webbykevin
Bluelighter
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Thanks war
Kevin, whilst I agree with your previous sentiments about honesty as opposed to pretense, I disagree with this. To suggest running away from a situation in such a manner is an act of keeping ones integrity is, as foots might put it, a farce. The universe is indifferent, and it will not reward you for waiting, nor does it hate. It just is. Space and time will not rush to fill a void, not to mention the difference between being void of something, and feeling like you're missing something. Emptiness and lacking are so close, yet so far apart. Would you go up to a starving family in Africa and tell them to just stop focusing on food and let the universe provide them with an abundance of it? No, you wouldn't. If you would, you're one sadistic fucker.
Anyway, I just think it's extremely painful to have your hopes raised, and I think falsely raising OP's hopes with such nonsense goes against the HR principles of BL
Hope I haven't offended you, though.
No offense taken at all, I was just basing my advice on my own personal experiences, (which are the most honest truths I have to offer) and I found that a lot of my anxieties and hang ups in life were all totally unnecessary and i had in fact wasted thousands of hours in my life worrying about things that never happened in the end.
i particularly had serious hang ups over money and was constantly stressed about it for years, then one day driving alone home on an 8 hour road trip i realized this fact, that I was still here, that the bills had always got paid, that I had raised 3 children, put them through collage, met all my responsibilities, and it all just flowed, no matter what the situation something always happened, and me worrying myself silly about it didn't make it happen any faster or any easier, so i though "what would happen if I just changed my perspective ?", if i noticed when I was getting into thought loops of worry what if I was to force myself to think about something else, to say ENOUGH ! NO MORE WORRYING !
Well what i had stumbled on although I didn't know it at the time was a path into basic mindfullness, and I found that it only took a few weeks practice until the hours of worry did start dropping away and as a consequence I had heaps more time and energy to devote to being happy and creative which funnily enough led to me having more juice in the tank available for new ideas, new projects, which in turn increased the money flow.
So I was right, as far as my own experience goes, why waste time worrying about things that are not happening NOW !
This has worked out over the last decade to be the same no matter what I apply it to, money, romance, friendship, work. When I stop TRYINg to force things and just take a few steps back and relax and watch and wait to see what happens it seems the Tao flows perfectly, but the moment I start applying effort and stress to life I find myself again swimming upstream and wasting energy.
I'm not saying that's the way it is for everyone, maybe it isn't I only have my own experience to judge from, and that's another thing psychedelics has taught me, go with the primary experience FIRST, everything else is just conjecture, someone elses idea, but what I have actually experienced and worked out for myself well that's my real truth, and it's what I have to share, I don't want to just heap cliche's and standard textbook responses to people, I try to offer an honest account of what I actually believe through direct experiential knowledge.
If something I say seems loopy then don't take me too seriously, I'm not a guru, I don't know if what I think is universal truth or a bunch of self deluded fucking rubbish, but at least it's my rubbish and it's all I have to offer, take it or leave it, I wont be offended.