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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

Well then, see you out sometime then Apples. ;)
Gatecrasher was one big mooshed up blur for me, so I hear you on that rezzzpect Kit.
Alcohol is the 8th manmade wonder of the world, it increaseth the libido, it detracteth from the standards, in fact, its probably one of the most effective means ever devised for greasing the rusty cogs of human interaction with intent to get down & get hell fuckin dirty! Well maybe that might just be me, but once you get me on meth & drinking (my standard 'night out' combo) then its quite likely that I get pretty FUCKING horny.
I just realised I've slipped back into the habit of making every second bloody post in this thread, and so, remembering Apple's first words to me, I'm going to "get the fuck out of the singles thread". ;)
Time to go and stir some other bluelighters. ;)
Piece!
-plaz out-
 
Originally posted by plazma:
Part of the reasoning behind why YOU can find randoms to kiss so easily is because you're (a) female (b) attractive & (b) you have great boobs. ;)
Oh... WHERD to all four points. (And yes, there are four).
I totally understand what Plaz is talking about here, especially if you're out with friends who are pilling and have hooked up or have significant others. Trust me, you're not incompetent.
What you've got to be careful of is getting it into your mind that you *have* to kiss someone. When your brain is a big pile of mush, it's easy to set it a goal of something like that and it'll just go off on autopilot until the goal is completed. I find it helps to set a time, say T+ 2 hours and if I haven't by then, fug it, go home and call my fuckbuddy the next day.
Some of my biggest benders have been exactly that, not because I really felt like I wanted to be up for (haha) 36 hours straight but because I went from party to party trying to "end" the night. Mind you, the last time this happened, the night finally ended after three big parties and lots of chemicals when I met this really, really cool chick who still stands out as one of the nicest people I've met in partyland. Shame I was too incoherent by that time to put a sentence together, but I finally got a kiss (and number) and so felt I could go home.
I find this "trap" is the absolute worst part about taking pills cause it can make you quite desperate. So yeah, be careful, a pilled-up brain can be very determined.
 
just in case noones said i, if someone loves you, then they'll accept the way you are and will themselves change to accomodate for anything you do. theres no way you can get away from anything without being influenced by it, and taking it in your stride is not an option.
and im single
i hate it >=|
[ 16 November 2002: Message edited by: MoeBro ]
 
(this discussion is pretty much over but I just wanted to say a few things)
SDB: The messy thing was just a rhetorical situation. Messiness is really not an issue for me at all...you should see my room, car, general state of affairs. In fact plaz and apollo bitched for quite a while about the disgusting state of my car today and then ended up cleaning it. Super result!
plaz: I agree with you when you say someones habits should not stop you from being with them but when a couple is just starting to date they undergo a pretty harsh quality control exam. ;) It's the stage when you don't know a person and can only judge them from outward appearances (such as what they do and say). Smoking can be a bad first impression which stops someone from wanting to get to know that person. (Although more often then not, smokers have an advantage over the non-smokers in that department with the classic line, 'Do you have a lighter?' :D Easy conversation starter.) And besides, when people really like someone, little annoyances are glossed over. Oh and now we have 'go-go mobile' for when we're the third wheel, what the fuck are we gonna say for fifth wheel?
 
Originally posted by * Oli *:
Lol at Doh and Daimo's 'tag your it game :P'
on the topic of changing someone...i tried to change someone for seven years...and all i got out of it was lonliness
[ 16 November 2002: Message edited by: * Oli * ]

:(
i dunno, is it really true that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?
i've been trying to change somebody for the last 8 months... and its working sorta okay... but the thing i realise is that maybe there wasn't that much wrong with the person i started with in the beginning, and maybe the changes i was looking for in them weren't necessary after all...
maybe... but the change is still a'cummin, and its not gonna stop for a while yet...
YE-HAA!
cohaa
 
I don't know about all this serious talk. I liked it more when it used to be all laid back and chilled here.
Not that I'm trying to change you guys or anything.
 
OK... here's a hypothetical for you all, just while we're in "serious mode"...
If you meet osmeone who floats your boat (so to speak,) and you feel that you possibly float theirs also, what do you do? DO you just come straight out and tell them? Or hint at it? ANd if you do tell them, is it face to face? On the phone? Over the internet?
Just curious to see if i'm normal or not... ;)
 
Originally posted by *Cosmic Mist*:
OK... here's a hypothetical for you all, just while we're in "serious mode"...
If you meet osmeone who floats your boat (so to speak,) and you feel that you possibly float theirs also, what do you do? DO you just come straight out and tell them? Or hint at it? ANd if you do tell them, is it face to face? On the phone? Over the internet?
Just curious to see if i'm normal or not... ;)

I think the idea is to establish a point where you both KNOW you like each other in some sort of romantic fashion, but doing so without telling each other explicitly (because let's face it, people are shy and unless there's a shit load of booze involved it's never gonna happen).
The flirtatious sms conversation is perfect for this! You have some sort of initial meeting.. you get their number, you have the flirty sms conversation and then you meet them again, by which time it's been established that you both like each other without anyone having to come out and directly say it; setting you up so you can make some sort of move on the person during the second or subsequent meetings that you can be fairly sure won't be rebuffed.
I think coming out and saying it directly from the get go is too full-on. You need to go through a process of escalation that starts off as fairly harmless, but gradually ratchets it up. That way both parties can see what's coming a mile off and they have time to acclimatise and get used to the idea, and give them ample opportunity to back out if they want to without it leading to major embarrassment.
 
