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My girlfriend doesn't want to do anal..HELP!!!

LOL @ DamagedLemon.....been an avid fan of the ole ass fucking for 15 years now and never once had shit and water all over the sheets.
 
I'm generally not a fan of pitching either. It generally hurts the catcher too much for me to start throwing in the 90s, and I get bored throwing change-ups for too long. it can be hot, but I really prefer boring old missionary. I also had a bad experience with poo-dick once. anal hasn't really been the same since
 
toa$t said:
my girl wants to do me with a strap on but I'm so not into the idea (because I'm a homophobe, right The Is? haha, idiot).
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Heres a tip thats gonna save you a lot of worry in the long run: You're already gay. Your girlfriend isn't gonna turn you "more gay" by fucking your ass, it's always been in your head and its a part of who you are that isn't gonna change. Just go with it. :)
 
DamagedLemon said:
I inferred it from mooncaller's descriptive experience. 8)
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I hear ya......pretty scary mental image no matter where it comes from.
 
The Is said:
Heres a tip thats gonna save you a lot of worry in the long run: You're already gay. Your girlfriend isn't gonna turn you "more gay" by fucking your ass, it's always been in your head and its a part of who you are that isn't gonna change. Just go with it. :)
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haha, dude, you are really cracking me up. i'm not sure if you think I'm supposed to be offended by being called gay, or if you actually think I am gay because I don't like stuff being put in my pooper. I have trouble following either way. probably cuz I'm so confused about my sexual orientation, right?
 
Maybe you can put her at ease by using a finger first.. if she's okay with it..
and then, if she likes it.. slowly work your way up.. (another person suggested working up to a toy.) Don't try to rush it.. that can be a big mistake and might totally ruin your chances of trying it again.

I had a boyfriend once who really enjoyed a tongue in his ass.. it made him orgasm very quickly.. ;)
 
let her do you with a strap on. doesn't sound too appealing? now you know how she feels...
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A girl who wanted to fuck me up the ass with a strap-on while giving a reach-around wouldn't have to ask me twice. :) Still, it's not a bad idea to find a dildo or other object about the size of your dick and shove it up your own ass before asking a girl to let you do the same to her.

What, you're afraid that would make you gay? Only if the object you're using is another man's penis. There are a lot of nerves around the opening of the anus; stimulation increases levels of adrenaline and various neurotransmitters, which can amplify orgasm.

Non-penetrative ass play is definitely the way to talk a girl into trying it. While eating her out, let a lubed finger wander from vagina to asshole, rubbing around the opening, then gently prodding at the middle of the anus itself. Unless she has some fairly big hang-ups, she'll like it. Once she's comfortable with that much, you might try (gently) inserting a (WELL LUBED) finger up her anus when she starts orgasming from oral. :) If you can manage to effectively lick/suck the clit while working her g-spot with a finger or two while working the anus gently with another finger (again, I'd stick with non-penetrative until she's near climaxing)...well, you can expect high customer satisfaction. :)
 
who said anything about being gay???!!! my point was just to illustrate to two in the pink that it's reasonable for his gf not to want a cock in her ass. I just thought two in the pink should consider it from the other end (pun absolutely intended). I doubt that most virgin gay dudes go around thinking about how good a huge cock in their ass is going to feel, and are probably pretty nervous about the first time.

so for the record: I don't think sticking stuff (other than cocks, if you are a guy) in your ass makes you gay, and so what if it does?!

sheesh!
 
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vancbc said:
To me........occasionally by me.
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I've tried doing it to myself with toys and fingers, and having men do this to me and I don't like it even when everything is done correctly.

To me it just feels like going to the bathroom backwards and it's uncomfortable and it burns for a few days afterwards even when I go very slowly, when I'm relaxed and use the smallest toys available and use lots of lube.

I prefer having things on the outside like a toy (vibrator), finger, and man's tongue/beard.

Not everyone is like I am though and I have friends that love receptive anal sex.

I used to think that there was something wrong with me or get jealous that I couldn't do or get what my bottom/versatile friends get from receptive anal sex but I get enjoyment out of mutual jack off, oral sex (69, getting, and reciving), rubbing/frottage, and bondage/SM that my vanilla versatile/bottom friends don't get.

I much highly prefer putting toys into someone.

Most of the men/women I've dated aren't into anal sex at all, or they're strictly tops for it.

The geyser of santorum story seems a little out there. 8o

I've never had that happen to me or anyone I know but my versatile/bottom friends just tell me how they eat lots of dietary fiber (fruits/vegetables/yoghurt), stay hydrated with water, space out their meals, they don't use enemas or a douche (as it takes away the mucous lining and good bacteria and can raise your risk for STDs) and just wash their butt normally in the shower with soap and water and they're fine.

original poster-Even if your GF doesn't want your penis inside her, there are other types of anal sex that you can do that are enjoyable like rimming/being rimmed, using fingers, or vibrators on the outside.

Also there's A LOT more to men having sex with each other than anal sex. I have bi/gay male friends who aren't into it at all, who don't do it at all, and it's hardly a requirement.
 
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Dude, get the fuck over it and respect her and what she wants, that is if you ACTUALLY care about her. She says no, it means no, drop it already. Jeesh!
 
toa$t said:
so for the record: I don't think sticking stuff (other than cocks, if you are a guy) in your ass makes you gay, and so what if it does?!
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Wow man. You're blowing up, getting pissed, editing your posts. Just chill! There are no judgements here. ;)
 
you can tell her how you want to try it. how hot and kinky you'd think it'd be. and if she isn't down even when she's drunk or fucked up your only other option would be---- >
untaMe said:
respect her boundaries
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mooncaller said:
It is and it does.

I remember doing it my first time with a boyfriend (who was very thick) he knowing it sometimes leaves little chocolate treats had me do an enema first. I did so and we thought I was good to go.

We get into it and do it for a while and it's ok after getting over the initial feeling of my butthole being ripped open. (I cried but dealt with it :( ) So then he goes to pull out and a geyser of shit and water spews out of my ass completely out of my control and sprays all over him and the sheets.

Anyways, having done anal I can enjoy it sometimes if I'm really turned on and actually primed for it (if i am rolling that helps aswell). But If your girlfriend doesn't want to do it then it's probably going to hurt her quite a bit.
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Well, this is officially now the #1 most disturbing image BL has ever put in my head.8o

That's horrible! guess the enema wasn't the best idea after all..


I liked what generic mind was saying in the beginning there about how it can be a special thing for just the two of you...but he kinda dropped the ball of morality in the end there with the 'works every time' bit lol

Seriously though, this CAN be true. It's a big trust thing too. I wouldn't push the idea though, personally I never said a thing. When she's ready, just be VERY slow and gentle or you'll scare her away from it for ever. Lube and a pinkey, take it up from there lol. I didn't think it was possible, but a girl can come HARD off anal! Also, if you two roll, MDMA is a big helper, enhanced trust, relaxation, and pain killing properties.

Just don't push for it- think about it, if she REALLY doesn't want to do it, would you even feel comfortable enough to enjoy it while this person your supposed to love is suffering? No point in sweating it.:)
 
^ Agreed. Thanks for all the responses everyone, I think my question was answered in the first 8 posts. Before all the gay talk and flaming. Thanks everyone, I'll let ya know how it goes.
 
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