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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

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I believe people who have symmetrical features are more likely to find attraction.
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I get freaked out when I see a couple who look more like brother and sister, especially when I find out they are. The world is a strange place.
 
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hi everybody, STFU :)

i'm going to leave all the previous stuff here, but if it gets any worse, posts will be deleted and people will be warned.

what i see here is that shnouz and endlesseulogy had a disagreement. now i don't give a fuck about who's wrong or right, or even if that's even possible. but i do think it's absolutely pointless for people to fling insults at each other - and the immaturity displayed by some who seem to just want to get on one person's side in the argument will not be tolerated.

now, keep it to the private messages please.
 
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Magpi I keep telling you its a bad idea *hugs*.

Don't sucombe to their sexy accents. Its just a trap to lure you in and make you feel all warm and fuzzy then BAM off they go to find some other helpless sap. Backpackers=BAD
 
Shnouzerpuff said:
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"yes I am just trying to look cool and speak for everyone"

Is that the answer you were looking for?

While I cannot speak for anyone but myself, you are bringing in conversational topics that have nothing to do with the thread topic.

Calling people who disagree with you sheep and defending any of your views with cryptic words along the lines of "well you must understand before you know".

For someone with such an "open-mind" you seem to have difficulty grasping the idea of any opinion that differs from yours - one which has no doubt been influenced from what you advertise as lengthy psyclobin use.

I "don't like what you have to say" because I have heard it a thousand times before. By the way, you are jumping to some interesting conclusions about my upbringing.

You say "talk sense" but I honestly do not think it is possible between us.

Perhaps because I am a brainwashed robot.

But probably because you are a psychedelic casualty.
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There is actually a mathmatical equation for beauty. I remember seeing a website at some stage that used it to calculate the "perfect face" for both man and woman.

Not an astounding beauty as such, just something that was as close to universally attractive as possible.

So I guess some people just genetically luck out in regards to getting something similar.
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This is the last thing im going to say about this.. But dude, ill say it again and hopefully this time it will sink in.. Honestly, its not what you are saying that gets me, its how you are saying it, being a smart-ass about it and treating me as a small infant isnt going to get you anywhere if you want to debate with someone. Just quit the attitude. If you are a smart-ass with me, i will be a smart-ass back and we get nowhere

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Why does it seem to be that any time I find someone who I connect with there is always something else that gets in the way.

Current situation met a girl a while ago, who I have an absolute ball with, lots of fun to be around and very cute in my opinion. Anyway I knew she was going overseas for some time now but that time has almost come (3 weeks to go)

If only I had some money I think I'd be heading overseas as well.

Oh why oh Why does this shit alway happen to me.

Looks like its back to the drawing board
 
Can someone answer this question ...

Why are there certain people who latch onto anyone and everyone and find love and everlasting long meaningful blah relationships with everyone they meet?

And people who criticize everything and hinder it all?

Where is the middle ground?
 
gillywin, what an appropriate question for something i've been pondering a lot recently.

I think in answer to part a, people who latch onto anything really are lacking a part of themselves, self-awareness or just the confidence to be alone.

most people like this i find view being alone as lonely, rathe r than valuing and enjoying time spent on their own.

These people will usually go for the "content" (and in worst cases even less than) people. By content, I refer to people who prima facie are generally compatible, but not really their ideal mate - due to lack of things in common, different levels of awareness/intelligence....different ways of viewing things... etc etc.

Also i think that they have "meaningful" and "everlasting" r/ships is a misconception - or more so that these r/ships may well be everlasting, but in many cases shouldn't be, but are held onto as a crutch rather than a functional partnership. It is just easier for them to be with people who challenge them less, and even easier to then stay with them.:\

Though i don't subscribe to this point of view - i can DEFINITELY understand the motives behind it.

Part b.

The cynics who hinder I feel are constantly searching for the "happy". The happy is your ultimate partner - the person who you feel connected to, are completely compatible, but convexly, challenge you more than most other people, and indeed can be extremely difficult to form a stable f/ship or r/ship with.

I think i'd put myself in this category - as certain elements of my personality definitely hinder me from being forthcoming with telling people how i really feel about them.

I think people like me refuse to settle for second best, and though may be willing to date a "content" to learn more about others and themselves, will rarely or only temporarily entertain the fantasy that they will have a lasting commitment to this person.

