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Mtgg

My condolences to Toms family and Helen.. I read his posts and thought he was a really cool guy and contributed a lot to the forum.. He will definitly be missed around here..

Again I'm very sorry for his family and Helen.. I hope you can find it in you to somehow move on and cope with your loss.
 
fucking undertakers! The priest we want to say a few words (being the only religous type who knew tom personally) is going away tuesday. So we want the funeral then. We have to go and formally identify him in manchester today; then we get an interim death certificate enabling us to bury him. But the undertakers claim that if they can't collect him today they won't be able to organise funeral by tuesday. What happened to friday and monday you ambulance chasing bastards? Fuck it for the thousands we are paying you you could work weekends even...i appreciate there is probably a lot of red tape involved but for fucks sake....
shit it makes me so sad even to be posting here...the last time i used to post we had just discovered GHB and I'd be on the computer downstairs and he'd be upstairs (G would give me verbal diarrhea as well as the normal kind). been looking back at his old posts but got to stop as its just wallowing....it's nice to know he had some good freinds and some good times.
 
^^ please don't let the oddly inefficient rituals of death in our culture get under your skin.

I've been through some truly horrific funeral situations with dead friends, in the past. The first few times, it just made things so much worse. Later, I learned to look past that silly stuff and focus on the memories and the wisdom. Even the best funeral or memorial still doesn't make death go away.

Death is not efficient. In fact, I'll share an old BASE saying that somehow helped to encapsulate the whole surreal process for those of us who really have seen too many deaths, and funerals, and losses:

Death, as they say, continues to suck. . .

Peace,

Fausty
 
Out of the people I've known who have died through intoxication, alcohol is by far the biggest culprit. One friend asphyxiated himself by passing out face down on a pillow while very pissed; if anything, I hope the people who are saying that this is a wake up call actually mean it and they're not just hollow words. Then at least something positive will have come out of this tragedy - as I mentioned in my previous post, 2008 has been a shitty year so far for BL as several members have passed away; please try and make it so that Tom is the last one this year. Wherever he is, I'm sure he agree with that sentiment
 
I had a dream about Tom last night. We were discussing Camus and Sartre. Tom said 'I don't like Sartre, all that rubbish about nausea'. Now, he liked, as I do, Camus, but having someone like Tom agree with me sort of made it official, like asking a teacher if your work was right.

His intellect was quite formidable. Certainly in the top 1%.

I figure as long as we remember him, he's not gone. He changed my life for the better. He looked after me. He worried about me.

I hope to get hold of a picture of him, so I can keep his image fresh.


Sean
 
I'd just like to pay my respects although I never met Tom the man seems to have been a thoroughly decent human being.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
Mary Elizabeth Frye.
 
shit man i remember reading one of his posts the other week

R.I.P m8 didnt know u but u will be missed by many
 
Tom! Sad. Sad. Sad. :(

Such a clever oke! I hadn't been round here a while and hoped he'd found his peace somehow. He was just too sharp for his own good. Dear foolhardy Tom!

I remember at glade last year he saw a kid get bust with a fuckload of pills by security and he went to his defence, quoting laws at those bruisers better than a lawyer could've.

RIP

*hugs to Helen*
 
Tylerdurden said:
I remember at glade last year he saw a kid get bust with a fuckload of pills by security and he went to his defence, quoting laws at those bruisers better than a lawyer could've.
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I don't want to take away from the tradjedy of his death, but what a fucking hero!:\
 
Tylerdurden said:
Tom! Sad. Sad. Sad. :(

Such a clever oke! I hadn't been round here a while and hoped he'd found his peace somehow. He was just too sharp for his own good. Dear foolhardy Tom!

I remember at glade last year he saw a kid get bust with a fuckload of pills by security and he went to his defence, quoting laws at those bruisers better than a lawyer could've.

RIP

*hugs to Helen*
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Yeah, he got a black eye for that (the kid got off with it by the way).

I remember sitting with him and you in the morning, he was buckled and kept trying to light invisible tabs.
 
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I never chatted with him, but it sounds like he had a lotta friends.

RIP, MTGG!!

"If there's a God in Heaven...& I sure hope there is...then he's sitting up there drunker than a monkey & smokin shit...as he left all his pain down here." -- Platoon
 
hungryghostredman & cherry

I did not know Tom that well but my deepest sympathies go out to you and Toms family.
 
i know for a fact he's okay.....in a better place.......i wish i was with him,but i have work yet to do b4 its my turn. r.i.p. bro
 
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