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I think I have a crush on my 15-years-older-than-me osteopath. Hah.

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That maybe true, but in some ways I'd consider him a creeper if that is his intentions. If he has been playing a role as a therapist, having that mentality seems pretty negative. Its not like shes just some random broad, he actually knows a decent amount about her/her personality, so it would be pretty disrespectful for him to go in with game plan of hitting it and quitting. I personally think whatever his intentions are, its not the right move for her. She'd be better off with someone her own age and maturity level. But if she just wants to bang him, and he wants to bang her, I guess go for it as their intentions are the same.
 
Pagey said:
Classy. XD
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You can't really be naive enough to discount this possibility, right? I just assumed that you were willing to take that risk or that you were just looking to have some fun. If you're going to throw yourself at this guy hoping for a future with kids and a white picket fence, I'd probably advise not to even bother. The odds are against you on that one.
 
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You can't really be naive enough to discount this possibility, right? I just assumed that you were willing to take that risk or that you were just looking to have some fun. If you're going to throw yourself at this guy hoping for a future with kids and a white picket fence, I'd probably advise not to even bother. The odds are against you on that one.
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Nah course not, I'm fully aware that might be the reason and is, in fact, probably the reason. I'm not looking for something serious or for a future with him...yeah I'm just looking to have some fun basically :) Cloudy that probably answers your concerns as well.

Edit: if I were looking for a long-term relationship or something, I would DEFINITELY stick to someone closer to my own age.
 
Oh God, why has this been unearthed...hahah

I went out with him for like 3 weeks, it was cool but I just felt too awkward about the age difference so I broke it off. Was fun while it lasted though.

This thread is so embarrassing now that I read through it again :|
 
alasdairm said:
obviously there is more to this than you've written here but there's absolutely nothing here that makes me think of this guy as a creeper.

he's been completely professional and reacted in a pretty understandable manner when you told him how you felt.

so 15 years is too big an age difference? how about 14 years 364 days? 14 years 363 days? where do you draw the line and how do you measure something like this objectively? age difference is something that only matters to the individuals involved.

pagey, you were attracted to him and you made the move. when he responded positively, you now agree that he's a creeper? that's an odd reaction to be honest.

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alasdair
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Agreed. As long as you're dealing with full-grown adults, the age shouldn't matter. Both people are adults and old enough to make their own decision on who they wanna date/ fuck and shouldn't have to have other people sticking their big noses in. If I was 80 years old I'd still fuck an 18 year old adult. Who cares. If anyone knows who Art Bell is, he's in his mid-to-late sixties and he's fucking this Phillipino woman who's like 20 who he hooke dup with after his wife mysteriously died
 
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^ no you don't understand - I don't mean you like him because of your father, I mean a technique to stopthis crush is to think of your father - because that is SURE to make it disappear - Pavlov Dog theory - aversion therapy, without the nose smacking.

Oh fair enough...I didnt actually look at when it was.
 
I got that from your first sentence but the 'this is a standard case of transference' sounded very psychoanalytical. Oh well, my bad then. Althogh it would probably have very much disturbed me to assimilate him to my father considering how attracted I was to him haha
 
oh OK - nah you're right about my transference comment - psycho analysis - I have encountered transference a number of myself, but been too immature to not take advantage of the situation. In retrospect I saw it very clearly - at the time I thought it was just normal part of getting to know someone you're attracted to. Yikes.

Why does psychoanalysis piss you off? It's not 100% foolproof, but it's often very enlightening, if done with the right person in teh right way.

I'm sure it would have disturbed you - that's kinda the point - conditioning oneself.

But yeah, I wouldn't make such a hasty rash judgement re any feelings about your father, especially in this context - you've never said anything about your father that would make me justified to think so.
 
Psychoanalysis pisses me off because it claims a lot of very unfounded things about human behavior. I honestly kinda feel like psychoanalysts just sort of pull theories out of their ass and have nothing to back them up with. It's fine if they wanna believe that stuff but they gotta stop saying it's unconditionally true. It annoys me that they have a need to relate everything back to sexuality and that every single little thing we do or say MUST have a subliminal meaning. A friend of mine from high school was really into psychoanalysis and he would just spend the whole time observing our every move to try and figure out who we 'really were' or whatever, and he always had to go back to Oedipian theories or other incestuous arguments.
It doesn't help that Freud was extremely sexist and that psychoanalysis in general tends to define woman as the inferior opposite of man.
/end rant
 
Psychoanalysis is basically bullshit. Usually practiced by guys who never get laid. And/or sniff the knickers of their female neigbours, which they've nicked from the laundry room.

That being said, some older guys can be incredibly sexy...they try harder.
 
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