if the feelings are mutual and i know the person is not one to get freaked out; i'd just come clean with it.
cant be fucked anymore :\
 
Actually I agree wholeheartedly with Vurt on this one, FFS if you like someone, and you think they like you too, then tell them. If you're a little worried its not quite reciprocated, then try it in a jokey tone, then you can always pretend you weren't QUITE serious.
-plaz out-
 
hmmm this coming from experience...
'pussy footing' around the way you really feel about someone is hell frustrating...
but when everything finally happens, and you find out that person feels the same way, it ends up being so passionate due to all of the build up :)
I dunno tho, it would have saved me a lot of heartache just to come right out to him!!
 
Originally posted by *Cosmic Mist*:
If you meet osmeone who floats your boat (so to speak,) and you feel that you possibly float theirs also, what do you do? DO you just come straight out and tell them? Or hint at it? ANd if you do tell them, is it face to face? On the phone? Over the internet?
Okay, here's what I do.
Usually someone I'm interested in, I meet through a mutual friend. I get the mutual friend to give me his/her phone number. I then get my friend who works at the Telstra exchange to get me their address. In the following weeks I'll follow this person around without their knowing, leaving random calling cards (post it notes), letters of undying love (written in blood) and finally death threats (in a parcel with a dead rat) if these feelings don't turn out to be mutual.
Sllip has a point, it's not always fun when this thread's too serious. :)
PS. Sadly there are people who actually use the above mentioned techniques.
 
Being changed hmm yeah I lived with a girl for 2.5 years and she changed me.
But I bounced back :)
via depression more ex's and various other shinadigans
2 years to the day or close to it. i remember finnishing my exam walking out of the building thinking hmm yeah I think there is one more thing to do and I'm free.
So in my drunken celebrations I fucked up big time. Broke up with her drunk on phone.
Ex: what are you doing
Me: I'm at my fav cheep resurant getting pissed since I finnished my exams
btw I don't think I sounded to keen to talk to her
Ex: Whats wrong honney
Me: Ummmm nothing.
Ex: Tell me..
Me: Ok I was going to break up with you when I came down to sydney to see you this weekend.
I felt pretty bad for breaking it off that way and I guess I still do.
oh yeah I think I changed her but for the better I think so I guess you can change people if it is for the better. that sounds pretty shallow but there are circumstances that trying to change your partner is better off but these are things like trying to make them more motivated and to socialize more ect ect not habbitual things that are just plain ol petty
mind you I have allways said I would stop smoking pot for a GF. I just wish she would come along and make me quit before I get even more depressed unfit and unmotivated and the rest of it. Well if I had a gf there would be a few more things I could do anyhow.
Sad thing is I don't want a full on GF atm or give up pot hehe
Ahhh here comes summer. If there isn't any shinadigans it better be of my own decision :)
 
I came into bluelight hoping for somesort of inspiration, but nothing seems to be working today. I guess everyone has their off days, right?
So i'm not going to sulk too much, just sit and think. In thinking, i may come to some sort of conclusion. It may not be the correct one, but it will be somehting at least. Then i can maybe sleep. Or something.
I hate being lonely, it suck a very large amount of arse. Hugs are brilliant. I think i need a hug. I guess this will have to do for now:
*hugs*
 
Originally posted by *Cosmic Mist*:
OK... here's a hypothetical for you all, just while we're in "serious mode"...
If you meet osmeone who floats your boat (so to speak,) and you feel that you possibly float theirs also, what do you do? DO you just come straight out and tell them? Or hint at it? ANd if you do tell them, is it face to face? On the phone? Over the internet?
Just curious to see if i'm normal or not... ;)

i think u should go for it after u do some initial flirting in whatever way to see if the other person is interested :) *hugs* :D
 
**((bulk hugs))** for cosmic mist.
the answer to your hypothetical is......
'you should give me your phone number, i'd like to take you out for coffee sometime.'
if the answer is, i'd like that, then the feeling is mutual, if the answer is non-commital, or negative, then you know it's not, and you haven't lost a thing :) .
as for changing, i've changed _because_ of someone, but never _for_ someone, if that makes sense. if you can influence someone due to who you are, and the time you spend together, it's all well and good, but don't set out to mould them into 'super partner' (tm). it'll never work, and you'll regret it later, and if you're unlucky, they'll hate you for it.
 
Hey not on a public message board ;)
not with all these strangers watching :P
[ 18 November 2002: Message edited by: Macksta ]
EDIT -
Oh ok, ;)
Her name is Tash, she's 18, I met her at Sublime..
Im only 23 yrs old and was thus too trusting and naive to rebuff her animalistic predatory advances.
I... I... I feel so violated..
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[ 18 November 2002: Message edited by: Macksta ]
 
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