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My girlfriend doesn't want to do anal..HELP!!!

my gf and i thoroughly checked online about info for approaching anal sex,since i was her 1st for anal. we did find that a nice anal plug and a good amount of lube helps,also dont know if you use drugs at all,but rush( amyl nitrate) can work wonders for relaxing the anal muscles...just take it very slow and listen to her if she lets you even try mild anal foreplay
 
Two_in_the_pink said:
My girlfriend of almost 2 years is a little gun shy when it comes to the bunghole. Any suggestions?
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Make a compromise, simply explain to her if she lets you stick in her arse she can do the same to you with a strap on. Alternatively if she's not into fucking you like a bitch she could invite a big black gay man to pound your instead. Trust me it'll work like a charm
 
rearranged said:
i tried it first to see how it was before my wife did. the first time was ok at first. she was wearing a strap on, i was a little tense. then she got so into it, it got me into it, and was a great experience. it was very empowering for her i guess and caused her to have an orgasm. her seeing me got her so into it that she insisted " fuck me in the ass now." that was my experience with getting my so to try anal. i guess it worked out ok. i found out in the process i liked it and so did the wife. i just have the attitude towards sex that if it feels good, go with it. everyone has to put labels on everything. as the hustler ads say"relax, it's just sex"
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see^
 
Sneak attack it, Tell her you want to fuck her doggystyle and just SLIDE IT IN (With some lube of course), JUST KIDDING, I think that is considered RAPE in my book........................
 
My boyfriend recently told me that he prefers anal without lube because he likes to hear me scream in pain 8o . Which I guess is ok since we're both into s&m, but I was slightly shocked when he told me. The pain can be really bad, but it makes me feel a bit 'Story of O'-esque to be able to handle it, it's kind of sexy. Not something to do very often though (forced without lube that is) since it can cause fissures and whatnot.
 
what, anal fissures? ;) jk

I guess I was a bit disturbed by his admission at first because it sounds so unethical... But then again, I like to hear him scream in pain too so it evens out. :D
 
vancbc said:
If you're really into going the anal route, and I say this with seriousness.....start by playing with your own ass. Find out what feels good and what doesn't. I don't mean go start shoving cucumbers up your butt, but while showering when you're sure you're clean explore a bit with some lube and your fingers. If you're adventurous and open minded, you may even find that over time a very small toy can be pretty amazing. Once you figure out what works for you, try it with your girl, even showing her how you play with yourself if you have the balls to do it. :-)

The anus is one of the most sensitive areas of the body and if you get yourself and your girl past the taboo of ass play, it can be incredibly pleasurable for both of you.

Just remember, too much lube is just about enough and take it easy and slooooooooooow. Very few people I know enjoyed getting ass fucked the first few times because it can be a very strange and almost unpleasant sensation and make you think you need to take a dump. It may be a good idea the first couple of times you actually try penetration is to go very slow and don't even thrust, let her get used to the feeling. If you do decide to get active, go slow and I mean slow.......if you're experienced getting ass fucked like crazy can be super hot, but if you're not experienced it's about as bad as it gets. It takes time to adjust but when you do the pleasure associated with both giving and receiving can be awesome!

Some of the worst stories I've heard are from women who talk about the incredible pain when a well meaning but clueless boyfriend or partner thought all ya had to do was shove a hard cock up their ass.
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Awesome, well thought out response. :)
 
OK, some advice from someone who loves it (but didn't always):

The first thing you have to do is get her to like having things near/in her asshole. So, for example, when you go down on her, lick her ass, put your tongue in it, and use a finger (start with a pinky and move up).

The best time to try anal is right after she has come some other way, preferably by you going down on her. Stick your finger up her ass and tell her that you want to feel the inside of her pretty little asshole. Go back to licking it and fingering it. Get everything nice and wet, using your saliva, her juices, and KY--you can't have too much lube.

You don't want to do it from behind, rather, do it face to face with her legs over your shoulders (be careful, you can go deep this way). Enter nice and slow, and don't go in the entire length of your shaft. You can't pound it like you can some pussy.

Rather than spending the entire time fucking her ass, do what's called "ass to pussy, pussy to ass:" three strokes ass, three strokes pussy. (Love it). Tell her where you'd like to come, and don't be suprised if she doesn't. For the first time, I'd recommend cumming in her pussy.

What's key is nice and slow, lots of lube, and making sure that she is soft and wet from cumming herself.

She may never like it, and if that's the case, find something a little kinky that you both like--boss and secretary role-play is really hot right now!
 
Respect her boundaries. I will never do anal and my boyfriend respects that. Anyone who doesn't respect their partners boundaries doesnt deserve their partner... simple as that.
 
Missykins said:
Rather than spending the entire time fucking her ass, do what's called "ass to pussy, pussy to ass:" three strokes ass, three strokes pussy. (Love it). Tell her where you'd like to come, and don't be suprised if she doesn't. For the first time, I'd recommend cumming in her pussy.
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A2P is generally not recommended at all, you can get some nasty infections that way. That said, I've done it (not intended to, but these things happen if you have anal sex a lot) and never had any problems. But I still wouldn't advise doing it on purpose.
 
glitterbizkit said:
A2P is generally not recommended at all, you can get some nasty infections that way. That said, I've done it (not intended to, but these things happen if you have anal sex a lot) and never had any problems. But I still wouldn't advise doing it on purpose.
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How do you do it by mistake?
 
Have you considered giving her control of the situation? Let her guide you and let her thrust instead of the other way. That way if it gets uncomfortable, she's the one in control, not you. Which is how anal should be, usually.
 
glitterbizkit said:
A2P is generally not recommended at all, you can get some nasty infections that way. That said, I've done it (not intended to, but these things happen if you have anal sex a lot) and never had any problems. But I still wouldn't advise doing it on purpose.
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Jesus no it's NOT recommended!! Yes it feels good but it's insanely unhygienic.
 
As a girl, I'm very open minded about trying it, I know he wants it, it is just a matter of time. But I just don't inderstand why men are SO for it? Just wondering....
 
ilovebadreligion said:
As a girl, I'm very open minded about trying it, I know he wants it, it is just a matter of time. But I just don't inderstand why men are SO for it? Just wondering....
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Well, regular vagina sex may come too boring in a time. We are not the only ones who want to try new things...
 
MidnightBaby said:
Jesus no it's NOT recommended!! Yes it feels good but it's insanely unhygienic.
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Hmm, how's that that it's pretty common on porn? I mean if she would get a little bit more money from it, then he still wouldn't risk with it...
 
Two_in_the_pink said:
My girlfriend of almost 2 years is a little gun shy when it comes to the bunghole. Any suggestions?
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Yes, think about it really hard untill you figure out it doesn't belong up there and leave that poor girl's ass alone.
 
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