Man and Dude and Bro (& co.)

[An Iz]

and we can't forget GUEY

 

[n3ophy7e]

Guey??

 

[An Iz]

sî, guey.

 

[Average Whiteboy]

Well, I'd rather be called "man," "dude" or "bro" instead of "asshole," "fuckwit" or "idiot."

 

[Khadijah]

I think An IZ is a virgin. i j ust get that vibe from his posts. he reminds me of waking/airforlyfe

Anyways, good point avg whiteboy. Then again some of the ppl bitchin about this comes from a country where friends call eachother cunt, so hey...LOL.....Id take dude over that anyday, even tho cunt really dont bother me at all and saying it against a woman that hates it really brings me alot of evil enjoyment.

Anyways tho....//offtopic

 

[dankstersauce]

I don't put much thought into it. But I do use "man" and "dude" a lot. I'm not too big on "bro"...unless me and friends are shitty drunk and we're just being sloppy and obnoxious. I think it's just the slang that we adopted from the older crowd while we were growing up. Especially from the older skateboarders I used to chill with and the older drug users.

The one that really drives me crazy is "guy", like "oh, hey there guy" or "whats up guy". I don't know but to me, "guy" feels like someone obviously doesn't know my name and doesn't care to learn it, but still wants to sound like a friend. I'd say imho "guy" is right up there with "tiger" "buddy" and "chief". Call me dude, man or bro before you ever call me guy, tiger, buddy or chief.

I am actually surprised at how many straight older men ( of the baby boomer generation ) call me babe.

It happens at work, out at the straight bars, etc. I don't think it carries any kind of sexual connotation, but it does irk me, as I would expect to hear such a thing in a gay bar.

^^my dad always said "babe", and not just addressing women, he'd use it in any casual conversation. I think it was their dude.

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

I'd say imho "guy" is right up there with "tiger" "buddy" and "chief". Call me dude, man or bro before you ever call me guy, tiger, buddy or chief.

Agreed.

Other ways I don't appreciate being paged: toughguy, bigguy, ace, sport, killer, hotshot, bigshot, champ.

 

[StarOceanHouse]

sî, guey.

compa

 

[dragonslayer428]

for me, it's a habit and can be a term of endearment. For instance: "bro"

 

[Fjones]

Wow, this is unexpected. A whole bunch of people are bothered by all this shit, and I am not bothered at all.

I think people use "man" and "bro" and "dude" without giving it a second thought. I don't think it means anything. My friends and I might say any of the following--

"Hay man, what's up?"

"Bro, did you see that shit?"

"Did you see that dude flip out over there?"

These are just ways of speaking. They don't mean anything. It's just easier to say sometimes than a person's name. Mine has 3 syllables, and It is probably easier for people to use a one-syllable substitute for my actual name.

On the other hand, I think "buddy" and, ironically, "Pal" and "Friend" are used when trying to be condescending.

"Look pal, we don't put up with that shit around here"

"Listen buddy, why don't you go fuck yourself?"

"Listen friend, You'd better stop fucking around and get your shit together."

Furthermore, anyone who uses "champ" or boss" should be instantly killed in the most painful manner possible.

 

[Noodle]

I was thinking about this topic a couple of days ago at work. I was called dude, bro, brother, babe, buddy, chief, pal and kiddo multiple times throughout the day.

 

[Jamshyd]

Interesting.

I think this thread has actually made a difference for me. I just find it interesting that I actually don't know how to use these words - and they do exist in both of my languages (English and Arabic - there are equivalents in the latter).

I similarly am not very good at using words like "babe".

 

[An Iz]

interesting

 

[Damien]

Interesting.

I think this thread has actually made a difference for me. I just find it interesting that I actually don't know how to use these words - and they do exist in both of my languages (English and Arabic - there are equivalents in the latter).

I similarly am not very good at using words like "babe".

Dude, just do it. :D

 

[FunkyDrummer75]

It's a good question. I've often noticed I slip in these words with people I feel more comfortable around, or think are more "like me" than others....I wouldn't say this in a business environment, but with people I'm more used to I say it (mostly man, not dude)...not sure why, though. Buddy is salesguy/redneck term which you won't hear me use.

