Mornin all, off to work.
Only skimmed last few pages.
Farmaz, bandw's advice about the child is ace.
And kids really DO like boundariies, I think so anyway, lots of parents would disagree, but I think they're wrong. Kids NEED boundaries, it helps them to know who they are, and their place in the scheme of things.
I'm not having a go, but your reaction was childish, like someone said...if the girl is old enough to tell you to go back to England and Mummy doesn't like you, then she's old enough to understand you when you sit down wth her and explain why she's hurt you emotionally, why she shouldn't kick people when she's frustrated, and something else I've just forgotten. You can be serious with her, but not angry....and listen to her points without getting angry, however illogical and nonsensical they might seem....
I could prob say a lot of this better, but hope it works out for you.
Anyway, gotta go, it's late for work, -5 outside (I know that nothing for you atm farmaz) and need to scrape ice off the car WITH MY BARE KNEECAPS COS THATS HOW FUCKING HARD I AM....wouldn't see the beef burger boys scraping their beamers with bare legs would ya, well would ya???? Eh???