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Facebook: Hate it or Love it?

i've never used facebook but i'm pretty sure the golden rule is to only add people as friends that you have already met

i guess i'm saying, don't expect any kind of results

if you want to make friends i suggest you check out the wide variety of forums offered here at bluelight and actively post in threads that interest you
 
I have a love/hate relationship with facebook. I like keeping in touch with my family that lives in different cities and seeing pictures of the little kids in the fam. But then I have family members (and past boyfriends) who take it too seriously. They get paranoid or offended depending on what's said or isn't said. I have seen it cause a lot more harm than good to relationships, whether romantic, family, platonic, etc. When reading something someone is saying there is the absence of body language so people interpret things differently than was intended. I've had people try to argue with me through facebook messages.
I like sharing the things I think are interesting or reading my friends/family's thoughts. I'm sure no one really cares too much about what I say though. Might as well be speaking to a brick wall so to speak.
Every few months I quit facebook for a month or two (and everyone complains that I'm weird for it), I always end up going back though. Just like a drug. ;)
All in all I think it's pretty useless and we'd all be better off without it.
 
China Rider said:
i've never used facebook but i'm pretty sure the golden rule is to only add people as friends that you have already met

i guess i'm saying, don't expect any kind of results
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why is that a golden rule? are you saying you shouldnt try to get to know someone in reallife that you met online first? or thats doomed to failure?

anyhoe, i think its interesting to keep a real facebook and a clean one for family and friends and whatnot,
(and then mixing the two :)
 
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Well, I had my facebook from 2004-ish until this past November. I deactivated it... I was tired of all these people I barely ever (and sometimes never) spoke with in my day-to-day life having such indiscriminate access to everything facebook friends are able to see and vice versa. Plus, I was constantly on that shit wasting away hours. I felt like an idiot.

So now I don't have one and I don't have any plans on reactivating it. It's nice to be disconnected from most of this social media bullshit... the only things I use now are text messages and forums like this. =D
 
I deleted my Facebook twice now. I decided to come back as an alias so that I could have more fun on FB without my IRL friends and family knowing what I am into. It's just best that way.
 
Spend too much time on it. But during Uni semester is the best place for sharing past notes, past exam papers and knowledge on subjects with my fellow students
 
SarahU said:
I deleted my Facebook twice now. I decided to come back as an alias so that I could have more fun on FB without my IRL friends and family knowing what I am into. It's just best that way.
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I have two accounts...one for "real" friends and family, the other to just fuck around on.
 
I deleted Facebook for a while because I genuinely think it makes me less happy, but I came back. I've found I'm included in a lot more social events now, I know about more things going on in my community (through groups and pages) and I've talked to some people (who I've gone on to talk to and become close to in real life). So, I still hate it, but I'm keeping it for its usefulness. I try to mitigate how much it makes me unhappy by only adding people I both talk to and like, keeping my privacy settings to 'friends only' and attempting to not check it so often.
 
Still haven't gotten around to signing up. I guess at this point I never will since I haven't had any situations where I thought to myself. "man, i wish I had facebook" or "wow, my life is really lacking and perhaps facebook would improve it"
 
Had my account deleted after seeing what people I know post about themselves. That was... sad.
 
I have my ups and downs with Facebook.

It's handy for keeping in touch with people who I wouldn't normally do without it or contacting people, but in the past I've spent far too much time sat doing nothing but staring blankly and scrolling up and down for hours. Every so often I'll find something remotely interesting but then again that often drags me through a plethora of other sites ultimately for a quick giggle or a dragged out version of the title of the link.

Definitely a useful tool if used within reason; but if you're just going to sit posting utter bollocks and read through page after page of drivel, you're pissing your time down the drain imo (Unless you enjoy doing that).
Everyone has their own opinions :^)


Chris:)
 
After having a Facebook for over three years which I was very involved in I can say that deleting it was one of the better choices I have made in my life. Way less drama and comparing oneself to others. It all just seems so vain and self absorbing. I understand that people generally like to keep in touch but for me personally cutting myself off from all previous ties was incredibly empowering. Like I can finally start fresh and rebuild myself without constantly being reminded of failures and setbacks. Nothing personal to anyone I still love them. Just our relationships were toxic for the most part.
I only posted things with purpose of creating an image for myself that really does not hold up to who I actually was. I am happy to be free of the ball and chain that Facebook and most social media seems to be. Blue light is as close as i get now only because I feel I can relate to most folks on here. And that has been rare in my experience.
 
-does friend count matter? no
-how tight are your privacy settings? everything is public except a few things
-do you only friend ppl you know IRL or happily accept randoms? depends. I'll accept randoms if a) we have a few mutual friends and they don't look creepy b) they could be good for promoting my parties c) they added me from a vegan group
-love it as a stalking tool? definitely
-use it for networking? this is the main use for it
-why do you love it/hate it?
It's great for promoting parties as well as getting to know others in the music business. Also I love posting pictures of my cat so people can look at her because she's gorgeous. Also my hamster when she was still alive. My facebook is all about parties and animals lol. Oh and vegan food!
 
dont even get me started. I dont have time to fucking type all night. But I've never seen so many idiots, suckers and lemmings in one place before UGH! People buy into the stupidest shit and believe the dumbest things. I'll give an example and see if any of you can catch whats wrong with this.
This was a MEME going around
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"The voters of the state of xxx Voted YES for straight marriage"

Whats wrong with that statement? Lets see how observant you all are :)
 
Hate it (twitter as well).

The only time I've gone to them is to get discount codes.
 
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