SpiralusSancti
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Only thing that comes to mind is that people shouldn’t snort/smoke/pop pills or be high around small children thinking, they don’t have idea what are we doing anyway..
Providing a nurturing childhood with as little trauma as possible. When they're older, discussing drugs with them in an honest way - taking the mystery and intruige around drugs away.
Tried that.
Didn't work....
Fair. There's no way to guarantee our kids aren't going to end up addicted, just got to raise them as best we can and hope they make good decisions...and be there for them when they don't.
My wife saw my boy stoned a week ago with the addiction all my male side suffer from it worries me he 13 arounnd time i started getting stoned 15 on to crank fuck no i want this for himTo be fair, my daughter who's 24 has been through all the weed, mdma, ketamine and coke phase that all youngsters seem to do these days. But now she's pregnant, she's off everything and I think she'll stay that way.
My son, on the other hand, is 18 and a fuckin massive stoner. He's also a massive chip off the old block - which is why I fear for the worst. God forbid he ever tries opiates...
I may have heard your description before. Hell, you may have said it to me in a thread. Anyway, can you describe how stimulants affect you in regards to ASD and ADHD? Perhaps PM'ng me would be better so this thread won't steer off track. I I have both things.I recommend getting assessed for autism and ADHD as soon as you can. I got diagnosed with higher level autism after burnout (used to be lower level generally) beforehand, and now I'm on disability. We have an autism thread hanging around somewhere with everyone talking about their different experiences and also being generally very autistic including me arguing a bit more before I was mod and toned it down but a lot of random autism stuff. Someone should make an ADHD one (my ADHD isn't bad enough for me to write much out about it cause it's mostly just 'got distracted by thing then other thing then other thing).
I asked my psychiatrist to test me for ADHD in 2017 due to my weird ass response to meth and other stimulants. She wouldn't at the time due to my meth use (fair) but later did assess me when I got put on dexamphetamine for another reason and I responded how someone with long term undiagnosed ADHD would. And I told one of my therapists who visits every week he has ADHD due to things he does (inattentive vs hyperactive) and now he's getting assessed. He was like 'damn it' when I pointed out all the things he does plus being late all the time (time blindness) as well as dexamphetamine helping him plus the whole 'all my friends are neurodiverse and I grew up being the weird one' and I'm here going 'bro you're not the neurotypical friend you're the undiagnosed one and also lol weird one huh? That's new'
When I got my school reports from my mum she told me I wouldn't find any adhd stuff in there but there was a lot of inattentiveness and when she realised that was a subtype of ADHD she realised she has it herself and now agreed, my brother got tested to and is.
You can be hyperactive, inattintive predominantly, or mixed.
With ASD stress can really really impact how your autism presents so the more stressed a person becomes, particularly someone who has masked/camoflauged their autism (especially people assigned female at birth as the presentation is different but not always, plus there is a racial and socioeconomic bias in the diagnosis - poorer peoppe and people of colour often get ODD (which don't even talk with me about that is just a trauma diagnosis) or some other conduct disorder instead of a learning disabilty.
The earlier people (and children especially) get intervention for ADHD and ASD the better the outcomes. There are non stimulant options for children as well if you are concerned about that such as guanfacine and strattera.
You and your wife sit down and have a talk with him, hopefully he will listen but many teens do not.My wife saw my boy stoned a week ago with the addiction all my male side suffer from it worries me he 13 arounnd time i started getting stoned 15 on to crank fuck no i want this for him
We are gping to do do that but i know what i did when old man said if i catch you smoking i break your legs . I got picked up by a pal and got stonedYou and your wife sit down and have a talk with him, hopefully he will listen but many teens do not.
We are gping to do do that but i know what i did when old man said if i catch you smoking i break your legs . I got picked up by a pal and got stoned
You can do all of these things everyone mentioned to prevent it but you also just need to have acceptance.
