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Condoms make me soft

sockpuppet said:
Don't feel bad - condoms are horrible. Completely anti-sexual. It's so sad to think that there is a whole generation of people alive today who have NEVER experienced real sex as humans have had it for all our history - but instead have only fucked separated by latex. Many people like myself have never and would never use them unless it was an emergency. Total turnoff.

No one used these except in high school or with prostitutes before the Great Fear. My advice: Both go to the local public health clinic, get screened for HIV/syph/clap - don't worry about anything else, look into some real birth control or stick to sodomy, read up a bit on the REAL risks of various STDs and don't be made fearful by public health hyperbole, and fuck like humans are meant to fuck. Have fun....
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Condoms aren't anti-sexual. Myself and other bisexual and gay men I know have used them since we came of age and became sexually active when HIV/AIDS was known about, and I know bisexual and gay men who used them for anal sex even before HIV/AIDS was known about and people were getting infected in the 70s.

I also know latex fetishists both men and women of all sexualities who happen to like condoms and get turned on by them.

There are lots of ways to have safer sex and they don't all involve using condoms.

I can understand not using them for giving or getting oral sex unless you're giving oral sex to someone who is HIV+ or who has herpes, or not using them if you're in a completely monogamous relationship with someone and have been monogamous for awhile and are HIV neg and without other STDs.

I'm sure you'll deny it but there are a lot of people even straight women and hetero men who are HIV+. Also just one test that says someone's HIV neg does not mean that they're actually HIV neg.

People can have STDs like herpes/HPV and not have an outbreak at all or even know that they're infected and pass them along to other people.

There are also types of Hepatitis A, B, and C that you can get from certain sexual acts.

OP-Try different brands of condoms. There are a lot more out there than just Trojan thin condoms and Magnuns. Also do things for sex that will turn you on besides just giving her vaginal sex or anal sex, so you get very aroused and turned on and then use a condom and continue having more sex. There's also telling yourself what Panic in Paradise wrote. If you use sex toys on the woman you're with use condoms on those too.
 
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You are throwing out all of these statements as if they are fact. What exactly is the "bullshit" that younger generations are being fed? I don't understand how being fearful of disease is so off the wall. People knowingly (AND unknowingly) walk around with disease. Why wouldn't someone want to be proactive about their health? Why is one night of fun worth a possible lifetime of illness? To me, and a lot of other people, it isn't. A lot of people don't go to the doctor so they don't get tested, they could be carrying something and not even know it. It's just a silly notion to put that much faith in people as a whole. The fear isn't unjustified or unwarranted, the possibility of catching something is very real.

People should be cognizant with not only their sexual health but their health in general. I would never condone or advise someone ingesting unknown chemicals. The fact that organizations, such as Bluelight, exist reflects that a large community of people aren't just interested in ingesting any unknown chemical without discussing it or learning about it first. The same goes for other potentially hazardous activities. One does not need to live in a bubble or live in a state of constant fear to be aware and conscious of possible dangers and to take steps to avoid them.

Your age is completely irrelevant. You have no idea who I am, how old I am, what I do, and you know nothing about me. Your age does not automatically credit you as more knowledgeable than me by any stretch of the imagination.
 
Foreigner said:
The biggest problem guys have with condoms is that they haven't built an association between having one on and feeling pleasure. It just feels foreign and weird, and when their attention focuses on that they lose the erection.
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love this

just like i said, ive developed an association between the act of strapping one on, and sex itself. just looking at condoms makes me horny now. 10 years ago id mope and whine and complain - like a boy. even still sometimes it feels "foreign" but ive developed a few mental tricks to get over it.

also: BIRTH CONTROL AND PROTECTED SEX ARE MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE CONCEPTS! Condoms are NOT birth control, and BC in no way shape or form has an association with protected sex. I used to work in an STD clinic and believe me, Ive seen so many shocked faces who have come to this realization. I cant believe people are associating these two still. People have such brazen attitudes for this sort of thing until they walk into the clinic covered in sores or worse...

Live your life as you like - but I'm probably old enough to be your dad, have had more dirty sex with sketchy people than most - including with people who had full blown AIDS - have only worn a handful of condoms in my life, and have never caught a thing. I'll enjoy my real sex and save my fear for things that really are dangerous - like taking drugs or riding in cars.
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...and most of them sounded a lot like this guy. Bragging about having unprotected sex with people with AIDS is probably one of the most ridiculous things Ive ever heard. To have such a callous approach to the collective health of the human species is to suggest you are probably about the worst sexual partner someone could have. I once again conclude that most people's bodies just keep on growing, while their soul decides its had enough at around 12 or so years of age.
 
