'm sure you can find it on pornmd though. just search "bad dragon". you might find some vids of dudes that can't fit the stuff up their ass as well. from what i've seen girls can shove larger stuff up their ass than dudes. i've only seen a few movies of dudethough. those girls playing tricks on my mind. lol

 

[yeeteth]

she doesn't want to do it, loads of people don't

if you respect her then that should be that, don't push her

But why tease me like in bed about then be like now never speak about again or I'll be upset I don't ask anymore she keeps bringing it up an my response is "it's whatever u wanna do I want u to enjoy it to" but I'm the bad guy I don't understand