I always said I'd never do heroin or hard drugs like that. And then suddenly at 19 I developed a taste for them & discovered how wonderful they were & how much they helped me. So not even 19 years of "don't do drugs" stopped me from making that decision anyway. You can't say whether it will happen to somebody honestly because we go through so many different phases through out puberty & well into adulthood. Things change.
Best thing to do is be supportive no matter what & educated yourself. Too much anti-drug popaganda out there & puritans thinking that "being clean" is the only way anyone should live, when in reality that's just some one else's subjective opinion. Drugs have been a part of human culture since the dawn of mankind & always will be. It's basically nature at this point. Even dolphins, cows & horses get on (and on purpose too).
You can do all of these things everyone mentioned to prevent it but you also just need to have acceptance.
I always said I'd never do heroin or hard drugs like that. And then suddenly at 19 I developed a taste for them & discovered how wonderful they were & how much they helped me. So not even 19 years of "don't do drugs" stopped me from making that decision anyway. You can't say whether it will happen to somebody honestly because we go through so many different phases through out puberty & well into adulthood. Things change.
Best thing to do is be supportive no matter what & educated yourself. Too much anti-drug popaganda out there & puritans thinking that "being clean" is the only way anyone should live, when in reality that's just some one else's subjective opinion. Drugs have been a part of human culture since the dawn of mankind & always will be. It's basically nature at this point. Even dolphins, cows & horses get high (and on purpose too).
My mom flat out told me she'd 'rather see me on opioids than alcohol cause she could see the difference in how each made me behave & feel.
On alcohol, I got violent, crazy, obnoxious, suicidal, etc.. On opioids, I'd get up and exercise, clean the house, have a long conversation with my mom or go for a walk.
The difference there is night & day.
So it's important to pay attention to why & what people are addicted to. Is some one addicted to opioids because it helps them function & get shit done? Or are they addicted to injecting meth & cocaine for sex fueled orgies & other self destructive behaviors? Cause that matters too. Some times you do need to step in if some one is destroying themselves. But if the person is benefiting from whatever they're using & it helps them live, then it really shouldn't even be anyone's business. Of course I'm talking about drug using adults when I say that though.
Honestly, parenting is what it comes down to too.
I'm gay, I don't have kids. But that doesn't mean I can't have an opinion on it. After all, I've been a drug addicted kid & had a mother & family of my own that had to deal with it, so one could say I have indirect experience with this kind of thing. I come from a family addicts.How old are your kids?
Of course they are probably gonna try drugs and alcohol, but you do NOT have to lie back and "accept" it or normalize it. Be a cycle breaker. Give a fuck. Try. Teach harm reduction. He is only 13. I doubt his dad is looking forward to truancy, drunk driving, jail, getting some chick pregnant, all those risks. I often wonder where my life would be if I didn't ruin relationships and opportunities cuz I CHOSE to get my developing brain fucked up.
Absolutely! LOLOpiates over alcohol any day and twice on Sundays for real
Absolutely! LOL
If I did have kids, I'd rather they be stoners & opioid users than alcoholics or tweakers, that's for damn sure. lol
I think psychedelics have their place as well for people. And even dissos.
I had a very abusive step dad growing up.I just know a healthy fear and respect for your parents is GOOD.
My husband was raised by 2 lesbians who created him with a gay man's sperm in 1983.
I was raised by my Italian Roman Catholic Grandmother and Mother who were democrats but I had a ton of conservatives in my family.
SO our daughter is getting a great balance lol. Dad is more gentle and patient and I'm more firm and no nonsense!
I just look at where we are in society and how much the quality of parenting has plummeted since the 90s....my husband's moms AND my family would never have drug paraphernalia around us or drop us off at school high AF with rainbow hair, in pajamas and a face full of piercings.
But yes, no matter what we do our children are their own people. All we can do is help them deal with their trauma and develop into a functional member of society and let them know we are there to love and lead them.