These are people who are willing to go that extra bit further to make a difficult r/ship work - but unfortunately often their own cynicism and also the fact that they choose volatile r/ships can be their undoing - and they end up losing the person. :(

Apologies for the pop psychology - i must confess it is a bit of a fetish of mine...:p;)

hope it made sense :)
 
It made perfect sense Mary, good post. I agree with all you said.

the person who you feel connected to, are completely compatible, but convexly, challenge you more than most other people,
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That's so true. Recently I was in a bit of a bind, thinking 'relationship' between two chicks. I realised that one challenged me alot, wasn't as similar as me in terms of interests and the other was right on my wavelength, into the same things. The result? There didn't feel to be that spark with the second one... too similar.

The first one i'm still seeing and still enjoying. We argue over stupid shit alot, but thats cos we both LIKE to argue. Overall, shit feels very real between us but to get to this point I had to endure alot of game playing.

It's like this guys...

When two people are used to being in control the challenge is huge. Talk about a power struggle. I found myself slipping back into wussy behaviour I was not proud of but I had the awareness to snap myself out of it and it is for this reason that i've got where I am now.

The challenge always keeps you interested, especially when theres something BEHIND that challenge.

Adikkal
 
Mary Poppins said:
gillywin, what an appropriate question for something i've been pondering a lot recently.

I think in answer to part a, people who latch onto anything really are lacking a part of themselves, self-awareness or just the confidence to be alone.

most people like this i find view being alone as lonely, rathe r than valuing and enjoying time spent on their own.

These people will usually go for the "content" (and in worst cases even less than) people. By content, I refer to people who prima facie are generally compatible, but not really their ideal mate - due to lack of things in common, different levels of awareness/intelligence....different ways of viewing things... etc etc.

Also i think that they have "meaningful" and "everlasting" r/ships is a misconception - or more so that these r/ships may well be everlasting, but in many cases shouldn't be, but are held onto as a crutch rather than a functional partnership. It is just easier for them to be with people who challenge them less, and even easier to then stay with them.:\

Though i don't subscribe to this point of view - i can DEFINITELY understand the motives behind it.

Part b.

The cynics who hinder I feel are constantly searching for the "happy". The happy is your ultimate partner - the person who you feel connected to, are completely compatible, but convexly, challenge you more than most other people, and indeed can be extremely difficult to form a stable f/ship or r/ship with.

I think i'd put myself in this category - as certain elements of my personality definitely hinder me from being forthcoming with telling people how i really feel about them.

I think people like me refuse to settle for second best, and though may be willing to date a "content" to learn more about others and themselves, will rarely or only temporarily entertain the fantasy that they will have a lasting commitment to this person.

These are people who are willing to go that extra bit further to make a difficult r/ship work - but unfortunately often their own cynicism and also the fact that they choose volatile r/ships can be their undoing - and they end up losing the person. :(

Apologies for the pop psychology - i must confess it is a bit of a fetish of mine...:p;)

hope it made sense :)
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Very good post Mary! I can safely say that I used to be one of those lonely people relying on a relationship for a sense of security. I have now been single for over two years and in that time I have learnt how to enjoy being by myself and dealing with these feelings. There have been times where I have been unsure of what i want in terms of a relationship, but i know when the time is right i will know for sure. In that time I have seen people casually and ive realised thats all I want at this point in time. Sometimes I do see myself taking shit seriously, but recently I have taken the time to think about it and realise....... well....... I just wanna have fun ;) no strings attached and all that bullshit. Attachment only seems to cause heart-ache and confusion. So if anyone is interested....... I have a bulberator and plenty of free time ;)

"I’ve always been a firm believer that casual sex is a good thing. There is too much fun to be derived from it for it to be anything but good."

"People eat, people laugh, people cry, people fuck, get over it - and go about your day!"

-Bill Hicks-
 
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smart-e said:
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Magpi I keep telling you its a bad idea *hugs*.

Don't sucombe to their sexy accents. Its just a trap to lure you in and make you feel all warm and fuzzy then BAM off they go to find some other helpless sap. Backpackers=BAD
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but i cant help it
specialy when tey flash there lucky charms at you

damit
 
good
going nutz waitng on job offer
god damit wish that would tell me if i got it or not


and the girls are driving me nuts
why is it that when you in the proses of a break up the ex's who did you wrong com eout of the wood work to fuck with your head more
the last 2 ex's both contacted me in the last week one looking to hook up the other acting like nothing happend and she didnt break my hart and telling me that she really misses me

go d damit
 
Because they can sense when a man is vulnerable! It's their 7th sense. The one after intuition and before mind reading.

BTW, I cannot take you seriously until you get an avatar ;) :p
 
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