This should be EASY I don't need to change cute girls are just stucked up and mean pretty much 100% of the time
What makes it hard?
Take me through your typical meeting with a girl and tell me what happens; explain to me the awful, shocking nature of the human female in all of her disgusting glory.
Just, it seems like it's probably got something to do with the fact that you're high: girls are about as nervous as guys. I go out and talk to women and it
is easy, it's
so easy you wouldn't believe that you just had to actually open your mouth whilst facing a human stranger of your preferred gender.
After that, it involves avoiding letting the wrong thing get said, because you don't want to offend or insult someone whom you've just met, whilst also attempting to proposition them for casual sex! Damnit, man, where's your sense of decency?! It's probably better (
for you) to meet a girl, get to know her by going out multiple times, asking loads of questions or just listening to her talk and responding when she needs responding to, and then let things naturally run their course--the anticipation of even a kiss could drive you wild with joy, rather than manufactured bliss or 'ecstasy' and, finally, when you touch in a romantic and special way it will
mean something more than just... she doesn't mind being with people who claim to need expensive amphetamine-like drugs to even approach a stranger...
You don't seem to understand this
'girlfriend' business. It's a meeting of the minds and bodies and involves two consenting individuals deciding to embark upon a relationship together, and if she doesn't feel that you're boyfriend-material because you're constantly so stoned that you can't see, or you chat her up and she then discovers that your eyeballs are whipping about due to nystagmus and your pupils are like huge black glossy dinner plates, she's likely to be less-than impressed; maybe even frightened, because not every girl knows about drugs, understands that being stoned can be normal or that MDMA just makes you very caring and loving.
If I was talking to a girl and she turned out to be tripping, I wouldn't immediately think "great, an opportunity for sex!" I'd think "I wonder how I'm going to be able to safely get this person back to their home and then come back and meet someone sober enough to actually speak to me and get to know me." So, I guess you should just try putting yourself in their shoes and attempting to see what you did wrong.
However, obviously-pretty women end up getting constantly asked out by other men and
end up being constantly objectified, potentially even made to
feel as if they deserve harrassment for having physical beauty, and generally
get treated like some sort of walking sex-toy by a lot of men. This is the reason why so many women are quick to stop a guy in his tracks. It's probably more out of a desire to save time, to not be objectified and to actually get along with their day than to deliberately upset the four-hundredth guy that day who's invited her for a drink or just plain ordered her to have sex with him.
I'm not saying that you're failing to make any progress here. Hell, you've met women and you're talking to them openly, but what happens when you get into a relationship? Do you snort a bump of MDMA before taking her out to dinner, where you won't eat anything but you'll chew your tongue and gulp down glass after glass of ice-water with an empty plate before you, asking her if she can feel the wonderful energy of this room before telling her that the music's too slow? Come
on! Be realistic!
What about if you end up in a relationship and she wants to move in? She only knows MDMA-Guy, so you remain on it full-time until psychosis grips your mind and body and tears your life asunder? You don't even need to be an alcoholic; alcohol, actually, is the scariest of them all, 'cause I've seen drunken guys and I've
been (we've all been) drunken guys: we grope and we don't like being told "no", plus we lack even the most basic inhibitions, have the crudest thought process and physical violence appears to be the best means of solving any problem with another guy--I say I'd never hit a girl, but accidents can happen when you're drunk and, hrm, look, I'm not against you and I don't really know you, just I have a good inkling of what's going wrong...
Stay sober and then go out and talk to girls. Go out to bars and find girls amongst guys who've been drinking and then see whom they find more attractive: a drooling, stumbling moron slobbering all over them, or someone capable of operating all of their limbs in tandem without getting confused and thrown out of some tragic club? Seriously. Go out one night sober into the middle of everything and just watch everyone else with that drunken gait and glassy-eyed stare, the threats, the crying, the joy followed by inappropriate singing and dancing, the nudity, the vomit, the urine (just
all of the bodily fluids) and the melancholy and everything else.
You're clearly a functional addict, if an addict at all, and becoming addicted to alcohol will likely bring you pain; worse pain than you've ever felt. I know that having almost lost my own liver to the damned stuff it was fucking painful for me, but you're treating it as some sort of foregone conclusion--you'll
need to become an alcoholic in order to be happy?
Why?
Explain this nonsense.
Please!
Drinking until it's what you
need will cost you more than you'd like to lose, trust me on that if nothing else, please.
Good luck and take care.
I believe in you and I hope you'll try my sobriety suggestion: in the end it seems pretty obvious really, and you can always order a glass of coke or orange juice or something to make it seem like you're drinking. But, when trying to gain the affection and sexual attraction of a stranger, if you're lacking in experience, you'll probably want as much of your wits about you as you can muster. :-/