 

[FunkyDrummer75]

Agreed.

Other ways I don't appreciate being paged: toughguy, bigguy, ace, sport, killer, hotshot, bigshot, champ.

I'm with you there, boss.

 

[Jamshyd]

I like jam, but , Dude--It aint none of those things, especially the last one. especially in a country where english is the language...Homie was havin problems with it becuz he said he dont understand where it ranks on a scale of formal or intimacy in any of his non english languages becuz they dont have equivalent of it, so it was hard for him to figure out where it belonged , like if u call someone that becuz u like them, or dont like them, if you are close to them or formal with them,etc. but you dont need to go around bein all ultra sensitive and shit now becuz one person has a misunderstanding of the meaning of a common word that almost all of us uses.

Jam me and you always talk n shit and you know Im cool wit u, so dont feel like I am talkin shit cuz I aint. but straight up, thinking that its homophobic or something is one of the most ridiculous things i ever heard. Not becuz I aint gay so i aint sensitive to issues like that or that i am ignorant of how it couldd be antigay or somethin, but Seriously, just becuz it really, really AINT. they just aint got nothing to do with each other. if you think its homophobic becuz men say it to each other instead of their names, becuz they are secretly homophobic becuz they dont want to use each others names becuz that would be too loving for them or somethin, i think you are kind of confused of the meaning of these words which is pretty m uch, nothing.

Imagine if you didnt know the meaning of a word in a different language, and you thought it was a insult cuz u aint familiar with it, but it turns out to be somethin else completely, even somethin semi friendly. U feel me? its something like that. america is a laid back very casual type of country in general compared to alot of other ones, and english is a pretty un formal kind of language, so if you call someone dude or bro or man instead of their name, it really dont mean a thing at all, you readin way too much into it. it aint cuz youre avoiding being close, or respectful to them, by sayin any of these words instead of their name. And, wats the alternative ifit aint their name? sayin ''hey you''? lol. now THAT actually COULD come offf as rude.

As far as why ppl say it instead of names, well Using somebodys name can get repetivie first thing. second, it can be formal like damien said. third it can also be more intimate . Like "i like the art you do man" is one thing, but "i like the art you do anthony" is kind of more serious, something that a person who is close to the guy would say. So i guess that is where you were seein the gay phobic part of it but trust us when we tell you it aint like that, its just that here we dont really address each other by name except when its necessary like introducin to new ppl, at school/court/watever, etc, at work, or shit like that. otherwise, its a sign of bein familiar with somebody or also if you dont want to seem too familiar. LOL no wonder youre confused, i guess it is kind of complicated now that you made it that way! Damn u!! lol jk.

Imagine if your girl spills your drink and instead of bein like , Dude, that wasnt cool ! you be like, Jahaira, that wasnt cool! it makes it so serious when it aint.

LOL i never thought I would be even thinkin about somethin like ethis much less writin out a whole post on it, ONly on bluelight yo, only on bluelight.....8)

Lol, I don't know how I missed this post. Lacy, dude, reeeeeelaaaax!

I was just throwing out the idea for discussion.

Now I know that most people use it to assert friendliness.

But then there is this:

I think it's because many gay guys (well, you and me, anyway) have realised that they don't have to constantly assert their own gender identity - considering "bro" etc. seem to be things that people with a masculine gender identity say.

Which hits bullseye, if you ask me...

 

[mariacallas]

I can think of somebody who uses "bro" a lot on this website and now I wonder....

As for myself, some of my close close girlfriends and I call each other DUDE hahaha or it morphs into another form of dude (which I will spare you the details of, as it is ridiculous sounding..) I just realized Filipinos call each other all sorts of silly things as terms of endearment or just because....and Im talking both sexes and everything in between :D


Hey Jam...hi babe

 

[Noodle]

Some butch lesbians like to use the word dude.

How does that fit into your worldview jammy?

 

[Damien]

Lol, I don't know how I missed this post. Lacy, dude, reeeeeelaaaax!