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rm-rf said:
i had this problem as a teenager, i totally know how you feel

for me, it took me a while but i figured a few things out

1) i actually had higher standards than i believed. i was actually not that strongly attracted to the women i was having protected sex with, and was just doing so because i believed "i was supposed to". are you sure youre really sexually attracted to this person, or just fucking because her body is both female and available? its not a matter of her being acceptable as "hot" or not, its a matter of how you as an individual match up with her energy and chemistry.
2) foreplay is necessary for men and women to achieve their maximum sexual prowess. without adequate foreplay, everything really just boils down to a functional quickie. keep the foreplay up, sheel cum harder and youre attentions will stay focused longer.
3) sex does not have to conclude with a man cumming. fuck her until she is satisfied, and preserve your orgasm. lay around, have some pillow talk, smoke a bowl, whatever, pass some time. after a while, your body will remind you of its biological drives, and youll be ready again. fuck her until she is satisfied. repeat this process until you got off. if it takes a while, well, you have a very satisfied woman on your hands.
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Fucking awesome post. I wish I had read it - and taken it to heart - when I was younger.
 
i cant say i know she is clean but im pretty sure. were more on them for the pregnancy scare. i always pulled out with my ex but id hate to be the asshole who says that and gets someone pregnant

attempting again tonight!
 
1. Stop jerking off. This happened to me and I thought it was the conddoms; it isn't. Go two weeks and see it return.
2. Don't go ultra thin, they're too tight.
 
victory!
the magnums were a lot better, like they dont even compare. many orgasms were had by all
 
I wish i'd never in my life had sex without a condom, I used to think "oh yeah this is great" now I just think "ugh.. this could be so much better.." Dangerous thinking. Anyone out there who has never had sex without a condom in their life, my advice never EVER try it without one.
 
^ For real? Are you saying that "ugh... this could be so much better.." is in regard to using a condom? but you're telling everyone not to do it?

Whats wrong with getting a steady partner and using a different form of birth control? My advice is for every one out there to try sex without a condom if you can do it safely. And enjoy it as often as you can with a partner you can trust and use whatever other form of birth control you can. I agree it is sooo much better.

And to the OP I'm glad you found something that works for you!
 
I hated condoms too.... Two kids later and I'm
Ripping my hair out of my head.
 
Lol. Touche

Maybe my sperm is lazy and misguided like me. On the other hand it could be me ripping my hair out of my head in a few years if I decide I want to have kids.

Obviously the pill isnt %100 percent effective but if used correctly its pretty good. I would say the pill plus one other method is probably the way to go. Someone was advocating the use of temperature based ovulation prediction on here a while back it sounds like a less disruptive method than the pill but I'm yet to convince my partner to try it.
 
rm-rf said:
i had this problem as a teenager, i totally know how you feel

for me, it took me a while but i figured a few things out

1) i actually had higher standards than i believed. i was actually not that strongly attracted to the women i was having protected sex with, and was just doing so because i believed "i was supposed to". are you sure youre really sexually attracted to this person, or just fucking because her body is both female and available? its not a matter of her being acceptable as "hot" or not, its a matter of how you as an individual match up with her energy and chemistry.
2) foreplay is necessary for men and women to achieve their maximum sexual prowess. without adequate foreplay, everything really just boils down to a functional quickie. keep the foreplay up, sheel cum harder and youre attentions will stay focused longer.
3) sex does not have to conclude with a man cumming. fuck her until she is satisfied, and preserve your orgasm. lay around, have some pillow talk, smoke a bowl, whatever, pass some time. after a while, your body will remind you of its biological drives, and youll be ready again. fuck her until she is satisfied. repeat this process until you got off. if it takes a while, well, you have a very satisfied woman on your hands.
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qft
 
justsayknow said:
^ For real? Are you saying that "ugh... this could be so much better.." is in regard to using a condom? but you're telling everyone not to do it?

Whats wrong with getting a steady partner and using a different form of birth control? My advice is for every one out there to try sex without a condom if you can do it safely. And enjoy it as often as you can with a partner you can trust and use whatever other form of birth control you can. I agree it is sooo much better.

And to the OP I'm glad you found something that works for you!
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Yeah because with a condom it's safer and you don't get full of leaky disgustingness dripping out of you afterwards, and if you'd never done it without one, you enjoy it to the fullest because you don't know what you're missing. Also birth control doesn't protect against STDs and contrary to popular belief you can actually catch something from a steady partner. I know a girl who had only ever had sex with her fiancé and contracted HIV.
 
Libby said:
Yeah because with a condom it's safer and you don't get full of leaky disgustingness dripping out of you afterwards, and if you'd never done it without one, you enjoy it to the fullest because you don't know what you're missing. Also birth control doesn't protect against STDs and contrary to popular belief you can actually catch something from a steady partner. I know a girl who had only ever had sex with her fiancé and contracted HIV.
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Sounds like her fiance had something sexually transmittable,
Unless you are going along the immaculate conception thing where a std is magically sent to
certain fiance's.
 
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