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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

If you took out the status reports and one line whinge posts, you'd have enough philosophical ranting in this thread to write a text book.
 
MP... very insightful post!! It's funny, in most things in life, I see people falling along a continuum from one extreme to another. But when it comes to r'ships, if I look at all my friends (and most people I know), they seem to fit into either of those categories, with no real exceptions. I know I'm definitely of the latter.
 
Life is funny.

After finally meeting up with an ex co-worker for a drink tonight I think we both realised just how stupid we had been over the past year.

Flirtatious SMS messages back and forth over a period of 12 months with neither of us wanting to make a real move it took her to leave the country for us to get together.


Needless to say we got on fantastic. It was meant to be a social catch-up but it turned out to be a bonafide date.

Stupid me managed to have known a top chick who dug all kinds of traditionally nerdy things I liked such as...

Shwarzenegger movies
Guns N Roses
Star Wars
Red Dwarf
Surfing

Yet I managed to realise it all within 24 hours of her leaving for the USA.


Ah well. Such is life. on and on and on and on and on...

Anyone else had any notable regrets?
 
anyone have any notable regrets?

fuck. yes. ;)

Probably [and this sounds tres lame and almost stalkerish] one of the guys who I quite honestly think I was most connected to, I dated when I was about 15, and I cheated on him with someone who I knew deep down I didn't like as much, but I felt constricted at the time.

I know I have changed oodles since I was 15, but this guy still sticks in my head as someone who was almost perfectly suited to me, and I often fantasize about looking him up or something :\

Just to either perpetuate or dispell the fantasy I guess :)
 
He he he Shnouz, good to see it worked out to your advantage :)
But at the same time, so not your advantage seeing as she's off to another country... ah well.

My only regrets in the past is wasting too much time moping about things I couldn't change. Allowing other people to affect my emotions to the point where I wasn't getting over stuff til like 6 months after. And getting myself into these depressive states as a result.

I used to have regrets about guys I didn't give it a go with, but I'm over that because I have changed so much in a short time period and continue to do so that I don't think anyone that liked me a year ago would see me as the same person now.

So yeahh... I try not to have regrets anymore, only makes me melancholy. And there are so many people out there for everyone! :D
 
MP -
Interesting you write that because I used to have someone who I actually thought about in a very similar way.

Well about a month ago I got a msg out of the blue from her. It had been about 5 or so years.

Since then we have caught up for a coffee and are planning to go out and shoot some pool next week. What is great about this is that there is a sense of closure about the entire thing. We have both changed heaps since back in "the day" but can still get along for a chat and a laugh.

So I would be maybe tempted to say "go for it". I no longer really sit there thinking "what if?" with this girl from the past and instead I have a pretty cool new friend.



I only realised the magnitude of writing "anyone got any regrets?" in a Singles Thread as I was going to sleep... =D
 
^ hehee indeed - can of worms much? ;)

that is cool to hear schnouzerpuff...and now I think if i do get a "lead" so to speak on how to look this guy up (i have a feeling he may not even live in Brisbane anymore) I think i'll go for it :)

Exactly as you said, it's not like I'm thinking "omg this was my mr. right we are going to get married if we re-meet" but I can't help thinking how well we used to get on, even back then, and in a way, I think he's the kind of person that i'd get on even better with now that I've matured a bit.

In a semi-aside - is quite funny because the guy I cheated on him with, I sometimes see around, but always avoid (we dated for about 6 months and it was fairly "tumultuous" - him being a pathological liar and all) but then out of the blue one night I was out at a club, and we were both there, both pretty intoxicated, and he basically came up and started telling everyone at our table how i'd "broken his heart" and how I hate him now etc. etc. etc. (not really how i remember it but oh well :\:))

This was so bizarre for me because of the fact that I often do think about people from this era of my life, as I've said, and was astounded that I even had this impact on someone, and that they would even think about/remember me - particuarly this guy who really is a bit cool for school now. I was absolutely flabbergasted that he would even admit to people that we dated, as to me now I think of him as so much "cooler" and better looking than myself.....let alone getting cut about the fact that we are no longer friends. It was 5 years ago! lol

So I guess you never know how much you affect other people...:)
Yay for success stories! :)
 
I very rarely keep in contact or see any of my ex-girlfriends. Its rather logisically impossible as they are all living inter-state or overseas. My last girlfriend who i broke up with over 2 years ago is currently working in the United States and after what happened between us i would prefer to never talk to her again. It was one of those got home from work to find your girlfriend fucking another guy things! I just turned my back and walked away and wandered the streets for a night smoking joints. Get there the next day and she was gone, never saw her again. Its strange because it seemed asthough everything was fine. I was studying at night, working 7-5 in a juice bar just to provide for this person as she was unempolyed for most of our relationship. It just goes to show sometimes it isnt worth caring about certain people. I have no regrets though, just next time i need to be more cautious.

Been doing alot of thinking about it lately after recent episodes of confusion and have realised its not time for me yet. I still havnt gotten over the duplicity of my last relationship, im nearly there, but i still feel the need to explore. Ive realised id much rather take my time and give my next partner something to write home about plus maybe, just maybe, get something in return. :D
 
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